家長送孩子讀兩幼園 朝9晚6谷兩文 街上換校服 專家斥虐兒

salami2

我仔23同學仔當中都有最少3個番兩間學校, 可見 percentage 幾高?! 我下午經常番學校做 mommy helper, 我又唔覺那幾位小朋友好累, 只係覺得佢地較頑皮... 我仔只番下午反而佢成日嗌sleepy!

那是好那是壞我都唔知, 冇任何數據支持應用盡童年定係自由發展, 我覺得過得自己咪做, 又唔洗理人ge, 仔女係自己, 有咩頭暈身興都係自己受

父母出盡法寶都係想子女成功考讀名校, 不是番兩間就是學xyz,  k1都已經學緊10+項目大有人在, 望子成龍/鳳情度並無兩樣, 專家斥虐兒實非前者咁簡單

Sindy

lui 寫道:
I am wondering how to measure the tolerate rate?
As long as she/he can still walk and talk?

最少我見到我仔,叫佢下午訓教,佢就喊得好淒涼,隻眼係度同我講:唔該唔好用你地尺度去量度我啦..............的確,佢真係倦了便訓,試過要去湊家姐,便叫佢起身,但佢覺要訓教,所以死都唔起,喊住要訓...........所以....可以用平時既準則去量度個小朋友需唔需要午睡,唔需要既話,又鐘意返學.....我覺得無傷大雅........

catcatmom

sindy
其實好多家長唔認同＋！會問你，你打兩份工得唔得？
仲有d人要爆埋粗tim!我可以話比你知，我同一時間打過３份工，仲進修埋，行畢業禮果日，係醫院生仔，無去到。雖然係好辛苦，早8:00晚11:00，但好enjoy，覺得生活好充實。e+公司d人一提O.T.，就算有錢，都好唔like。老公話因我個人係甘，所以生左個唔訓教既仔，想當年見親醫生都問點解我囝囝唔訓，Dr.馮宜亮就開左BB安眠藥比佢，但佢都訓得好少，大約6-7個鐘。之後馮宜亮就話：無問題喎，佢想訓自然會訓，無需緊張，佢自己識調節自己身體機能，健康就得啦！
參加甘多ECA，我荷包又傷，最慘係我老公，星期６要帶幾本書出去睇，又要係c奶同賓妹群中等亞仔，因我要返工。我個仔就好enjoy啦！
好多人睇野會將自己官感加上，某人要個仔讀兩間幼稚園，就係虐兒，望子成龍，滿足自己虛榮庶！BB一定午睡，無中午唔訓既BB。其實case by case，或者個bb好enjoy返兩間，好似亞仔成日５ 停，我唔覺得有問題。
我試過亞仔４個月大時，帶去加拿大探99，d人問：甘細個小朋友搭飛機咪好慘，我答：個BB一d都唔慘，最慘係個大人！
世界上有相對，無絕對＋！

Sindy 寫道:
[quote]
lui 寫道:
I am wondering how to measure the tolerate rate?
As long as she/he can still walk and talk?

最少我見到我仔,叫佢下午訓教,佢就喊得好淒涼,隻眼係度同我講:唔該唔好用你地尺度去量度我啦..............的確,佢真係倦了便訓,試過要去湊家姐,便叫佢起身,但佢覺要訓教,所以死都唔起,喊住要訓...........所以....可以用平時既準則去量度個小朋友需唔需要午睡,唔需要既話,又鐘意返學.....我覺得無傷大雅........[/quote]

emmypun

精力旺盛可以報課外活動, 兩間唔同學校, 教學理念唔同的話, 小朋友會覺得無所適從.  
    

Igo

Salami2,

其實一般半日的的幼稚園上午班是9-12時，下午班是12:30-3:30或1-4時，時間咁緊迫，你囝囝的同學點安排走兩場呀？會遲到嗎？

lui_ho

我唔知係咪屬於"虐兒",..不過我就覺得凡事都要有個平衡。

小朋友鍾意課外活動係好事，不過玩到唔識休息呢, 就要靠懂事既大人安排喇。唔通小朋友玩到唔記得肚餓，你就覺得佢唔駛食？食/休息一樣係小朋友既基本需要。晏晝訓一陣仲對個腦仔有益添。

阿仔英文講到LOCK LOCK聲係做媽既都想, 但係有冇諗過, 除咗虛榮心、同埋跟其他小朋友比較果陣威D，其實一名幼兒講英文講到lock lock聲...真係重要到要返兩份幼兒班？

HuiTung

[quote]
stccmc 寫道:
catcatmum,

幾歲人仔, 做父母有責任幫他們節制, 幫他們決定甚

catcatmom

人有百樣人，Ｂ也有百樣Ｂ，好似公司Ｄ同事，要佢地O.T.，有1.5倍工資，都勁唔鐘意，仲係未婚2Xyrs既男仔，佢覺得頂唔順，８小時工作more than enough，佢話做人要羅個平衡喎！

