成功既全職媽媽

GAT

Interview好多時被問BB日頭边個凑,nursury老師也說自己湊同工人湊出來D BB 好大分別.

咁到底Full time Mom 既Ｂ考學校喺咪真喺成功啲 - 多Ｄoffer 或考到自己最想讀既學校呢?

有冇例子可以分享吓?

我自己都想做full time mom!

mimimomo6

原帖由 GAT 於 11-2-11 18:36 發表
Interview好多時被問BB日頭边個凑,nursury老師也說自己湊同工人湊出來D BB 好大分別.

咁到底Full time Mom 既Ｂ考學校喺咪真喺成功啲 - 多Ｄoffer 或考到自己最想讀既學校呢?

有冇例子可以分享吓?

我自己都想做full t ...

我係工人湊BB, 父母返工架, 不過我小朋友考左10間,8間收左, 一間WAITING LIST , 應該是睇小朋友表現, full time mami, 如果小朋友表現唔好, 一樣唔會收, 你好好訓練吓小朋友的對答, 應該仲大把握

cccbaby

What does "Full time mom" mean? Mom can be full time or part time? When you are at work, you would not be a mom of your kid?? I found this new term is quite funny.

I found some schools asked me this question when my kid not performing well, but other popular school does not even have time to ask this question. And, some schools made assumption and said "You are the one taking care of your kid", when my kid performed well. So, the teacher assumed "Full time mom" = "more time to train good kids", "Working mom" = "no time to train kids" but I think this is not true as "Full time mom" can also spend less time with kids and it really depends on the time quality instead of quantity.

iantsang

It's just in short of "Full-time on parenting", but it could be quite clumsy to say it in full so it has been quite standard to use the term "Full-time mother" or "Full-time father" instead.

原帖由 cccbaby 於 11-2-12 00:04 發表
What does "Full time mom" mean? Mom can be full time or part time? When you are at work, you would not be a mom of your kid?? I found this new term is quite funny.

I found some schools asked me this ...

anteater

全職媽媽同working mother 最大的分別係全職媽媽係任何時候都可以同小朋友一起,生活上很多細節如果有媽媽指導,跟只有個工人陪小朋友一起係好大分別,工人唔會指導小朋友,其實好多BB會在日常生活中慢慢學會而成長,看著全職媽媽的言行舉止而長大跟看著工人講印話而長大你話有無分別?working mother最多就係放工花時間同小朋友一起看書,玩耍,跟全職媽媽平時一起生活的分別是很大的.當然經濟問題,很多mother都不能放下工作做全職媽媽,只要放工的時候多些陪伴子女,再加上安排好子女日常的生活時間表,例如上D興趣班,總之不要只長時間對住工人,在家無所事事看電視,都能教出好孩子!

如果你想做全職媽媽係因為以為會考到好多學校就錯了,全職媽媽係長線投資,短時間好難看到有好的回報,不過你的nursury老師說得無錯,自己湊同工人湊出來D BB 好大分別

[ 本帖最後由 anteater 於 11-2-12 11:13 編輯 ]

iantsang

I don't think a mother, whether full-time one or not, should be referred to as "successful" based on the number of acceptance by kindergartens.  I think this may be a bit twisted and some full-time mothers may feel uncomfortable with this idea.

I understand it can be just a thinking, but it may be good to also be considerate when these questions are being asked, thanks!

Ian

cccbaby

It is an English word. Or just made up words by Chinese as seriously I did not hear before in western countries.

iantsang

Here's a book written in English with this terminology:

http://www.amazon.com/Staying-Home-Full-Time-Professional-Parent/dp/0967035902

原帖由 cccbaby 於 11-2-12 14:15 發表
It is an English word. Or just made up words by Chinese as seriously I did not hear before in western countries.

BabyQQ~

老實講自己曾做7個月全職, 但有工人. 但自覺全職並唔適合自己, 俾到既係quantity of time而唔係quanlity of time. 落街既時間無疑係多左, 但自己成日覺得大把時間, 幾時陪佢都得. 反而返工後好珍惜相處時間, 放工盡快返屋企, 假日又想周圍帶佢去玩.

自己深相全職唔代表帶出叻孩子, 叻既定義亦好唔同. 但父母同子女既相處態度, 關懷及照顧當然對子女成長後成為一個點既人有好大影響.

dolphinmama

呵呵~~本人也是全職媽,對考幼稚園係冇幫助的,因為我個仔考5間,衰4間,呵呵~~~所以我好同意樓上的媽媽所說,其實有質素的陪伴比有時間的陪伴來得更實在,由於自己唔使返工,真的覺得有大把時間教個仔,結果一天拖一天,最後一樣係什麼也學不到,呵呵~~~

其實自己湊又好,俾人湊都好,一切都視乎照顧者的心機付出了多少,不是媽媽教出來的就一定好,"外人"教的就一定差,嘿,我就是一個反面教材了!

