When Children Lie

rwan

Some time ago when my daughter was around 4, she started lying.  Me and my wife was so upset because we did not teach her lying and we did not know from where she learnt to lie...from school? from classmates? from TV? we just didn't know but she suddenly had the "ability" to lie.

We always like to control (or guide) the development of our kids.  But somehow we realised there are something which is out of our hands.  At certain stage, they will have their will and they will learn to choose for themselves.

Use lying as an example.  Every kid will come to this stage and we can't stop them from lying.  We know it's not good to lie but we can't do anything about it.  Then how?  

What is worse is they know lying is not a good thing either.  Parents usually would tell many examples like Washington took the courage to admit his mistake....da da da.  Children know they should not lie but they just don't have the courage to confess.

Then we started praying to our God to mould her character, to give her the courage to confess her lies.  All of a sudden, we did not know why but she changed 180 degrees, told the truth out and admitted her lies.  Of course, we did not penalize her for her lies.  We considered that was her breakthrough already.  We thanked God for listening to our prayer and really changed our daughter.

When things are out of our control, God can help us if we believe Him and humbly invite Him thru prayer.  The outcome may be out of our imagination.  it happens to my family all the time.

God bless

navigator

Really?! It is a miracle. God bless you really. Congratulations! For me, frankly speaking, the God does not listen to me in some cases. I doubt the God all the time.

rwan

navigator,
miracles happen everyday.  It is just a matter of whether we choose to believe or we don't.

When you said God doesn't listen you in some cases (lucky not all cases!), you have to understand which God you talked to, what is your relationship with Him and why He bothers to answer you if you have doubt all the time.  You may imagine to change your position.  If you were God (I mean if), what would you think.

The biblical fact is prayer begins with faith.  Well, content of prayer is also important.  If we ask Him to let us win Mark Six, of course He won't answer because the motive itself is against bible teaching.

Back to our subject, there are lots of things out of our control.  If we humbly ask God (not order Him to do for us as if we are the god), He will make a way for us and give us peace.

twyam

rwan,

Thanks for sharing.  I am very glad to hear that your daughter is being changed by the God.   

And yes, I also believe in HIM, I know HE is always out there to help and love us.

May God bless everyone of us.

twyam

bbmammy

Hi navigator

You feel doubt and God does not listen to you in some cases.  

It is common feeling in our heart.  But I want to share my experience with you.  

It might be 未係適當時候，之後有一天，神會在某時候給予你。

有時可能我們所祈求的是妄求(例如追名逐利。要份好工，福利好，人工高，好前途。聽落好似唔係好過份，要求唔係好離譜。但何為好工？真是視乎我們自己如何欣賞自己擁有的神已賜予的。)

有時候可能是我們有限的見識和智慧以為想要的所渴望的是適當和最好的安排，但往往未真正適合我們。

我深信神愛我們，會給予我們最好最合適的豐盛恩典。

我們有時知道的，但知而難行，會有軟弱的時候，不用怕。多點倚靠主。同時，這裡的弟兄姊妹也可與你分享和分擔，讓我們對神不至 out focus.

願在主裡得平安和喜樂。

rwan

dear twyam,
i think this is a good platform for gospel.  A Christian family can really help to solve problem of marriage, problem of parents and kids, problem of relationships and problem of individual lives.  because God loves, cares and helps.

I hope that more Christians can put up their testimony of how God changes their lives, their kids, their husband, their wife, to share with those who are experiencing the same things and looking for relief.  God is our relief and He gives hope.  This is not mysterious thing.  All can enjoy if they are willing to.
  

navigator

Hi rwan, bbmammy,

我知道一談及信仰問題就會沒完沒了了，因為這是一個人生上的大問題。然而對於你們兩位的善心教導，我是十分感謝的。你們所說的我全部都明白。雖然我不是那些在社會上妄顧禮義廉恥，胡作非為，財大氣粗，自私自利等的偽君子，但嚴格來講也不算是個好人。我本有追求上帝之心，但可能由於是慧根及感觀有限吧，再加上一直都無法放下追求人世間的利慾安穩，因此就無法理解和感受得到所謂全能上帝的作為及給我們的愛。像我這類對上帝半信半疑的世人，好像懂，又好像是不懂，牠可能感到最頭痛了去打救...

Regards,
navigator

ii-3

真替你高興, 孩子能順利過度成長的每一階段.
正如所有小孩身體發展一樣, 由不懂行,走,說,讀,寫發展到各樣都懂.  心理或智力發展亦一樣是有階段的, 不停講說話, 不停問問題, 講大話........都是一般小孩子人格發展的一部份, 這是人類發育的一個過程.

rwan

Dear navigator,

just want to assure you that God never forsakes people, no matter how bad we think we are.  You may have sought Him before but not anymore.  Just want to tell you God is still there for you.

Gospel is not relativitism which only wise people can understand.  Rather, it is a simple Truth.

世間的利慾安穩.  Have you got it?  Can you stop your kid from giving you headache?  Not trying to challenge, but just want to express that it is not up to us.  I can't imagine I spend my whole life going after things which end up i'm not sure whether i will get them or how long i can hold on to them.  one thing i'm sure is i can't bring them into my coffin...not even my kids.

Salvation is not winning from argument.  So i supposed i have expressed enough of my view.  I hope you can let me know any of your needs/burden and let me pray for you until you come back and ask me where is the church.

「你們那一個能用思慮，使壽數多加一刻呢？」（太六27）
「你們不要憂愁，因靠耶和華而得的喜樂是你們的力量。」（尼八10）
「喜樂的心，乃是良藥，憂傷的靈，使骨枯乾。」（箴十七22）
「心中喜樂，面帶笑容，心裡憂愁，靈被損傷。」（箴十五13）

bless