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babaxmama

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vinik

生兩個或以上當然會分薄資源, 但佢地可以一齊成長, 一齊學習, 呢點係獨生子女所缺乏既。生兩個係為o左小孩既將來, 我而家有兩個女雖然係好辛苦, 但係都好開心, 每日放工返屋企見到佢地嘻嘻哈哈乜野煩惱都暫時忘記了! 我有朋友生o左4個(全部相隔唔超過兩年), 就真係勁佩服喇!!!!

breadbb

聽完你地咁講我都有dd心思思想生多個~

hksunshine

回復 maggiemai77 的帖子


yeah i agree it is case by case and needs to see the actual situation.  Everyone has his/her choice.

But my view is from the kids perspective it would be better if they could have a companion in their grow up journey so that they can share, talk and love each other.  

Patpatmom

各人對生幾多個都會有唔同睇法，但若以經濟，時間，心思等等而論，絕對唔係需要 x 2 的。

maggiemai77

回復 Chickee 的帖子

i have the exact thoughts as you..... to have one more kid so that he will not be alone after we are not here..... that might be the only reason i will have the second kid.... but think from another aspect, if i have more time and resources for him, he might have better opportunity to be a "good" person (financial and personality wise), he will have lots of friends and his own family like wife and kids... he will not be lonely (although possible to be alone)..... additionally, who does not come alone and leave alone in our lives..  .. i think this is a sentimental topic, but the decision is toooooo big..... i truly hope everyone should consider it thoroughly before they make the decision......

sppchocho

原帖由 sbux 於 12-10-30 發表
就算我係黃百萬，一個就有一百萬用，兩個就每人得五十萬，呢個係事實無得講。但建立家庭根本唔可以用錢去衡 ...

同意 本身係獨生子女嘅朋友 從來冇聽過佢地話萬千寵愛在一身好開心 只係話細個得一個好悶

sppchocho

同你一樣 其實唔特別鐘意小朋友 一係唔生 一係生兩個 湊兩個一定辛苦過湊一個 不過值得嘅

Chickee

我有兩個小朋友, 我都掙扎好耐先決定要第二個。我考慮既係, 將來我地兩公婆百年歸老, 大仔係呢個世界就唔會再有一個同佢血肉相連既親人, 我覺得佢會好可憐, 好孤單。

生兩個, 老實講, 照顧佢地, 我係超超超辛苦, 完全無自己私人時間, 但見到佢地咁close, 又好跟好愛我, 我一放工兩個小朋友就爭住衝黎同我開門, 果種開心, 我又覺得我辛苦得好值得。

dell-bk

回復 maggiemai77 的帖子

冇人可以保證生幾多個就一定好，生完仲要教，教又唔一定聽。將來成為咩人有好多因素…
不過站在你老公阿哥立場，佢仲有個細佬可以幫到佢...

如果大家諗緊生唔生多個時覺得會有一個成為負累，咁就真係唔好生比較好...
就算生一個都有可能成為你自己負累啊﹗

shevachevy

我生左一個, 本身對生多個定唔生係neutral, 但我老公勁反對, 所以都應該收得工~
一個有一個好, 兩, 三個又各有好處, 但我覺得係唔同階段, 大個左可能真係會多兄弟姐妹好d, 細個時當然係分薄資源, 我細個時都會覺得有細佬妹幾煩, 而家3個人又覺得ok, 打牌都可以即時夠腳, 照顧阿爸阿媽又多d人分擔~

olivia511

再講我個女痴身到爆, 我係呢個月佢開始二歲我先可以係佢未訓前沖到涼, 呢兩年做五、六、日媽媽都叫救命, 我真係冇勇氣再由頭挨多兩年~  再黎多個就要請工人, 每日放工對兩個, 我真係估我會晚晚發癲!

olivia511

我都明得阿女一個, 我兩公婆老左可能佢壓力大D, 不過我暫時諗既係, 養佢一個, 我期望到我五十歲就供晒樓, 供完佢讀書, 我都仲有十年糧可以save下for自己退休吧, 如果係兩個, 經濟上可能好緊.....份糧仲有幾多可以留俾自己? 仲有得一個, 而家層樓都可以留俾佢, 生多個, 到時佢地爭唔爭都好, 都係唔好分~

chanwendy

我有兩個小朋友, 基本上我覺得除了打理學業上的事情係用多咗時間外, 其他覺得冇太大分別咋喎, 加上佢地兩個會自己玩, 我反而多咗私人時間添.  學業上自小培養自動波, 即使大女而家小一, 我都唔需要花太多時間做學業跟進.

maggiemai77

回復 hksunshine 的帖子

everything has two sides... two kids is not "must better than" 1 kid in all ways!!!!! i have two sisters, but i was not happy in my childhood... because my personality needs lots of safety and confidence from my family... however, my mum is bias to my two sisters..... i had very bad experiences about that... of course, after so many years, i understand she did not mean to give me that bad experiences and feelings... my relationship with my mum is much better now.... but i have to say, everyone should look into their actual situation to decide if they should have two instead of 1....these factors include your financials, your personality, your husband's personality, your time and your expectation to your kids, etc ... it is a decision for your life and your kid's life.... do not be so sentimental....

maggiemai77

回復 小兔咕 的帖子

我覺得吾一定，我老公個所謂啊哥，走左老7年無翻來探過佢地，連個兩個女都無理過，仲成日問我老公借錢，真系無兄弟好過有兄弟！！

marcuscyrus

我兩個相差兩年，有時都諗，如果只得哥哥一個，我可以提供到多d resources比佢，但多一個細佬o既生活，就唔係$可以買得到，好在佢地兩兄弟相處得好好，時間上減少我不少負擔

hksunshine

this is a good post !

2 is better than 1 in terms of kids growth and development

jan80

回復 babaxmama 的帖子

我本身唔係獨生, 但我C6係獨子, 當聽佢講起童年時我總係覺得佢好孤獨, 屋企無人同佢玩, 去公園玩時又比人地D兄弟虾, 相比我有兄妹, 我既童年真係開心好多, 3個响屋企都可以玩一餐, 咩都可以玩, 所以我決定一係唔生, 一生就要生2個. 雖然長大之後各自都有家庭, 但同兄妹回想兒時趣事時都覺得好開心.
時間, 金錢, 一定會分薄, 生一個係將所有既比哂佢, 但咁樣對佢係咪最好呢?

kerkermui

當個大嘅激到你cc下，個細嘅就會嚟氹返你！