好唔開心

papaya

個女今年九歲，前年考了二鋼琴，同老師商量明年11月考四級，被老師認為我態度有問題，他認為小朋友學琴應為興趣而非考琴，覺得我迫個小朋友！難道一年一級好有問題？我只想給個女有些考試，難道有錯？

[ 本文章最後由 papaya 於 07-11-18 16:18 編輯 ]

Sleepymom

你個諗法都唔係太大問題啫,反而我覺得個先生有D舞斷。

cathy_piano

各位家長，你地要知道，考琴係雖要時間預備，當你預備緊ge時候，彈其他歌仔ge量同時間係會下降~~點解要1年考1級呢?你地認為甘真係對小朋友好?有d小朋友就係要佢地成日考琴試驚左彈琴，我有個新ge學生就係甘la~~我1去到教，佢就話Miss 我唔想考琴，我同佢講，你放心，我唔會迫你，我想你學多d歌仔，到你想考先同我講~~所以，各位，請決定你ge仔仔女女考琴ge同時，先問下佢地ge意見~

c-line

agree agaee!

原文章由 cathy_piano 於 07-11-20 11:02 硐表
各位家長，你地要知道，考琴係雖要時間預備，當你預備緊ge時候，彈其他歌仔ge量同時間係會下降~~點解要1年考1級呢?你地認為甘真係對小朋友好?有d小朋友就係要佢地成日考琴試驚左彈琴，我有個新ge學生就係甘la~~我1去到教，佢就話 ...

papaya

因為妳是老師，不能明白家長心情。

c-line

Hi papya,

I tried to type a long reply, but after I finish typing my 1st long respond, I couldn’t send it out and now I have to re-type everything again.
So, I am going to split it into few pieces of short replies.
Hope you will be patient enough to read them all.

I am not a teacher, I don’t play piano and I’ve never learn playing piano.
I hope my expression didn’t upset you.
But if I did, I apologize!

原文章由 papaya 於 07-11-21 17:04 硐表
因為妳是老師，不能明白家長心情。

c-line

cont 1

If fact, I am a mother of a 2-year-old kid.
I do know and understand a mother’s eager to providing her kids the best.
When I said agree, agree!
I didn’t mean the piano tutor is right, or you’re wrong.
I actually meant I agreed Cathy’s point “
請決定你ge仔仔女女考琴ge同時，先問下佢地ge意見”

c-line

cont 2

There is no absolute answer of right or wrong.
And what is the best is also very subjective.
However, I believe playing piano should be someone’s interest.
If a kid likes playing piano, she plays.
She should not play it because her mom asks her to do so.




If someone is forced to do something, he or she will not be happy on doing it.
I trust you don’t want your kid to do something that she doesn’t like, do you?
Therefore, if she feels she wanna take the exam, then she goes for it.
If she doesn’t, let it be.
The most important thing is you let her choose.

c-line

cont 3

I didn’t have good school result when I was a kid., but I had a wonderful childhood!
My parents didn’t give me any pressure on anything.
Some said they were wrong, because if they would have been more stern on me, I could have been much better than what I am today.




Yeah, perhaps their comment is somehow right, but, I don’t quite agree with them though.
Time flies and you can never get it back. I will choose to let the ones I love enjoy every moment instead of pushing them too hard.

c-line

cont 4

If your girl becomes a great piano player in the future, I am sure you will be sad to hear
“yes, I play piano well, but that’s not what I wanna be, that’s my mom’s dream.”




However, you must be very happy if she says “thanks mto y mom as she offered me the chance of playing piano and gave me support when I felt defected.”


In short, guildance from parents is important, but we have to also respect our kid’s decision.



I know I am writing to much and I am "too long air".  But I just hope you won't be sad any more.



I wish your kid an enjoyable childhood and you a happy mother!


Cheer up!

papaya

問題是我個女好想考，就是老師不給機會。佢問我點解老師不給他考試？

君媽

個老師都幾得意喎？唔比小朋友考試都有？
其實我覺得如果大家唔夾，不如換人啦！既然你又想，小朋友又想考的話。你囡囡７歲考２級，１０歲考４級都好正常呀。

原文章由 papaya 於 07-11-25 19:30 硐表
問題是我個女好想考，就是老師不給機會。佢問我點解老師不給他考試？

c-line

I also find it’s a bit strange that the teacher doesn’t give the kid the chance.
Yes, learning is not about getting good grade, but when the kid has the initiative to taking the test and mama also support her, then why not?


Does the teacher have any special reason for it?

cathy_piano

請問papaya, 你有無問過老師平時小朋友覆琴時的情況係點?係咪好唔順暢? or做唔到老師ge要求? 雖然小朋友話想考，但老師有可能覺得佢未到水準，所以唔俾佢考 (我唔知，我估)又或者係你小朋友ge水平係踏左係4級同5級之間，老師可能想佢儲多d歌仔先考5級，都唔出奇ga~~我自己就係1個好好ge事例la~~我其實好遲先開始學琴，10歲開始，學左2年考3級，pass左，之後好努力，學多2年幾，學左好多歌，儲左好多歌，先考7級，甘你地覺得其實係咪真係需要1年考1級lei? 我承認我自己係老師，未必清楚你地作為家長ge想法，但係身為老師ge我，都希望老師、家長同學生多d溝通。而且唔好成日轉老師，同老師夾唔夾唔係家長決定，係小朋友決定ge，成日轉老師，對小朋友ge 進度可能有所影響，除非，小朋友想向其他老師學琴不同風格(因每個老師都有自己的style )

natalielin

係呀,我都有學琴,一轉老師,新老師一定話你手勢錯,哩度錯,個度錯,不過我明白每個老師都有自己風格,所以唔係太大問題都唔會轉老師~
而考琴就睇你想要小朋友有張cert,定要小朋友學到多d野?因為考試要準備好多野,用好多時間,如果考得好,我諗家長,小朋友同老師都唔想岩岩合格就算,想拎高分d,咁用既時間仲耐~
不過如果你真係好想考,可以同老師講下點解你想小朋友考囉,問下老師小朋友既情況,睇下邊方面不足,可唔可以改善到,同埋下年11月考,都係08年3月考,仲有時間,再傾下先囉,因為唔知你小朋友學琴,練琴等情況,只可以比dd意見,希望幫到你呀~

papaya

我唔想個女再轉考師，轉親大家起碼三個月適應期，我不想她浪費時間。我依家無再問老師考試的問題。但係就少講佐野。佢話我個女好乖，對佢好有期望。都唔知佢想點？

kayan_329

係ah~我之前成日都去轉琴行 貪新鮮...而家我搵到個老師教得我幾好 我就暫時未想轉住啦 我都想學多d歌先 同埋學老師講 你識睇譜就可以學到好多歌仔 而家老師都同我打緊我個底 雖然學緊grade3 o既野 但係個底打得唔好 學得再高級就真係好辛苦~好似果日去上堂 同ms講我想學一首歌 老師都會比本琴譜我學彈 老師都叫我睇o下有咩歌想學o既都可以同佢講 不過最後老師覺得我學愛麗斯果首先wor 如果D老師覺得我地學生應付到 我諗佢會主動問我地考ng考琴試o既... 如果你真係想考 你可以同老師再傾o下 簡單講你同老師都冇錯 只不過大家角度唔同ja......唔好唔開心啦!!