怕醜，應該點學？

Samuelqq

我囡囡依家歲半,好怕醜,對住陌生人可能要幾個鐘先理下人,好擔心佢in學校點算.我知佢好多都識但陌生人叫就唔釆.請問大家有經驗既媽媽，我可以點教or上咩堂呢？

lambeanmama

有否多帶佢落街同其他小朋友玩。join吓興趣班又有無試過?
我仔好細膽，帶佢去陌生地方定必爆喊，不為考學校，都覺得要正視。五個月大起，日日落公園玩，個個weekend約不同的朋友見面，睇到有進步。
希望幫到你。

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好正常，一般叫怕醜，其實我會解讀為認知上的進步。佢知道明白什麽是陌生人，陌生人未必信得過，有危機感，係好事。


多D人接觸其他人(親人、朋友)，等佢發現保持多少距離為之安全，慢慢佢就會掌握到。

千其咪迫同鬧。

每個小朋友都會經過這個 phase.

有早有遲。

有D小朋友考PN時完全唔「怕醜」  因為未識驚，到大D就180度變。

Samuelqq

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我每星期會同bb上一堂music group, bb都會玩下, 但都係唔講野, 其實已經同佢見好多朋友, 就算玩得好開心都係唔講野, 但同屋企人又好多野講. 一星期一堂係咪唔夠呢?

Olympian

同我個女一樣，現在兩歲半才肯跟管理員叔叔打招呼。昨天跟鄰居阿姨傾左十句八句，進步了一點。不過在家真會講好多了，駁咀，鬧交冇難度，學習能力也良好。睇書話，不要在別人面前說他怕醜，自已示範回應別人，讓小孩模仿，不要迫。不要以為較內斂的性格差人一等，其實佢地講得少，聽得多，做事緊慎，將來也可以很有成就。

Samuelqq

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其實我都明白個個小朋友都有自己性格, 只係擔心佢唔講野,到時見學校點算. 而且佢會去搶人地玩緊既玩具, 但只係唔出聲, 佢主動去搶姐係唔怕啦, 但又唔出聲, 所以我都唔知點好

lambeanmama

試吓延遲滿足呢招。有d小朋友因為家人工人照顧太周到，唔洗出聲就咩都有，所以咪唔講野囉。如果大人全部扮唔明，迫佢開聲。試吓得唔得。

Olympian

先去面試再算。第一輪收機會細，但係最後waiting有機會入。

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Samuelqq 發表於 14-7-14 16:08
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其實我都明白個個小朋友都有自己性格, 只係擔心佢唔講野,到時見學校點算. 而且佢會 ...

""到時見學校點算"""

honestly,  your child would be rather disadvantaged for PN interview.


But don't worry too much about that, just HELP her feel more comfortable by giving her lots of chances to practice warming up to new faces and new places.  Show her how comfortable you are with those people and tell her how she should behave (without expecting her to do it right away).


Praise her every time for minor improvements, after meeting new people on small subtle things like, e.g. she doesn't cling to your leg this time, or she didn't run away.


It takes time.


Even if she doesn't perform well for PN interview, chances are she will improve much for K1 interview.


Just keep helping her.

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Samuelqq 發表於 14-7-14 16:08
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其實我都明白個個小朋友都有自己性格, 只係擔心佢唔講野,到時見學校點算. 而且佢會 ...

something i learnt is that, kids don't really know what to say in different situations.
you need to tell her to say... "may I borrow your toy?"",...etc

At first it sounded really dumb, but the truth is, parents need to teach these things too.

Samuelqq

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thank you for your advise. i know it take times and i cant very push her to do somethings, so now i am thinking shall i join one more playgroup, make it twice a week or just take her more out with my own friends.

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原帖由 Samuelqq 於 14-07-15 發表
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thank you for your advise. i know it take times and i cant very push her to do  ...

Do both .  Just bring her along when uou run short errands.


Join another playgroup that is different style as current maybe beneficial

Some PN interviews are one on one and some are grouo activities while teachers observe.