練琴好勞氣

Cindyandy

我囡日日練琴都要我好勞氣，無心機之餘又求其，我已經心身疲累，應該繼續堅持定放棄，有無媽咪可以比d意見我呀

syliujoe

Hi,

How long have your daughter learned to play?

I have same experience of yours when my 5 year girl  learned at the first half year.  But now she has improved a lot and will practice by herself. May be after she have gained some techinque, she will enjoy playing it.  So be patience. Don't give up so fast.

MountainView

syliujoe is right, don't give up. When my son first started, he was the same. Once he learnt a little bit technique,like a simple song, he started to enjoy it. He is going to take Level 2 exam and teacher still says that he doesn't practice enough. So now, I make a daily checksheet, he practices 45 mins daily, he got a sticker. If he got 30 of them, we would get sth he likes in stationary store. I don't need to say "Have you practiced yet?" anymore.

So, don't give up. It takes time. She needs time too.

AY2G

個個學琴家長都係為練琴怒氣架, enjoy 練琴? 對小朋友黎講, 一百個可能揾唔到兩個.

gaykid

其實練琴對小朋友黎講係同讀書、做功課冇分別，一樣係"被迫"，但有時情況亦未必如是。

我仔仔初時都係一樣，唔鍾意練琴，成日要勞氣，但係自從轉左現在的鋼琴老師，情況就有所改善。原來佢唔肯練琴唔係純粹因為懶或怕辛苦，而係唔識得方法練琴，現在的老師會在堂上幫他練琴，讓他先將新歌於堂上練熟六至八成，然後再教他家中自行練習的方法，這樣，他只需跟從老師的方法再將餘下的兩成練熟便可。於是，仔仔便覺得練琴不再像以往般辛苦吃力，除建立成功感，更會自動自覺練琴，唔駛再勞氣。就像我之前post過的message中所講一樣，搵到個識教的老師比搵個有知名道的老師重要。

不知 Cindyandy 妳女女的情況是否同樣？妳應該先搵出佢唔肯練琴的原因，然後才對症下藥。

MountainView

gaykid is very right.

Aries媽咪

但一首新歌真係好難係課堂上練熟到有67成, 妳諗諗係九個字至一個鐘之間, 真係好難, 初級就得, 好似我囡囡咁學緊一級都好難, 每首歌都有兩版紙, 如果一堂裡剩係教一首就當然無問題, 但一堂學一首進度咪好慢

SandyMummy

其實學琴的初期最困難, 只要過了這一關, 加上小孩子本身有興趣, 便會自動練琴。尤其是年紀小的孩子, 初頭的難關, 是要父母陪

kcarol

Aries媽咪
我自己都係教琴既, 唔方便講太多, 不過一個星期應該可以練到多過1首歌既, 我suggest 你注意下小朋友練琴既方法, 有時方法唔岩, 死練都唔係辦法, 你亦可以問一下老師點樣可以有效率甘去練琴

somimi

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SandyMummy 寫道:
其實學琴的初期最困難, 只要過了這一關, 加上小孩子本身有興趣, 便會自動練琴。尤其是年紀小的孩子, 初頭的難關, 是要父母陪

SandyMummy

Absolutely true!

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somimi 寫道:
[quote]
SandyMummy 寫道:
其實學琴的初期最困難, 只要過了這一關, 加上小孩子本身有興趣, 便會自動練琴。尤其是年紀小的孩子, 初頭的難關, 是要父母陪

fingers_party

Cindyandy,

或許您應先了解為何女兒在練琴時會(無心機之餘又求其)，找出問題的根源，才知道適當的解決辦法。例如一、學生的問題：是否不懂得數音？歌曲是否太難或太易? 姿勢是否正確？是否不明白老師在堂上的講解？是否用了不正確的方法練習還是懶惰？二、老師的問題：老師是否解釋得不夠清楚或詳細？三、環境因素：學琴環境是否安靜？有沒有干擾她的東西？練琴時能否專心地在座位上練習，會不會(四圍走)？另外值得留意是家長有否給予鼓勵和讚賞。因為家長對子女學琴的看法對孩子學音樂的價值觀有很大的影響。單憑您所說的情況，難以作詳細的解答。最了解孩子學琴情況的還是孩子的鋼琴老師。

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RMA

我同意以上咁多位o既講法

Cindyandy,

練琴係要捱o既，唔係個個都會日日, 次次 enjoy 練琴o既時間。如果你小朋友係 6 歲樓下, 我覺得都應該比多少少機會佢。但如果係 7 歲或以上，仲要係已經學左一兩年，都冇乜成績, 日日要唉佢求佢練琴，你都仲可以大方埋最後今次，轉過個先生又或者仔細了解唔想練o既原因，對症下藥。要死心，唔玩，其實除時都可以，但如果有天份，唔珍惜，係幾可惜o既...

