中一放榜 棄升男拔 免發噩夢 名校生壓力大 月花8500補習

Teresa

社會要聞A17  香港經濟日報  蔡瑤2004-07-14

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中一放榜 棄升男拔 免發噩夢　名校生壓力大 月花8500補習
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　　升中放榜揭曉，逾8萬名小六生與家長懷各樣的心情回校看派位成績，未能如願以償的家長，紛紛帶子女到英文中學「叩門」，只求圓一個名校夢；不過，與此同時，一名已獲Band 1中學取錄的拔萃小學畢業生家長，卻甘願放棄直升眾人「爭崩頭」的拔萃男書院學位，寧選擇到處「撲」學校，更為終可脫離傳統名校而感到慶幸，為的，是讓兒子告別多年的噩夢—個被書本埋葬的不快童年。

　　6年來為兒子憂心忡忡的母親，昨日舒了一口氣，感慨道：「讓他入這間小學，我好後悔，若可以重來，我寧願他讀一間平凡的學校！」

課程太深太廣 發夢呼不要打我

　　穿拔萃小學校服的葉梓文，昨日放榜後與母親到中華基督教會銘基書院遞表格，其後又匆匆到香港管理專業協會李國寶中學面試，爭取一個學額。他原本可「坐定定」入讀「小拔」的直屬中學「大拔」（拔萃男書院），但「拔萃」這個名字，對他來說可能太可怕了。

　　由入讀小拔開始，他便常常發噩夢，晚上滲汗高呼「不要打我！」母親葉太說：「小學一年班時，老師便要求同學站起來讀出自己的分數，拿零分的，便會給同學笑，自尊心受盡傷害！」

　　梓文在學校常被批評，葉太想，或許名校是以此激發學生的上進心，但看兒子由開心、自信，變得鬱鬱寡歡，她心痛極了。她曾替兒子轉校，但不成功，在徬徨無助中，她只能天天躲在家中哭。

若可再選一次 寧入平凡小學

　　她唯一能做的，是每月花8,500元替兒子補習：「個個學生也是這樣補習，學校的課程太深、範圍太廣，考試和功課壓力又大，他星期六、日也得在家中溫習，好可憐！」她說，課程太深，普通的補習老師根本不懂，她請來教兒子英文科的，是個在英國讀完教育碩士的老師。

　　終於「捱」到兒子畢業，葉太總算舒一口氣，回想當日為兒子獲名校取錄歡喜若狂，今日她對「名校」兩字已看得很「化」，她苦笑道：「名校只用來『谷』三類人，一是運動叻、幫學校拿金牌的；二是音樂叻、幫學校拿獎的；第三類是狀元－其他的都不管！」她說，如果讓她再選一次，寧可讓兒子入讀平凡的小學，過一個開心的童年。

「理想學校 讓孩子發揮潛能」

　　梓文堅決不升讀大拔，統一派位選另一間名校又落空，結果獲派一間Band 2中學，葉太陪兒子「撲」學校，最開心的是看見兒子笑說，很喜歡李國寶中學，她說：「最重要是他讀得開心，走自己想走的路！」

　　甚麼是好學校？葉太今天有更深的體會：「我理想中的學校，是能讓孩子發揮潛能、變得自信，不是只專注於學術，我想孩子對自己的學校有歸屬感。」她說，就算兒子最終只能入一間Band 2的學校，她也會接受，只要兒子承諾不學壞便可。（相關新聞詳見A18版「中學收生出招 明星老師招徠」、「建德明年安在 畢業生淚眼唱驪歌」）

nickmum

到底佢有冇報DBS ga, 如果冇,又或者rejected 左,佢講乜都冇用,但佢又選其他Band 1 名校,壓力又咪一樣,其實都吾知佢想點.

其實各家長最重要知自己小朋友學習能力和興趣, 勉强一定冇幸福

kae

Teresa 寫道:
她苦笑道：「名校只用來『谷』三類人，一是運動叻、幫學校拿金牌的；二是音樂叻、幫學校拿獎的；第三類是狀元－其他的都不管！」

我想還有第四吧﹗四是有錢有地位的人。

CATMAMA

我想他有拔箤恐懼症.  

tt2001

佢咁早發現問題，真係6年都轉吾到校？

CATMAMA

如果要求入番其他名牌小學, 真係冇位架.

anitatata

各人既觀點與角度唔同啦

www

建議該家長讓她兒子入讀在九龍塘牛津道的「賽馬會官立中學」, 這樣她兒子便不用『谷』運動、不用『谷』音樂、更不用『谷』狀元；可以完全告別—個被書本埋葬的不快童年。

KWT

"課程太深太廣 發夢呼不要打我".

為什麼家長可以在這六年時間,眼見兒子讀書讀得水深火熱,都不為他轉校?難道六年後才懂得：「最重要是他讀得開心，走自己想走的路！」我想最大問題是家長,終於找到一個冠冕堂皇的下台階.

RL

尋日發生真人真事，有個小朋友全級考第一去考拔萃唔收佢，前日派位派去華仁，尋日佢啊媽決定唔讀，最後決定係去拔萃小學讀多一年小六，因為原來佢啊媽早一段時間同佢個仔去考小學插班考到!真係需要咁做咩   :

RL

BB200200

華仁都O.K. 點解個家長唔要     

RL

因為一定要讀男拔   

Rl

tt2001

RL 寫道:
尋日發生真人真事，有個小朋友全級考第一去考拔萃唔收佢，前日派位派去華仁，尋日佢啊媽決定唔讀，最後決定係去拔萃小學讀多一年小六，因為原來佢啊媽早一段時間同佢個仔去考小學插班考到!真係需要咁做咩   :

吾係化？

有時D家長用盡任何方法要仔女入某間學校，某程度上係想完成自已的"個人夢想"。

kittybuzz

就係呢段說話, 我個人覺得佢媽咪有好大問題.....仲有佢daddy 呢, 全屋都無人care個小朋友o既感覺?

