唔開心

pocoyo123

今日亞仔去公園玩, 在公園有很多小朋友, 有一班小朋友是小學生, 約6-9歲, 我亞仔6歲, 因為生得高大, 唔出聲以為佢8歲的身形, 亞仔好喜歡同佢地玩, 今日見到佢地又想同佢玩, 咁有個大個的小妹妹說同亞仔一齊玩, 教佢玩遊戲規則, 唔知係太深亞仔聽唔明定係佢無心機聽, 到玩時佢又玩到亂晒, 咁人地就唔同佢玩, 其中有個男仔9歲, 仲係咁話佢白痴呀, 但亞仔又唔肯離開, 係都要一齊玩, 佢又唔肯同D細個D小朋友玩, 叫佢自己玩佢又話好悶, 唉, 我是否唔比佢去公園玩好呢, 因公園的小朋友大部份已認識玩左一定時間, 我是最近幾個月先開始同亞仔去公園玩, 但可惜亞仔D社交能力真係未可應付咁高層次, 我是否應該不再同亞仔去這個公園, 改去另一個公園玩呢?或是放開手, 比佢知道甚麼是欺凌, 知道不是每個人也可以做朋友?

童の部屋

我都有類似既情形, 帶囡囡去公園玩, 佢仲細, 得歲, 我成日都教佢要禮讓, 見到人地想玩就玩多一陣要讓俾人, 但係D哥哥姐姐玩左好耐, 讓左俾佢玩左 唔夠兩分鐘, 似係隔離係咁催, 得未呀得未呀咁樣, 鬧佢我又無資格, 我唔係佢父母嘛, 仲有D見佢唔識盪鞦韆就笑佢, 因為我好少帶佢去公園, 不過佢三歲盪得唔好唔出奇, 點同D七八歲既比較, 佢地成班童黨咁係到到玩, 又無大人係度管教, 真係好擔心, 以家D小朋友變成咁,玩滑梯係下面爬返上去,D細D既小朋友想玩都好危險呀！

不過你既情形又唔同既, 你可以嘗試同個班玩開既小朋友直接咁講, 佢6歲唔係好識玩, 你地可唔可以教下佢, 受埋佢玩呀。大人出聲, 小朋友多數都會聽既, 過一排好快就會熟絡GA LA~不過呢, 我比較擔心D小朋友講白痴果句, 以家周不時都聽到小朋友(7-10歲)係度講粗口, 如果真係, 就唔好揀同呢班小朋友玩喇。

LPYdad1

Dear 童の部屋 and pocoyo123,

This case u should take involvment in playing, taking a guiding w/ help role , even leading role in playing, even though the other kids are not known to u. Also, trade "low" & trade "small" in this case. Guide yr kid to play w/ those kids younger (perhaps 0.5 to 1.5 yrs younger) and separate him w/ one or two kids u are target to play w/. Large group is difficult to handle unless u are very experienced and man power is sufficient.

If u come tom, I think I have some ideas about playing technique for parent gathering in HK island in North Point.

My son at 5 has played w/ a boy at 4.5 for an hr tonight. The boy ( previously unknown) just met a few times w/ my son and he already expecting my son to come tonight though we are late ( Of course, I have brought him some attraction. and there is some trick inside) This is very very amazing.

pocoyo123

我同亞仔去公園玩, 好多時我都儘量唔加入去, 因為佢已6歲, 想佢體驗下一般社交模式, 佢明年上小一時, 我希望佢儘量拉近同齡小朋友的心智, 有時佢同一些4-5歲的小朋友玩得好開心, 但一同D大個小朋友玩, 就會給人比下去, 有時我覺得就算佢蝕底小小, 比人恰下, 咪當生活體驗, 只係點講呢, 亞仔太熱情又單純, 成日唔知點解小朋友唔同佢玩, 所以好煩惱

autunmbb

Can't wait to hear your sharing~~

LPYdad1

Dear pocoyo123,

Please dont worry about playing w/ younger ones, everyone will get mature when they are growing up. If yr son could communicate well with younger ones, each one will learn. A age difference between 5 against 6 might be signifcant, but the gap will be lessened as times goes by. Would u prefer yr son learn basic social skill from younger ones together or being bullying w/ older ones or dont know what the older ones doing, but following only?
I totally agree that interventionshould be minimal in child playing. But dont put u yrself or yr son in a difficult situation if it actually not fits. No gd to u and yr son. 勉強無幸福!

