Unhappy school life in a happy school

FattyDaddy

Tragic ...

【on.cc東網專訊】 凌晨1時05分，赤柱大潭道38號浪琴園發生墮樓事件，一名14男童被發現由高處墮下，跌落平台重傷昏迷，保安員報警。救護員到場將他送往東區醫院，惜搶救後不治。警員到場調查，未有在現場檢獲遺書，初步相信男童由上址一單位房間墮下，死因有待驗屍後確定。

警方事後聯絡到男童的父母到醫院協查，對方得悉兒子噩耗後傷心痛哭。據悉，事主為新加坡籍，生前就讀香港國際學校，近日疑因學業問題感到不快，警方調查後初步相信案件無可疑。

香港國際學校發言人表示，對事件感到震驚及十分難過，將會為其家人提供適切協助，而校方亦會提供全面的情緒輔導，幫助有需要同學。

http://hk.on.cc/hk/bkn/cnt/news/ ... _001.html?refer=hn2

shadeslayer

RIP. With the effect of hormone and struggle for independence, teenager are very difficult to raise.

annie40

Many parents feel stressed by their teenager’s behaviour, and worry about whether it is normal. We look at changes children go through in their teenage years, and how to deal with the effects of bad teenage behaviour.
Normal teenage behaviour
They say being a parent is the toughest job in the world. For some, it can certainly feel that way during the teenage years.
Teenagers' behaviour can be baffling, stressful, hurtful and often worrying. But in most cases it doesn't mean that there is anything more serious going on than the natural process of becoming an adult.
Many of the common behaviour issues that parents find hard are an essential part of puberty and growing up.
Surges of hormones, combined with body changes, struggling to find an identity, pressures from friends and a developing sense of independence, means the teenage years are a confusing time for your child.
It can mean that they, for example, become aloof, want more time alone or with friends, feel misunderstood, reject your attempts to talk or show affection, or appear sullen and moody.
These changes in personality may be natural, but it doesn't mean as a parent you don't feel hurt and worried by them.
Your feelings about your teen’s behaviour
Teenagers can challenge even the calmest of parents. When you have further pressures in your life, such as other children, work, relationships, family commitments, illness, it can feel as though your teenager is going to push you over the edge.
Try to step back from the situation, and remember that they have physiological reasons for behaving in the ways that are so difficult to live with. They’re probably not enjoying it either. You’re the adult, and it is your responsibility to guide them through the difficult times. Don’t expect to enjoy your time with them all of the time, and remember to look after yourself.
If you’re feeling rejected because your teenager is keeping a distance, remember that forming strong friendships outside of the family is an important part of growing up. Try not to be offended. Try turning to your own friends, partner or family for support when it’s hard.

http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/famil ... -your-teenager.aspx

sara_liu

Traffic indeed... Studying in international schools not equal to an easy school life -- a common misconception for many parents in Hong Kong, sometimes, even much harder than the average local schools due to social economical peer pressure and adjustment problems....

964000

原帖由 sara_liu 於 16-01-18 發表
Traffic indeed... Studying in international schools not equal to an easy school life -- a common mis ...

Agree, sometimes social pressure is more devastating than academic pressure, I remember in my teenage years, I will be depressed by just a pimple on my nose tip and a bad hair day. I heard if the parents have good enough bonding when kids are small, then teenage life will become easier, don't know if it's true.

sodama

原帖由 annie40 於 16-01-18 發表
Many parents feel stressed by their teenager’s behaviour, and worry about whether it is normal. We  ...

Thanks for sharing.

annie40

very true, the bonding is like saving..

964000

原帖由 annie40 於 16-01-18 發表
very true, the bonding is like saving..

I heard a psychologist talk about childhood emotional problem, he said beside bonding, the other key factor is time, that is you have to be "there" once the kid needs you. You can't say, let's talk later and wait till the next morning. So just spare more time with the child, don't just ask about grades.

FattyDaddy

964000 發表於 16-1-18 22:33
you have to be "there" once the kid needs you. You can't say, let's talk later and wait till the next morning ...

That's very true, This sentence "警方事後聯絡到男童的父母到醫院協查" in the news article suggests that the parents weren't even there when it happened, and they only found out later when the police contacted them, really sad.

annie40

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朋友夫婦去了郵船渡假，回來後跟孩子說了句學習上的重話，當晚孩子便跳樓了。這一代城市孩子看似幸福聰明，心靈卻脆弱得可怕，受不起點滴的挫跌，父母真的要倍加守護留意。teenagers不會跟父母說心事，但有事找妳，一定要馬上出現。

annie40

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霎時衝動，父母剛好不在塲，不要猜測。