所以直覺上係.......一個美麗的謊言...............

KWT 寫道:
"課程太深太廣 發夢呼不要打我".

為什麼家長可以在這六年時間,眼見兒子讀書讀得水深火熱,都不為他轉校?難道六年後才懂得：「最重要是他讀得開心，走自己想走的路！」我想最大問題是家長,終於找到一個冠冕堂皇的下台階.

judy

8000元一月咁補，難怪得補壞脑。

S

One man's meat is another man's poison...

youma

無可能卦?九龍華仁成績一向好過拔萃! 佢有病?
況且dbs成績好的多來自於dps 或 sfa, 並非有什麼神奇力量!

RL 寫道:
尋日發生真人真事，有個小朋友全級考第一去考拔萃唔收佢，前日派位派去華仁，尋日佢啊媽決定唔讀，最後決定係去拔萃小學讀多一年小六，因為原來佢啊媽早一段時間同佢個仔去考小學插班考到!真係需要咁做咩   :

RL

  

LungWai

youma 寫道:
無可能卦?九龍華仁成績一向好過拔萃! 佢有病?
況且dbs成績好的多來自於dps 或 sfa, 並非有什麼神奇力量!

RL 寫道:
尋日發生真人真事，有個小朋友全級考第一去考拔萃唔收佢，前日派位派去華仁，尋日佢啊媽決定唔讀，最後決定係去拔萃小學讀多一年小六，因為原來佢啊媽早一段時間同佢個仔去考小學插班考到!真係需要咁做咩   :

If I were the mother, of course I would chose "Wah Yan".  But given the story (provided it is true), there are at least 3 possible reasons:

1. The family is a Christian family. "Wah Yan" is a Catholic school. If I were the mother, this would be an important decision factor. After all, value is gained through the religious atmosphere at the 5 to 6 years' school life.

2. The father of the student is an old boy. DBS old boys have a strong sense of loyalty to their mother school.  One example is the DBBoy in this forum.  This is understandable, but whether this is to the best interest of the student is a subject of debate.

3. Social development.  Studying at DBS not only is a matter of schooling, it has the implication of making friends in a certain social class (often higher social class, because it is a DSS school). Where Wan Yan will have students from random allocation, and not even necessarily band one students.  I have no objection to people in choosing friends and peers for their children, and in fact I will also do this for my kids.

From the message, I think the said 拔萃小學 should be the new DBSPD instead of the old DPS, since the latter cannot gurantee a place for the boy in the secondary school.  So what is the point of sending the boy to a primary school to repeat P6 with uncertain future?  

And if the boy is a small boy (ie birthday in December), it is understandable to ask the boy to repeat P6.  Whereas if the boy is a big boy (January of the same year), it would be not so appropriate from my point of view.  Since kids are growing very fast at this age, their mentality may change even faster than their body. If the child perceives this an inferiority, he may suffer in the long run.  

So there are a lot of factors to consider on the parents' side apart from just the "brandname" of the school.

bleung

由入讀小拔開始，他便常常發噩夢，晚上滲汗高呼「不要打我！」母親葉太說：「小學一年班時，老師便要求同學站起來讀出自己的分數，拿零分的，便會給同學笑，自尊心受盡傷害！」
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Who beat the boy in his dream?  Can't be the teacher.  I don't think the pressure is from the school.  Check with my boy and he had not been asked to read out his mark in class.  DPS, unlike some 'prestigious' schools, does not push her students to achieve high marks (the parents will do the job).  Most DPS boys I come across are polite, sporty, confident, outgoing, assertive and well-read.  These are the qualities the school pride on.  My son and his mates do not get buried by books at DPS as the article suggested.   Yes, the syllabus is difficult and even more so from P. 3 onwards, that's why some boys withdraw from the school after P.3.  

她說，如果讓她再選一次，寧可讓兒子入讀平凡的小學，過一個開心的童年。
Why the parents in question let their boy suffer for full 6 years?  It should not be difficult to transfer her son to a more  平凡的學校 (in her terms).  If I were her and had $8500 to spare each month,  I would definitly send the boy to one of those 'stress free' private or DSS school.


梓文堅決不升讀大拔，統一派位選另一間名校又落空，結果獲派一間Band 2中學

Why applied for another Band 1 secondary school and not happy for the allocated Band 2?  From what I know,  DBS is quite stress free.  Some F.1 parents even worry why their sons have so few homework.

I think it is an one-sided, poorly reported article.

   

youma

LungWai,

You are very smart and have good points.

Your points 2 & 3 are reasonable but I still hard to believe a parent to let her child to repeat just for social status and sense of loyalty. Bear in mind that her son is the top student in primary school - she is wasting her son's time!

Your point 1 seems strange. If they are a Christian family, why did they choose Wah Yan as the first choice? (I've never heard the second choice for Wah Yan can get a place in Wah Yan.) Don't tell me they believe in Christianity after choosing Wah Yan!  :

Another strange thing is: if the kid has prepared to repeat P6 in DBSPS, why did the parent apply for DBS meanwhile? Didn't she know that DBSPS is also managed by DBS so the two applications deemed to be duplicated?

Anyway, the case is too funny and difficult for me to believe. Correct me if I miss something.