Ruby1219

Mountainview,

Ha ! I exactly did the same as you ! For over one year already and in fact now I do not need to use that ! (cos' my son always forgot to put the sticker after he practised alone).

Now, he does practise on his own, I'll accompany him on weekends if I have time. Seems he's ok. But of course the teacher asked him to practise more and he did have some complaints, but still manageable. I would definitely insist to continue. Learning piano is a long term 'battle'. I really think that it's not only hardship to the kid, but also we parents. So, I always push myself to motivate him, with both soft and hard approaches.

Ruby

MountainView 寫道:
syliujoe is right, don't give up. When my son first started, he was the same. Once he learnt a little bit technique,like a simple song, he started to enjoy it. He is going to take Level 2 exam and teacher still says that he doesn't practice enough. So now, I make a daily checksheet, he practices 45 mins daily, he got a sticker. If he got 30 of them, we would get sth he likes in stationary store. I don't need to say "Have you practiced yet?" anymore.

So, don't give up. It takes time. She needs time too.

syliujoe

Ruby1219,

So impressed!!  Try our best!!

MountainView

Hi, Ruby1219,

We just started this method but at least it works. I hope he can practice longer very soon and don't need stickers encouragement. But now, he still works very hard for his favourite sticker only  

Martin媽咪

Heidi媽 寫道:
我都好有同惑, 陪女練琴真的很累很辛苦, 當中亦有諗過放棄, 但最後也繼續堅持, 唔想呀女覺得小小辛苦就可以放棄, 呢個也不是解決事情的方法, 比我更覺得要做好每樣東西同時覺得一定要大家都付出才代價的。
我女學琴已有3年半, 由一開始學琴每一陪練琴, 幼稚園時時間比較多, 所以每天也陪她練約2小時, 不單只坐在她隔離陪坐, 還要不段提及她老師所教授的技巧, 她彈我哼歌, 不過最重要亦莫過於不段的讚賞和鼓勵。
當她有時彈得不留心, 好像要快快練完沒有心機的時候, 我會責罵她, 有時會叫她洗個面, 飲杯水, 令自己提起精神才開始過, 因為一直練些錯的東西, 簡直晒時間! 現在她二年班了, 呢幾個月開始佢自己練琴, 也是我下班回家吃飯後開始練, 而我亦開始慢慢放手給她自己安排練習, 我就做其他東西亦一直聽佢練習, 當然聽到錯的會立即糾正, 我發覺佢终於開始識針對自己的錯處去練習, 我希望佢能夠為自己去改進, 習琴時間是很漫長的, 我只希望囡囡能扎穩根基, 對音樂提高興趣和不段地探索。

Heidi媽,
你囡囡可練琴2小時, 她一定很喜歡學琴, 我囝囝下個月6years old, 學琴1.5年, 每天練琴5-10分鐘, 他今年剛升小一, 晚上都無時間, 我是在職媽媽, 他讀全日, 放學後到補習班, 晚上6時半-7時才回到家, 但他無話唔學琴, 我自己本身不懂琴, 錯了我都唔知, 他要自己去學習, 有時都覺得他已經算好, 大家努力, 唔好放棄   

AY2G

家長恕氣嘅另一個好重要的原因係肉赤啲$$, 當你見到阿仔/女今個星期又係彈翻上星期啲歌, 即是話老師今堂唔俾佢pass, 也即是話佢上星期練琴達唔到老師要求. 大拿拿幾百坟堂渦, 當佢唔認真練琴時, 點叫家長唔恕氣.
不過恕氣還恕氣, 始終小朋友最終係咪可以堅持學落去, 完全取决於家長的參與程度.

Aries媽咪

我自己就覺得唔係太注重金錢問題, 我主要原因係希望佢唔好浪費時間, 要專注練琴, 其實好似我囡囡咁, 佢每日都練一個鐘, 我覺得都好夠, 但如果佢再專注一d, 可能練89個字都得, 剩下的時間佢會彈自己鐘意的歌, 或者可以玩吓, 咁就輕鬆好多, 所以我要經常提點佢要用心去練 , 媽咪陪妳都無所謂, 只要專注就可以事半功倍.