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Is Band 1 school 100% suitable for my kid?
On the release day of Points system for P.1, the night before that day, I was very nervous and could not sleep. On that day at 7:00am, I started to check the result. Until 9:00am, it was released and my son was successfully drawn to a band 1 primary school ranking no.1 or 2 amongst the parents. I was so excited and would like to tell everyone the good news. I began to tell my son to make more effort on your study and hopefully he will be successfully admitted to its secondary school, then HK University and to be a doctor, lawyer, etc. In the Summer holdiay, I tried to teach him the P.1 Chinese, English and Maths. At that moment, my son is very much obeyed to me and he sat every morning to learn the three subjects.
In Sept , my son was very happy to wear the new uniform and studied in that school. He took around 30-min rest only including taking bath and then immediately did his homework after back to home. It generally tooks 45 ,mins - 1.5 hours to finish it. He never leaves any homework to next day.
Around end of Oct , the nightmare started to me and my son. My son was complained distraction in the lesson by the class teacher. Since my son still has distraction and he like playing. On Feb next year, the teacher asked me to accompany him to have evaluation and even asked me to give him medicine starting from April, then almost every month talked to me and my kid the same. One time, she told my kid that mother gave harm to you without giving you medicine. As a mother, I was really very unhappy and my heart is likely hurt by a sharp knife whenever I heard her words. I burst into tears at home every time after her words. Starting from April, my son was daily punished with the same method - no playing in the recess time (it is very means for an active boy) - and standing in front of the blackboard when there is no teacher in the classroom (it really deprived of his self-esteem). My son started to change from a cheerful boy to unhappy boy in May, sometimes he kept quitely and suddently cried. He started to easily lose the temper and scold his parents. He like saying the word "dead" in Chinese and some strange behoviour also come out. In P.2, he started not to pay effort on his study and would not like to do homework also. He hate going to school. Sometime he tried to beat himself and said he would like to die. He is useless and he is not as good as others. He did not like that school. The teachers only punished. There was no encouragemenet. He could only hear scolding to him or to somebody else in the classroom.
From then, I knew when selecting school, we must understand the character of the kid. If the kid is active or has some obstacles, we should find a caring school in which the teachers would like to understand his difficulty and pay some time to teach him. If a school only concerns the academic result, it will give too much pressure for the kid and mum. When you force the kid to do, there will be more argument on both of you. Once you join the game, you also hope your son can keep the progress and would not like to fall behind. The importance is falling behind also giving the side effect on the kid with losing confident to keep progress. More pressure and forcement will bring to the kid.
Also, the moral education is more important for P.1 to P3. that the academic achievement. The kid understands his responsibility and arouse his interest in it. He will push himself to do instead of being forced by mum. Forcing only sustains for a short period. If the kid is active and creative, the traditional school will block some of his merit.
Hopefully, all of you may find an appropriate school for your kid. Your kid and you are happy in there |
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發表於 10-11-22 09:23