Hipuppy

全職媽媽的隱憂是有機會將小朋友o既事無限放大 , 我最近都覺得自己有o的極端o左 , 想搵條出路等自己平衡o的.

mary1004

我都有朋友係要返工媽媽, 平時麻麻/婆婆湊, 小朋友十分醒目, 好識答問題, 好獨立, 起碼見佢地十間九間都有OFFER, 啓思/SC都話收左

反而我無識一D小朋友係平時工人湊, 而好醒目!淨係我接小朋友放學時, 好多工人都掛住傾計, 望住自己個電話SMS, 連個小朋友既安全都睇唔到...

我覺得如能同平日湊小朋友既人溝通得好,才能真的了解小朋友, 及時發現小朋友既問題, 才有機會對正下藥吧

小曳人

我諗~ interview表現大於一切!

有朋友8月出世, 都係同一個pg導師讚過嘅叻女, 媽媽全職湊佢.. 但無乜offer
相對我個3月仔, 除咗"知識"上兩人有少少分別 (which was not tested), 我個仔外表可愛d, 體能上兩人唔差好遠 (可能我個仔仲差少少)
講嘢就一定女仔叻d添!
我唔清楚面試時表現爭幾遠, 只能夠講, 佢舊年出咗嚟嘅成績, 我好意外!
( 我係working mum~)

littlecook

'成功'既定義個個唔同.
我覺得就算考唔到心儀學校/少OFFER就等於唔成功.
大人小朋友有進步,了解自己/小朋友/教育理念多左,親子關係改善左等等,都可以叫成功,睇你點睇...
有時,更本無需要話成功定唔成功,大家盡左力就好好啦!總會有學校讀書既!

我自己係FULL-TIME MOM.你睇我好,我睇你好啦...
我無工人,一日要花好多時間煮3餐加茶點,洗衫收拾等等,基本上佔左大部分時間,仲邊有時間睇書教佢地野呀...通常我都係叫佢地自己睇書同玩架咋.

仲有,就係我都好容易好似樓上媽媽咁講,將D小問題無限放大,結果又花左半個鐘頭鬧人...一日完左,咩都無做過...
但當然,就係因為咁忙唔得閑理佢地,我就會好好TRAIN佢地自理能力,呢樣野,如果係由工人湊,相信比較難做到!

講返OFFER啦,全職媽媽+年頭大囡+講野好叻.咁又點呢?見左都有10間,只得几間OFFER,其他WAITING,皆因面試時太有性格,唔合作呀!所以,我相信面試表現大於一切啦!可能仲有運氣啦!

咁得几間OFFER我又唔會覺得唔成功既,如果真係要討論成唔成功既話!考得既都係鐘意先考,以佢咁玩野都有學校收,我已經好滿意.另外,見佢1月見既同11月見比較,真係進步左,合作左,咁已經好好啦!

原帖由 GAT 於 11-2-11 18:36 發表
Interview好多時被問BB日頭边個凑,nursury老師也說自己湊同工人湊出來D BB 好大分別.

咁到底Full time Mom 既Ｂ考學校喺咪真喺成功啲 - 多Ｄoffer 或考到自己最想讀既學校呢?

有冇例子可以分享吓?

我自己都想做full t ...

kiukiu1010

原帖由 littlecook 於 11-2-13 15:45 發表
'成功'既定義個個唔同.
我覺得就算考唔到心儀學校/少OFFER就等於唔成功.
大人小朋友有進步,了解自己/小朋友/教育理念多左,親子關係改善左等等,都可以叫成功,睇你點睇...
有時,更本無需要話成功定唔成功,大家盡左力就 ...

我同你一樣都係full time mun,一樣又係無工人,煮埋一日3餐再加埋家務,大半日就咁無左,用來陪佢睇書教佢既時間真係好少,好多時都係叫佢自己玩,所以佢既自理能力都比較好.
考幼稚園方面既成績都唔理想,考左13間左右,暫時得2間有offer,2間waitting,2間未有結果.

chafamama

我係全職媽媽，有工人。我自己主力照顧同教個仔，工人就做家務。In 左SC & KV, 都收左。

由阿仔8個月大開始上playgroup到依家2.5歲返pre-nursery，見過好多全職媽咪湊 / 老人家湊 / 工人湊既細路，發覺又好似真似由家人(媽咪 / 老人家)湊既係乖D，精叻D。

workhard1

-我常這樣想1yr pn, 3yrs kinder, 6yrs Primary school, 6 yrs second, 4 yr Univerity = 20圈麻雀
現在剛打了1圈，仲有排打怎可定win or loss 呢!!

我也想我太太做full time Mom even 我也想做full time dad!!可惜大小魔怪太大支出，冇得吾做!

另外我想起小王子所說，人(HK人)衹對數字interesting! i.e. 對人說how beatiful a house!!!是冇用！要說啊間house $$多少裝修又$$$幾多先有用!
我想講是HK人對於什麼是成功什麼是品味好多時是祇用$$$來做標準!!

GAT

Thanks for all of your sharing.

I don't mean that mom's success just based on interview result. In my mind, a successful MOM is one where the child can treat her as a friend and like to see her all the time even when he grow up.

In this thread, I just like to explore is there a positive and direct relation between full time mom and interview results.

I see nowadays there are many full time moms - the playgroups where my children go, many of them are full time moms.