如何係最短時間送個女去外國升中學？急！！！

wongwaming

The problem is she does not cooperate, she refused to go with me to the foreign.

4eyesDad

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Perhaps you can find out what motivate her? I mean, what kind of things does she like? The more you know, the better...

wongwaming

Thank u ...She only likes makeup, and she is very clever, but very very lazy!.....

4eyesDad

She only likes makeup? I presume she likes makeup because it is something beautiful. So she can be motivated by doing something beautiful. She will not like dirty or ugly things.
Here is the strategy.
Since you already have all the beautiful things, you can tell her that she can have similar things only if she works hard and follow your suggestion to go overseas.
Tell her is the alternative is to live a life with dirty clothes and surrounded by dirty things. Show her a dirty beggar if she hasn't seen one before.
Tell her if she is not well educated or does not work hard, she would probably marry a dirty person (assuming she likes boys).
Your daughter is very lucky because she has a caring parent who wants to send her overseas for better opportunities. She is smart. Probably we cannot blame her for being lazy because she knows she does not have to work hard and her parent will look after her.
It is time to turn her interest around, send her the proper message and motivate her.

wymanbutt

I see your problem. Firstly I am really sorry to hear your daughter's situation. I am a mother with only one child, I understand the feeling.
Sending your daughter to overseas can be a method but please be aware, children living overseas by themselves can be very risky. You girl can become self discipline and get on with work however she can also become naughtier than now, smoke weed and even worse.
What I think is the most important issue right in front of you now you have to show her your love and caring.
It is a hard process however without this your daughter will be in risk if she go aboard.
I agree with what 4eyesDad said, I think probably it is a good way to try.

In terms of school, I advice you take a closer look in some British boarding school. But you have to be careful in order to choose a really traditional and strict one. In this environment you daughter is forced to obey rules and learn how to live independently.

I hope everything is fine and all the best wishes to you, your husband and your daughter.

wongwaming

Thanks for your concern, I have to help my daughter to study in New Zealand....
...This is the most difficult period of my  life.

love822rita

樓主: 希望你從"根源"去解決個問題,而唔係送走左佢,便單方面認為已經解決,女兒正值自我時期,其實做咁多令父母擔心既事情,正正係需要父母關注,如果你呢個時期立即送走佢,佢只會更加討厭父母,可以開始好好溝通嗎?緊記係溝通,唔係一開口埋口便教訓,"教訓"唔等於"溝通",如果只係永遠有父母講無佢講,佢只會收埋自己去做更多令父母擔心既事情!會同你們作對嚟"肯定自己的存在價值"!
送去外國讀書,先要解決"根源"的問題!
BEST WISH ^^

wongwaming

您講的好啱！關於呢個問題我哋尋求多方意見，很多人，甚至專家都話佢受朋輩影響極大，轉個環境對佢亦有幫助，否則只會惡化落去！轉左環境，而個環境亦好重要，好㗎話佢會變好，唔好嘅可能仲衰！所以揀緊認為適合佢嘅環境，同埋佢又喜歡的地方！

Miss.Angela

我有朋友個仔同你情況差不多，升上中二後群埋班損友！唯有送佢外國讀書，點知過到外國，最初又比鬼仔恰和排斥，仲更加無心向學，最終仲受朋輩影響，學人吸食大麻
所以請樓主三思！

wongwaming

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已經講過要講的說話，已經教過要教0既道理，父母已盡力，倘若逆子要執迷不悟，父母唯有祈求主令佢早日醒返。。。望佢珍惜了

Tommy

wongwaming 發表於 12-10-26 00:14
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已經講過要講的說話，已經教過要教0既道理，父母已盡力，倘若逆子要執迷不悟，父 ...

無人可以準確預測每一個決定的後果，如果今天認為這個決定是對她好，就去罷！
條命係佢既，佢都要對自己負責。佢鍾意靚，最好去一d偏遠但風景美麗的地方，讓她愛上大自然，要遠離城市，少中國人和香港人。親自陪佢去，替她安頓後才離開。

DoReMi媽媽

根據樓主的情況, 咁樣送個孩子出國, 太冒險了, 外國的學校跟香港情況不差太遠, 好的學校, 必要求學生品學兼優, 不太好的學校, 就算收你, 學校咪一樣有唔太好的同學, 而哩啲學校, 一般對學生管理都會比較鬆懈, 比起父母管教, 會更缺乏, 到時, 父母想補救, 亦鞭長莫及, 孩子正處於十字街頭, 何去何從, 就要父母幫她一把, 反而哩個時候放佢出去, 只怕~會學得更壞, 外國酗酒, 吸大麻, 賭錢, 係普遍事, 一旦沉迷, 想回頭, 只怕不容易, 一生就這樣虛耗了!  多可惜!

哩個時候, 父母才是孩子的明燈, 引領她回正途, 今日唔聽, 明日唔聽, 但日子有功, 終有一日回頭, 發現父母一直冇離棄過自己, 就會回巢!  哩個時候送佢出去, 仲要未必係有好o既學校安排, 值博率不大! 我自己唔會咁做.

wongwaming

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是啊，您說的是，佢在香港本讀ban1的學校，可惜認識其他學校學生，書不念了，學不上了，夜夜不歸家，報了三次警。。。。社工，見了，心理輔導，見了，情況沒有好轉，我不想送她去女童院！我已經心疲力竭了。。。除了日日祈禱，晚晚擔心，我甚麼都做不了。。。 目前正幫她找學校，新西蘭環境不錯，準備幫她辦理了。。。。

可憐天下父母心哪！！

wongwaming

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您說得情況我們都考慮過，可是在香港的情況不見得好，她一日不擺脫那班人，她自己將來難過，做父母的更難過。我們不知道那班人如何利用這個迷途羔羊，目前緊急的情況就是離開這個環境，讓她換個環境，換個學校重新開始，否則，如此下去我無法面對晚晚失眠，日日擔心。我還有個兒子，影響好大好大。。。我跟我先生日日擔驚受怕。我們打算送佢出國讀書，係為佢好，佢聰明，叻女，留係呢一班人中間會浪費左佢，起碼出去增廣見識，我們唔係話一定要佢讀好多書，最起碼佢能讀到幾多，我地做父母的都會支持。呢兩個月已經冇返學了，日日去街，冇佢符！
講真，我地都唔想送佢出去讀書，無奈。。。

點算好

其實新加坡會唔會系一個選擇?

CHAN-2

Singapore maybe a good choice.

I know some friends in "紫荆浸信教会" long time ago.  All the guys thre came from Hong Kong and they are very helpful if your daughter plan to stay in Singapore.

Their contacts:
http://www.bauhiniabaptistchurch ... B%E6%88%91%E4%BB%AC

wongwaming

其實我們首選是新加坡，但後來問過很多間海外升學中心，及很多朋友，都認為新西蘭是個不錯的選擇。。所以我們正辦理去新西蘭的 簽證。。

502

沒有什麼實際建議，只是作為一個母親，，看了你寫的也感到難過，在這兒給你送上一句鼓勵而已！加油！

wongwaming

謝謝您的鼓勵，短短兩個月的轉變漫長如20年！

Yanamami

你仲有仔要睇住, 否到陪佢過NZ兩個月適應下/ 加強溝通下會好d. 佢唔會覺得你放棄佢.