如果小朋友問取錄結果, 我應該點答

puibpuib

首先, 我唔會主動同佢講邊間小學收左,邊間唔收。但如果佢話要入某間學校, 人地又唔收佢, 我應該點樣同佢講呢?
又或者, 佢記得interview個邊幾間, 如果佢問:點解唔讀個幾間甘又點答佢好呢

Peter2880

拖字決 dont affect his morale in next interview

ParcoBabyBaby

我覺得， 婉轉D囉
上年我主動比佢睇那些REJECT 信
沒什麼大問題的。
細路仔， 晒兩野轉頭就吾記得嫁啦。

HaYi

我想好睇小朋友性格, 如果好認真的小朋友 最好只說好的結果, 取錄個幾間, 等佢地餘下幾間信心大些,  如果喜歡玩的小朋友 (好似我個), 我連收左佢個D都唔話佢知, 都係拖下先.. 如果冇得second in, 我就成封 reject 信俾佢睇, 等佢驚下, 希望佢下次如果有其它學校 second in, 會認真些..

原帖由 ParcoBabyBaby 於 11-10-18 15:18 發表
我覺得， 婉轉D囉
上年我主動比佢睇那些REJECT 信
沒什麼大問題的。
細路仔， 晒兩野轉頭就吾記得嫁啦。

CandyTheMom

I don't agree to show the reject letter to the child to 'scare' him. After all, it is not his/her fault for not getting a 2nd in or being rejected. They might have performed very well but the school choose other types of children.

It doesn't do any help to damage their confidence at this young age.

I would not tell him/her the result right away and will say we are still waiting. You never know what is going to happen, may be when you 'knock door' in July next year and they offer you another interview and being accepted!

原帖由 HaYi 於 11-10-18 15:43 發表
我想好睇小朋友性格, 如果好認真的小朋友 最好只說好的結果, 取錄個幾間, 等佢地餘下幾間信心大些,  如果喜歡玩的小朋友 (好似我個), 我連收左佢個D都唔話佢知, 都係拖下先.. 如果冇得second in, 我就成封 reject 信 ...

nnl

I agree with CandyTheMom, I will tell my daughter the results are not yet available until we have done ALL the interviews...
If we can't decide which school to go to, we will still tell her no results yet until after knock door.

hyatt

無論收或不收，我暫時都不會說。等所有結果出了再告訴他吧。

pvlam

I'll tell her the results ,I won't make her feel sad and bad.I will tell that she had tried her best but still have so many kids better than her ,so it doesn't really matter.The interveiws are so hard for them and I think few of the school they set the questions are over their ability because my daughter never takes the interveiw class.

HaYi

前題是要他們要明白必須認真些, 盡量做好本份.  其實家長不說,  他的同學仔會說嗎 ?  我小朋友學校我都聽好多同學仔問彼此的情況.   好多家長好怕內儉的小朋友子女承受不起失敗, 但如果此遊戲是他們要去參與的, 都應要開始學下接受事實, 或明白無論他們的表現幾好, 都有幾會不合學校的要求..

原帖由 CandyTheMom 於 11-10-18 15:53 發表
I don't agree to show the reject letter to the child to 'scare' him. After all, it is not his/her fault for not getting a 2nd in or being rejected. They might have performed very well but the school c ...

Charlotte_mom

同佢講: 我覺得好似大家唔係太夾, 我想睇多幾間先, 可能有更好既都唔定, 所以你都要TRY YOUR BEST
考學校幾時都係MATCHING GAME, 佢唔揀你, 係咪一定代表你小朋友唔好? 唔係丫嘛! 倒轉頭, 佢俾OFFER你一樣有機會REJECT佢, 所以令小朋友相信大家觀察緊大家, 都OK

lovelytwins

做人第一件事就係要接受失敗.

我會照直講(巳講了),解釋比佢聽,佢有問點解,我話可能你有D地方唔夠叻,人冇可能樣樣咁叻,佢都明白.唔讀呢間可以讀第二間,一定有書讀.
叫佢唔駛介懷,佢亦聽完就算,完全冇事.

而家D學生郁D就要跳樓,就係接受唔到失敗.

chanwendy

我八月已經收到第一封 reject letter, 我如實同亞女講.  我比佢更唔開心, 佢好平淡地答我, 咁咪考 xxx 同 yyy 囉, 佢唔係唔鍾意呢間喎, 佢都好鍾意架.  到而家考埋 xxx, 睇怕都多數唔得, 佢又會話咁咪考 yyy 囉.  同埋佢都知我報咗邊間自行, 我有問過佢, 如果連 yyy 都唔收咁點算呀, 佢又答我話讀自行嗰間囉.  我都唔知佢真係樂觀到咁, 還是其實佢都仲未知發生咩事.

walkinshopping

到最後你決定入邊間或者有邊間收才跟小朋友說。用正面的態度去表達會收你小朋友個間小學是非常重要的。

talknwrite

我會同佢講
有d學校未夠水平收你
阿媽未決定入邊間好.
可能遲些要再找些好一點的學校

laiyuen

無論得定唔得，我都係會照直同佢講，（same as lovelytwins) 因為我想佢學習面對失敗，讓佢明白唔係凡事都可以如願，要有準備有時會不如人意。同時我會首先讚佢面試時做得好好，已盡左力，同埋解釋俾佢知學校唔收，並唔係佢做得唔好，而係學校會選擇適合既學生，可能有其他小朋友比佢更適合呢間學校。而將來佢亦都會搵到適合自己既學校。

SCKnight

我會好坦白同佢講，今次呢間學校嘅面試好激烈，佢嘅表面已超乎我地想象。況且已經盡咗力，向前看嗎！

headmama

i will tell her after all interviews finish.

babybear

如果一直未收到offer, 我會答：「未知！」
直至收到第一間offer, 才告知佢之前被reject 既結果。但會好婉轉話被reject果間冇呢間咁適合佢。

[ 本帖最後由 babybear 於 11-10-18 23:49 編輯 ]

Peter2880

原帖由 laiyuen 於 11-10-18 22:38 發表
無論得定唔得，我都係會照直同佢講，（same as lovelytwins) 因為我想佢學習面對失敗，讓佢明白唔係凡事都可以如願，要有準備有時會不如人意。同時我會首先讚佢面試時做得好好，已盡左力，同埋解釋俾佢知學校唔收，並唔係佢做得唔好， ...

  I am so appreciate Lai yuen is brave enough to teach your kid such positive thinking.  I need to learn but in fact, it is difficult to mode our kid to think positive in their 5.

joeyxlma

原帖由 babybear 於 11-10-18 23:47 發表
如果一直未收到offer, 我會答：「未知！」
直至收到第一間offer, 才告知佢之前被reject 既結果。但會好婉轉話被reject果間冇呢間咁適合佢。

I think I will do the same.

Actually my girl has told me that some of her classmates already know which primary school they will study and she asked me why she don't know... I cannot remember the full answer but I think did not answer her question directly.... I don't know to affect her confidence in the interviews, too.