上中一後..大退步..

iris72

樓主個女讀邊間?

hhma

mayc
我同你觀點/做法一樣
呀仔都係無乜功課, 每天都只得數學
但我要佢每天有1.5小時工作時間, 備課或溫書.  上到中學, 大部分科目都係英文, 要仔細地備課, 每天1.5小時都不夠.

原帖由 mayc 於 10-7-2 09:01 發表
2008mum2008,vicky_1630:
我認為態度是很重要的,可以從他們溫習的態度開始檢討,然後你們的女兒對這次成績的睇法如何?最後是一齊改正試卷,如果他們的態度是願意改善的話,可能是因為他們不太適應中學的考試模式或者不 ...

siu_ming910

Hi Vicky,

還記得我嗎? 如果囡囡上課明白老師所講, 即是她是跟得上的, 但到考試就不合格, 可能與她日常沒有抽時間溫習有關, 到考試才溫跟本就唔夠時間. 試下平日抽時間溫啦, 一定有進步.

LennardMum2009

hi, 你們好, 個仔將升中三, 情況同你們一樣, 好擔心, 我現在首要任務是要提昇亞仔的學習能力, 初時我都接受唔到佢由小學好成績變成咁, 問佢有咩需要幫, 佢又說不用, 呢個下學期請了上門補習老師, 點知個老師又唔好, 依家我都好頭痕, 同亞仔說: 只要成績合格就可以 (將個目標先定低去) 我用左好耐的時間才肯接受亞仔唔係最 top過班, 先調理好自己的心態, 今個暑假什麼都沒有報名(指學術上), 只同亞仔報了"心理學"課程, 希望先讓他自己明白自己的情緒及心理須要先, 當然我唔知work 唔work,
學你地話之, 中學好難像小學咁管佢地, .... 現在打算再去找補習給他, 希望8月尾可以找到...... 做家長真係好頭痕, 佢地正值青少年期, 先唔好同佢地的關係打得差才可以有計傾, 我都曾經好灰心, 雖然依家仲未令到個仔轉變,
但我最想攪好及提昇佢的"自學 及 自律能力" , 大家不要灰心, 努力..... 加油

edithedith

回想小女在整個小學裏都只是一個名次在頭1/3之內的無乜名的中文小學讀書, 入到一間傳統的女校, 在中一中二時她的成續都不很好(入不到精英班), 有不及格但極少科目如此, 但我沒有太大的壓力施加於她,因為覺得始終都要有蜜月期, 成績都一定會有高高低低的, 只告訴她幾年後有大關要過(中五會考最後一屆), 現在盡力打好自己基礎便可以了.
之後的幾年她的成績都在中上(我指大部份科目, 因為不是科科都是她喜愛讀的), 但我仍是沒有太大怪責她, 我個人覺得孩子要讀好書先要減少外來給予的壓力(即父母在旁因太緊張她/他的成績而在旁絮絮不休的駡/話過不停), 培養她/他讀書的興趣, 要讓她/他覺得或知道讀書與她/他本人的關連, 給予空間, 不要因為成績大倒退而你比佢地更慌, 聆聽她/他心底的說話, 認同她/他們成績不好的不快感, 共同找到彩虹路.

mamimummy

我女女畫得好靚呀

原帖由 edithedith 於 10-7-9 17:20 發表

annew1128

謝謝你的分享, 非常受用!

原帖由 edithedith 於 10-7-9 17:20 發表
回想小女在整個小學裏都只是一個名次在頭1/3之內的無乜名的中文小學讀書, 入到一間傳統的女校, 在中一中二時她的成續都不很好(入不到精英班), 有不及格但極少科目如此, 但我沒有太大的壓力施加於她,因為覺得始終都要 ...

ANChan59

Some sharing about my struggles:

1. Primary vs Secondary
Assume a normal primary school, 1/3 students are band 1. In a Band 1 secondary school, all students are Band 1, so bottom of the form still band 1.... If you look at Band 2.... Band 3, what do you think.
We need to adjust our expectation from top to middle, Chinese, English and Maths must pass etc.......

