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I think I am an appropriate person to answer your questions, My son was very shy when he was 2-4 years old. He has been educated in IS all throughout.
The 1st noticeable change happened when he was around 4, by some relatives who met him only a few times a year. He changed from completely isolated himself in a corner, avoid eye contact with anyone, to willing to speak up and chat. My relatives asked me which kindergarten he attended. I think as the school encouraged every kid to speak up, and as he gained confidence, he started to speak up.
During primary, privately, he told me 我都係怕羞底. It means he preferred to stay quiet, but if it was necessary, he would express his opinion. He still needs much time to blend in in a new social circle. During his lower secondary, teachers comments from some subjects were still " quiet in class, should participate more in discussions". It happened with subjects that he had less confidence, and less interest. As many students participated actively in class discussions, mostly girls 搶住答及言之有物(as many of them are super smart), my boy suffered by getting not good enough grades.
He underwent any phase of change at upper secondary. I think there are mainly 2 reasons. 1. He really needed to catch the attention and impress his subject teachers to get better grades. 2. He needed to get good impressions from girls. I noticed from his discussions with teachers and peers that his comments are usually not long, but precise and concise, to the points. He would enter the discussion at appropriate time, and stopped arguing appropriately too.
私底下他仍是宅男. But "if necessary", he would give his opinion, express himself clearly. His university interviews all went on very well, showing that he could express himself well and impress the interviewers with his points. I am glad that IS has steered him in a good direction, though he had suffered and learnt it in quite a hard way.
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