點幫仔女建立練琴嘅正確方法同態度?

pandamommy

如題。
當然，有d細路天生性情比較易服從，有d反叛d，有d怕悶，但又有d愛重覆，所以永無一個方法係全世界人啱用，但討論下，分享下，互相brainstorm，希望各人找到自己個小朋友合用嘅方式!
大前題：小朋友係自願學琴。如果唔係，無咩好討論。

pandamommy

我講下：我有同阿仔一齊定好每日練琴時間同每日目標。

pandamommy

不過講真，練琴總有ups & downs，d方法有時works，有的時唔works，有一d情況又要變下陣。可能我個仲細，未stable。唉!

steamball

ask bebebe12345, i think he has the most experience

pandamommy

原帖由 steamball 於 13-06-17 發表
ask bebebe12345, i think he has the most experience

我以為搵d同路人家長一齊討論下啫。當係交流心得同好似一個support network咁。而唔係「問診」。因我真係好怕未「望丶聞丶問丶切」已經俾人話。話得準都心甘命抵，最憎被人罔下斷話。

Honeymum

回復 steamball 的帖子

請問bebebe1234 是何許高人???  真係好想知呀！  ^ ^

steamball

haha, better you ask him, but i can say loudly his is the MOST experienced parent on music matters. i think those mami know him also agree with me

lillymarie

我就最失敗，個囝學琴學咗6年，我一個星期仲有5日要叫“練琴呀，練琴呀！”。幾乎次次都聽住佢練乜。已放棄期望囝囝會話琴不離手咁練。

pandamommy

原帖由 steamball 於 13-06-18 發表
haha, better you ask him, but i can say loudly his is the MOST experienced parent on music matters.  ...

Most experienced parent?佢係咪有好多個仔女，兼唔同性格，都搞得好掂?有d細路天生服從d，有d易氹d，有d要用好多計先得。

steamball

pandamommy 發表於 13-6-18 11:11
Most experienced parent?係咪有，兼唔同性格，有d細路天生服從d，有d易氹d，有d要 ...

佢好多個仔女, yes, 都搞得好掂? definately yes
有d易氹d，有d要用好多計先得。 so is mami's fault, not the kids fault

steamball

also did u think you boy like music or not?

pandamommy

Yes my son love music very much. He initiated to start learning piano! That doesn't mean that he will never experience the ups and downs to practice!

pandamommy

It's the chance for moms to help out. But don't say it's moms' fault! Daddy, the kids, the teachers are responsible too!

musicmissleung

其實小朋友有時都要"一啖沙糖, 一啖X" 初學小朋友我會同佢訂每天練習時間 (至少15分鐘), 然後請家長幫忙簽名作實, 回來上課時能天天練琴就有獎, 如果你們的老師沒有這樣做, 家長自己在家進行這類獎勵計劃都可以, 慢慢建立了練琴的習慣, 將來才容易放手讓他們自己練.
有時小朋友會練得不耐煩, 可以讓他們休息一下, 但前題是指明休息時間不可以做其他難抽身的事, 如看電視或看書, 一般只能喝水, 上厠所, 休息多久也要先說清楚, 總之他們練琴不是被"迫", 而是心甘情願"入局", 這才能事半功倍.

steamball

i am a mom, sorry, i don't think daddy has any responsibility on this kind of matters, also is it a mom's duty to guide, or think out a method to let them practice happily, want to learn music doesn't mean love music..........many kids want to learn piano, mom's job is let them enjoy the process of learning piano, let them enjoy practice everyday and go to practice everyday,

steamball

also not only practice, does your son has any achievement on piano??? or does he has a target? I can say my girl enjoy her practice and she does all practice by herself, even no need mami ask her to to, she is only 6, This depends on mami how to develop her habit

stinkyrabbit111

我個女都要叫, piano 好d, 叫一聲, no quesions asked, violin 叫 3-4聲, 再加個"吓"字

四隻貓

pandamommy 發表於 13-6-18 11:11
Most experienced parent?佢係咪有好多個仔女，兼唔同性格，都搞得好掂?有d細路天生服從d，有d易氹d，有d要 ...

佢真係有好多個仔女, 個個唔同性格, 但全部係音樂方面都有好成績. (學術成績似乎都同樣地好). 又難得佢上晒岸仲肯坦然分享教育孩子的心得, 所以大家都好尊重佢. 我覺得佢可以考慮下出本教育子女既書.

唔係話佢講既野一定0岩晒, 但佢既意見真係好有參考價值.

自古忠言逆耳, 苦口良藥
為左小朋友, 我就好願意飲苦藥既, 恨不得前輩醒多句俾我.

講返練琴...
我女一如大部分孩子, 喜歡彈琴卻不喜歡練習, 我先讓她感覺到練習後能彈出一首好聽歌曲的感覺, 證明給她看到練習後美好的結果, 再讓她出外表演/比賽, 她在過程中有良好感覺, 在當中找到樂趣. 她亦發現自己因為每天的練習, 彈得比其他較少練習的朋友/同學熟練, 看到了分別, 便更樂於練習了. 嘗試過心靈滿足的良好感受後, 便像開動了他們的引擎, 孩子便會全情投入那件事情之中..  

當然, 如何在最初慢慢引他們"落搭"這一點很考父母/老師的功力. 這過程真的需要很有技巧, 也要因個別不同性格的孩子的反應而作出策略調整. 真是一言難盡.

練習最好成為日常生活的一部分, 就如沖涼刷牙, 一開始就同佢固定每日同一時段練習, 每日如事, 佢就唔會再問"點解要練琴"呢類問題, 習慣左, 佢就會乖乖合作練習.


現在我女算肯練, 但一定要我陪. 可能始終年紀細. 但亦見有少量同年的孩子能主動練習.
對於孩子, 無論學習什麼, 父母陪伴和鼓勵始終最為重要.

stinkyrabbit111

我老公都係唔會involve in 練琴, 因為0知識in music