No progress!

pamam

This summer was not a good summer for me, although I have enrolled my son to many classes and therapies, not only he has made no progress, I found his erratic behaviors are worsen, I am very worried that he may get kicked out by the mainstream school soon.

When I met one of my (distant)uncle's family last week, I felt even worse. He has 2 sons who were not bright but got by the school system,  both managed to get a high dip or cert, unfortunately both are unemployed and stayed home all day for more than 2 years now, with no friends too. To me, his son were always weird but I didn't know what that was then, until my son was diagnosed with AF, I pulled everything together and suddenly realized that both his sons might have  AF too.

It made me so sad, I am very worried that my son would be like them............no jobs, no friends.........normally I am very optimistic, but well............................     



  

mrsphcheung

Dear Pamam,
There are ups and downs in a child's developmental process.  The development may reach a plateau followed by another take-off or even break-through.  You may try some new teaching strategies or therapies as performance boosters.

Don't think about the future too much.  It can't help anything.
  
Good luck.

Dr.T

從好的方面諗你小朋友的問題早已被發現,那改善的空間絕對比你疏堂親戚的兩個兒子優勝...後者可能由小至大都沒有接受過任何正式訓練,尤其是社交技巧,於此到了成年期沒有了學校制度的保護,要在競爭激烈的社會自然難以生存...

pamam 寫道:
...until my son was diagnosed with AF, I pulled everything together and suddenly realized that both his sons might have  AF too...I am very worried that my son would be like them............no jobs, no friends...

kmwun

pamam

昨日仔仔第一日返小一，我都好擔心，但唔好稔咁遠住，打好今日o既基礎先。仔仔的輔導老師都話會幫仔仔從小建立一個小朋友圈子。越細認識的朋友一般感情都會好d。如果你有時間可以參與學校活動。另外可以利誘下，俾小朋友帶d特別d的小食請同學仔食，送d小禮物，唔使貴的，最緊要的係份心意。大家都努力，加油啦！話說你小朋友幾大呢。

pamam 寫道:
This summer was not a good summer for me, although I have enrolled my son to many classes and therapies, not only he has made no progress, I found his erratic behaviors are worsen, I am very worried that he may get kicked out by the mainstream school soon.

When I met one of my (distant)uncle's family last week, I felt even worse. He has 2 sons who were not bright but got by the school system,  both managed to get a high dip or cert, unfortunately both are unemployed and stayed home all day for more than 2 years now, with no friends too. To me, his son were always weird but I didn't know what that was then, until my son was diagnosed with AF, I pulled everything together and suddenly realized that both his sons might have  AF too.

It made me so sad, I am very worried that my son would be like them............no jobs, no friends.........normally I am very optimistic, but well............................     



  

Leonare

pamam,

Do you have any religous belief?
I am a christian and I always pray for my son if I worry my son's future. In fact, even a normal adult, they will also suffer no job and no friend.....

I think the most important, we should concentrate our efforts to make them to perform better. Besides, I would advice to find a good church where you son like and they can have the heart to take care of him. I don't know whether my son will make friends in the church or not  but I can get the support from brothers and sisters in the church. I  always arrange the gathering for my son to play with the children in my church.

God bless you and lead your way.  

pamam

Thanks everyone, I guess I was really down that day and needed some moral support.

It is just that I have put so much resources on my son and saw no progress, don't know what else I can do, he has been in different social classes, speech therapies, PT nad OT, it seems that his social skills has never improved, I can't imagaine what he has to go through at teenage, all these teasing, isolations!

wewangwang

Dear pamam,

please see pm.

ALAL

PAMPAM,
You may wish to consult experienced social worker to consult and check with her/him on approach of training of your kid, and as a person to air your worry.