Hello, Dr.T speaking...

Honeybee-0211

Dr. T,
你好！想請問如我想多了解一個幼童的心理成長，特別係個別性格的差異的教育法，有沒有些深入淺出的讀物可介紹呢？中英文皆可．小兒現在兩半．多謝指教！

bb123123

Hi Dr. T,

小兒今年五歲就讀K2, 上月每天上學他總是哭住問我老師會否罵人, 但當他入了課室後就會停止. 當老師說話大聲時, 他就會企身說老師不可以罵人.  老師提意幫他找生理醫生, 因老帥覺得小兒的說話一不似小朋友,而似大人的說話.

我時常覺得小兒的思想和年齡並不成正比. 所以當他問一個問題並不是他年齡應該問的問題時, 他不能接受現實. 所以成日哭, 但平時他又十分開心, 還有, 他可以記上年何年何日去了什麼地方或發生什麼事

請問小兒是否真的要找生理醫生, 如是, 我應從那裡找較平D.

還有, 我的朋友提意幫他check 下IQ或EQ, 請問那裡可以找到一些專業的地方Check

Many thanks!

Dr.T

相信你是指心理學家

囝囝似乎在社交上不太合適的情況下說出一些邏輯上完全合理的說話...可能的原因很多,單從你的描述我不敢莽下判斷...

比起單純見心理學家/輔導員作個別輔導,相信透過一個全面的智能及情緒評估會令你更有系統地得悉小朋友的情況.

請check pm

bb123123 寫道:
...生理醫生...提意幫他check 下IQ或EQ...

Dr.T

1. 心理學家有物野無得測 但4歲幾又唔駛甘快下判斷

2. 似乎是不專心(八卦)的問題多d喎...

3. 內向有內向的好處既...你都想個女心歸d假

stellacl 寫道:
1...乜原來記性差都要做評估嗎 ?
2... 慢動作, 老師投訴食飯幾乎最慢 ...在家做工課,三催四請, n3工課都要做2個鐘 (哥哥n4工課半個鐘做晒)
3...跟熟悉的人溝通是完全沒有問題的, 但這只限於沒有陌生人在旁。 一出街便變得很怕羞，不肯叫人，只是心情奇好時才有破例。

Dr.T

1. Secret of the Baby Whisperer for Toddlers: How to Calm, Control and Enjoy Your Toddler (Tracey Hogg/Vermilion)

2. Parenting Young Children (Don Dinkmeyer et al/AGS)

兩本書都可以在Amazon訂得到.後者其實是一個家長課程(STEP)的課本,但編排得十分好,不一定要上課-而且香港亦很少真正的STEP課程,據我所知只有某國際學校會為自己的家長舉辦.

Honeybee-0211 寫道:
想請問如我想多了解一個幼童的心理成長，特別係個別性格的差異的教育法，有沒有些深入淺出的讀物可介紹呢？中英文皆可．小兒現在兩半．多謝指教！

Dr.T

     你咪有排驚?個女先得4歲...

stellacl 寫道:
...見到有個男同學同佢goodbye kiss tim 呀 !!! 嚇死爸爸 !!!    

Honeybee-0211

Dr.T 寫道:
兩本書都可以在Amazon訂得到.後者其實是一個家長課程(STEP)的課本,但編排得十分好,不一定要上課-而且香港亦很少真正的STEP課程,據我所知只有某國際學校會為自己的家長舉辦.

Thanks!  Besides, what is STEP課程？　
我又諗到一條問題想問下你的專業意見：－
你對細仔�大仔入學有怎麼意見呢？因我的兒子係Nov02出生，按教統局規定可在今年九月入讀K1, 但有些人會給Nov/Dec出生的小朋友遲一年入學．以我觀察小兒的語言能力�大小”基”肉發展都不錯，但他的專注力是我的憂慮，究竟一個兩歲半的小朋友專注力可以怎樣measure?　先多謝你的回覆．

Dr.T

1. STEP: Systematic Training for Effective Parenting

2. 我覺得返K1的目的是為了讓小朋友有更多的社交經驗及明白"學校"的規則,學的內容反而是其次...故除非你有其他活動可以代替"返學"這個團體活動,否則最現成的還是返K1,最好過在家中磨.

專注力對2.5歲的人仔來說只是數分鐘,或更少,的事情,無需過份擔心,入學後才算罷.

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Honeybee-0211 寫道:
1... what is STEP課程？
2...究竟一個兩歲半的小朋友專注力可以怎樣measure?quote]

Dr.T

2歲4個月有此表現是完全正常,因為他們的專注力真的只得數分鐘...

這個年齡的小朋友是應該透過活動身體各部分去學習,要他們坐定一段長時間"學習"(閃咭?)是浪費他及你的時間-何況從教育心理學的角度看那些根本不算真正的學習,只是重覆一些連成人也感覺沈悶的工作.

若不介意我會將此段回覆轉貼在我的topic內...(原為pm)

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5354 寫道:
小女2歲4個月,記性十分好,幻想力和觀察力十分

PrincessMama

Dear Dr T,

Thanks a billion for your comments and advice.       

Will stay tuned to your 24X7 online Children Psychology 101 Q&A tutorial.

PrincessMama

hinhinmummy

Dr.T 寫道:
     你咪有排驚?個女先得4歲...

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stellacl 寫道:
...見到有個男同學同佢goodbye kiss tim 呀 !!! 嚇死爸爸 !!!    

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STELLA

C啦c啦, 我都發現我個女有個男同學, 成日想借d 耳拖個女隻手仔呀! 佢依家先得7歲

同你一樣, 有問題果個又煩, 無問題果個又煩, 真係人都din

Web

我都明白小朋友的專注力比較弱, 但我個囡囡而家兩歲,但仍唔識講話. 我想跟佢做些練習, 但佢最多坐兩分鐘(在有食物引誘下的情況)就開始四週走, 咁我應該點?

gigi2

Nowadays the children act or look more mature than our old days.  My girl at only 6 but has just received a paper from her male classmate in one day which wrote ' You XXX are a beautiful girl!'  Next day, the boy even told my girl,' I have a lot of girl friends but you are the only final choice to me!'

Terrible or not?

  

gigi2

Dear Dr. T,

Heep Hong took the class visit for my girl and discussed with the principal/teacher this morning.  My girl performed not too bad which she perhaps noticed the st & social worker were sitting in class today.  Heep Hong commented that the school did really want to help my girl and they cared so much about how they could improve her.  My major worry of thinking the school wants to give up my girl then can be released eventually.   After the visit, both parties (school & Heep Hong) would also agree that my girl could be transferred to PM session next year with smaller class size (1:8).  However, they have a suggestion that my girl could repeat K1 next year for better capability and maturity in learning both in areas of expression and comprehension.

The ST from Heep Hong told me that my girl has speech delay about 10 months and the cognitive is around more or less the same age.  Strong visual & good memory and they observed that my girl would try her best to think the correct way to complete the classwork and she sometimes could do it finally.  But she seems to be weak in holding pencils (she is not weak in holding pencils at home when drawing) and objects counting (I really don’t know why as she is not bad at COUNTING the objects at home).  For her case, do you also recommend her to repeat K1?  Is it too early for her to repeat class at level K1?  If repeat, how about the marks when she enrolls P.1 at the age of 7?  Will she lose the basic mark of 10 for discretionary round which make her less chance to go into desirable school?

Please help me as I am confusing and don’t know which way is good for her.