2. Declare Independence
My son gave us hard time in Grade 7-8, he seeked for independence and requested more free time and space. We had the feeling he disobeyed us and not repect us any more. Talked to school social worker and know more about his potential development, teenagers look for 3 "I"s - Identity, Independence and Intimacy......... he is normal and a natural development. One key issue is to maintain the relationship, don't push him away. After 2 years, he "comes back", we felt much better now.

3. Dating
My son's exam results and homework are dropped significantly in Grade 8, because of dating. He can SMS with girl till 2-3am in the morning. We talked to him about dating, he didn't want to talk much and shy away from the issue. What we can do is respect his 3Is? Share some boundaries with him and hope for the best with lots of prayers.

4. On-line games
Most of his time spent on on-line games, it's always our hot argument point. Our MOU is cut the games before and during exam or test period.

5. Discussion and sharing
Spare some time to do so, it takes time and the result also very slow, but it works and I can see the end of the tunnel.........

6. Never give up
Teachers can give up your son ot daughter, but we can't, so keep it going, never give up.

Learnt from a secondary school:

Grade A student = Grade A school + Grade A teacher + Grade A parents

[ 本帖最後由 ANChan59 於 10-7-11 18:07 編輯 ]

ZZdaphne

1. Primary vs Secondary
Assume a normal primary school, 1/3 students are band 1. In an Band 1 secondary school, all students are Band 1, so end of the form still band 1.... If you look at Band 2.... Band 3, what do you think.
We need to adjust our expectation from top to middle, Chinese, English and Maths must pass etc.......

exactly
剛剛想出文,畀你捷足先登!!!!!

[ 本帖最後由 ZZdaphne 於 10-7-11 12:53 編輯 ]

ANChan59

原帖由 ZZdaphne 於 10-7-11 12:51 發表
exactly
剛剛想出文,畀你捷足先登!!!!!

Great to know we have similar idea.

Actually, I learnt from my son. He told us that even in Grade 8, his English can have Grade A in HKCEE. Top 75 percentile student from his school can score more than 20+ in 6 subjects (HKCEE, unfortunately he is in HKDSE).

mattsmum

Thank you for your sharing.

ZZdaphne

原帖由 2008mum2008 於 10-7-2 12:12 發表

IH係Integrated Humanities綜合人文科, 今年主要教地理同埋通識, 呢科囡囡成績係最差.

我好想幫佢重建信心, 不過佢唔想我幫, 我只好強迫佢串生字, 同埋找一間好補習社俾佢, 希望改變吓學習環境, 令佢成績可以有改 ...

如果只是一兩科差,
試下買本該科的中文版畀佢備課預習.

[ 本帖最後由 ZZdaphne 於 10-7-11 18:20 編輯 ]

2008mum2008

原帖由 ZZdaphne 於 10-7-11 18:17 發表


如果只是一兩科差,
試下買本該科的中文版畀佢備課預習.

我囡囡最差係IH, 下學期主要教通識, 係學校自己編制嘅課程, 出面唔會有中文版可以買俾佢預習. 我覺得佢呢科差, 係因為好多題目要長答, 佢未能掌握. 各位有經驗嘅mami有冇呢科答題技巧可以提供呢?

唔該晒!

ZZdaphne

原帖由 2008mum2008 於 10-7-12 00:29 發表

我囡囡最差係IH, 下學期主要教通識, 係學校自己編制嘅課程, 出面唔會有中文版可以買俾佢預習. 我覺得佢呢科差, 係因為好多題目要長答, 佢未能掌握. 各位有經驗嘅mami有冇呢科答題技巧可以提供呢?

唔該晒! ...

平時睇新聞多些問佢意見,
再說出我們的意見
然後再討論,
讓他有多角度分析.

gracemagic

其實每個學生都要有個適應期, 你鼓勵佢多d , 俾番d 信心佢