諾諾爸爸

比我會更加去多些公園, 多玩多進步, 離遠看住冇問題.

pocoyo123

諾諾爸爸,
我都係咁諗, 呢個問題, 遲早都要面對, 只不過童言無忌, 聽者有意, 心裡的傷口又會再痛

autunmbb

原帖由 pocoyo123 於 11-10-16 22:52 發表
諾諾爸爸,
我都係咁諗, 呢個問題, 遲早都要面對, 只不過童言無忌, 聽者有意, 心裡的傷口又會再痛

其實細路就係咁架啦，口不擇言～～～ 有時我地只係對號入座，都係時候放鬆d，聽到笑一笑再玩過～～

bbwai

原帖由 pocoyo123 於 11-10-15 00:11 發表
今日亞仔去公園玩, 在公園有很多小朋友, 有一班小朋友是小學生, 約6-9歲, 我亞仔6歲, 因為生得高大, 唔出聲以為佢8歲的身形, 亞仔好喜歡同佢地玩, 今日見到佢地又想同佢玩, 咁有個大個的小妹妹說同亞仔一齊玩, 教佢 ...

唔使唔開心, 我同你都有一個完全相同的經歷, 事件亦是發生在他六歲, 佢又係生得高大過人, 一樣係遇到d小朋友叫白痴
但我脾氣臭, 我立刻走埋去喝住個小朋友, 問佢你講乜呀, 佢第一次玩丫嘛, 你點可以咁講架, 跟住有個大過d既好哥哥想教我個仔玩, 但係我勁嬲, 就拉亞仔走, 之後我就教亞仔玩佢地玩果d遊戲...
我又好認真咁話番比亞仔聽, 剛才佢地話你係白痴, 係非常無禮貌, 因此下次再來玩時不可以再同呢個小朋友玩...我亦話比佢聽, 呢個世界係有好多不同既人, 人地點講我地控制唔到, 下次遇到相同類型既人, 你就唔好理佢, 或者唔好采佢....

但自此之後, 我都無同佢落去玩啦, 因為我覺得果度d小朋友好有問題.... 我帶左佢去第二個公園玩, so far 都無出現呢種情形啦...
好多時人地有問題, 我地管唔到, 唉, 其實我亞仔成日都出現好多麻煩野, 但好多時都係因為好小事, d 小朋友就發大來嘈, 仲要係會搧動其他人去用言語或一d行動去傷害我個仔既事情, 所以我每次其實都忍唔住會介入...

pocoyo123

BBWAI:
其實好多時亞仔同其他小朋友玩係無問題, 今日佢同個8歲小朋友玩, 好開心, 個小朋友仲攬住亞仔, 好開心咁玩, ..
我相信每個小朋友本質不同, 呢個世界有人欺善怕惡, 心胸狹窄, 我現在開始覺得係放手時間, 無論遇到乜野性格小朋友都好, 都係社會體驗, 對佢成長都係好事, 請你都加油, 上天賜予我們每人也是獨有性格, 亞仔係獨特的,我相信 總有人欣賞佢, 愛護佢

Reddish

亞仔(五歲)前兩日去公園, 佢想捉住個姐姐(約八歲)同佢玩, 點知姐姐話佢推人, 同佢爸爸哭住咁投訴, 結果小朋友之間的事, 變成大人和小朋友的事, 最終我也要加入, 變成大人和大人的事, 真係小事化大!

muimui5

原帖由 LPYdad1 於 11-10-15 00:52 發表
Dear 童の部屋 and pocoyo123,

This case u should take involvment in playing, taking a guiding w/ help role , even leading role in playing, even though the other kids are not known to u. Also, trade "l ...

Do you often take your kid to play in North Point?

We often go to Wharf Road, Tong Shui Road and Braemar Hill.  My daughter is just 4yrs (tall but baby face).  She just can chase aong and laugh with 1 or 2 other kids.  Any chance to meet?

LPYdad1

Dear muimui5,

I am sorry. I mostly go to Sai Wan Ho playground, used to be in Quarry Bay since I moved to Sai wa Ho In May this yr.
I used to go to City Garden playground from 2-3 on Sunday since I need to go to church on Sunday in Fortress Hill, however, the chance became les since my church fd mostly had function w/ kids after lunch. If no function, I will usually bring my son to go to Central toy library, probably 6-7pm.