//假期少親子時間, 她可能和同學鬥多 ECA, 或好似"扭"買玩具咁人有我有, 跟本不知自己的興趣在那裏。//

我個仔E+參加緊８樣ECA，之前應該係11樣，被我cut左佢３樣，分別係：煲冬瓜，畫班＆圍棋。
佢唔係讀名校，無同同學仔作比較。亞仔只係精力充沛，係咪好學就唔知？但佢好enjoy上ECA堂，同埋好用心，這點係肯定的。老師既comments係：佢上堂好專心，But, e+要禁止佢上堂舉太多手，因佢答曬其他同學既問題。

對我來講，亞仔參加甘多ECA，係返而增加了親子時間。
每次上完一個課外活動，爸爸會同佢食野＆休息＆傾計（abt .1hr），佢會不停講上堂既情況和同學仔既野，睇見佢就好開心，好投入，一Ｄ都唔倦，平日要多抽extra時間同佢溫番paper & exercise，真正係家＋校＋補習班合一,佢Draw曬大人對佢既attention。

無計喎！！你想自己教番個仔咩？自己親子？好多媽咪同我一樣，要比錢人教，比錢人賺。聽說一些教琴老師比錢別的琴老師，教自己的仔女學琴。這點我又身同感受，因我都有教小朋友一些興趣班，但我教個仔時候，佢就走左去，佢話無興趣喎！

P1果年學校派通告叫學生參加音樂團既violin，我５信佢鍾意音樂，最後"魏"左我一年，佢話：一係比我學琴，一係比我學小提琴。甘我比左佢學琴，因學費平Ｄ。老師話佢學得好好，佢係自己練琴，唔冼理，唔冼勞氣佢練琴。

有一次行過沙田中央公園，見到大人彈結他，佢話：媽咪我好想學哥哥玩緊果Ｄ！我就比考music office既中阮（shape同結他一樣），我話佢知考到先至有得上堂，甘幾千人去考，考唔到５好怪亞媽呀！我心"林"：亞仔你考到先至算啦！ha!ha!但佢又考到。

奶奶有一次話：點解比Ｂ仔參加甘多ECA，我話佢鐘意既！奶奶：細路係5識野既，大人要分配時間比小朋友休息，唔好話佢要參加就比佢參加。細路係5識庶！大人識呀嗎！

之後有一次無工人帶中阮，要奶奶帶，奶奶帶完就話，原來Ｂ仔這個course係政府資助，師資很好，有錢都讀５到，舅父個孫又咪去考打鼓，都考５到呀！千其５好比Ｂ仔放棄呀！

我心"林"：奶奶你千其要去死呀！

話時話，佢從不扭"買玩具,屋企既玩具係朋友親戚買來多。舊年佢玩燈謎，贏左１０幾件文具＆玩具，佢羅曬返學校比老師送比Ｄ準時交功課既同學喎！

At last，佢係恆生乒乓球已進入１級，體院既游水又升班，佢樣樣都甘認真，我做Mud仲要質疑佢有無興趣。//興趣在那裏?// 佢開心咪得羅！自從參加甘多游水，乒乓球，roller佢就無mud病過，由Ｋ3既38榜，到現在66榜，高接近130cm(佢7yrs)。

其實如果有些小朋友，參加過多活動，而弄到皮黃骨瘦，最傷心都係父母。有邊個比你更了解自己既子女，我唔係叫ｄ家長比小朋友參加ECA越多越好，而係每小朋友發展不同，總之一句，見招拆招，順其自然，適可而止，不能免強！

pilita_ho

catcatmom,

Understand you stated your husband brings your son to ECA every Sat and they are a lot of shares after the ECA.  But, how about you?  Don't you think you are one of the family member?  Do you spend any time on your son?  In my point of view, it is a very good time for us to built up the relationship when the kid is young.  We should spend more time (at least 2 hours a day).  If we do not spend time with them now, they will not spend their time on us when they grow up.

PP

Sindy

有頭髮,邊個想做la哩丫,我相信catcatmom係要搵食啫......你質問既語氣,令到佢好難受架...........

pilita_ho 寫道:
catcatmom,

Understand you stated your husband brings your son to ECA every Sat and they are a lot of shares after the ECA.  But, how about you?  Don't you think you are one of the family member?  Do you spend any time on your son?  In my point of view, it is a very good time for us to built up the relationship when the kid is young.  We should spend more time (at least 2 hours a day).  If we do not spend time with them now, they will not spend their time on us when they grow up.

PP

HuiTung

所以我和老公都認為Sunday 一定要family day, 懶散也好, 到郊外走走也好, 這樣對孩子身心較健康.  

monmantong

yes, agree. If the kid only attends over 10 ECA per week, then when he grows up, he only remembers that he attends so many classes when he was small, forgot where he/she went with his/her parent.

由 HuiTung 於 2006-04-08 15:32:01由 HuiTung 於 2006-04-08 15:32:01

所以我和老公都認為Sunday 一定要family day, 懶散也好, 到郊外走走也好, 這樣對孩子身心較健康.

lui

I understand many of us, being a working mom, could not be able to spend much time with our kids everyday. Like me, I could only afford to spend one hr per day on weekdays. But it all matters if it is a quality time.
After lots of our discussion here, there wouldn't be an absolute conclusion by then. It bothers only as long as we know what is the best to our children will do.

qmaqmama

Totally agree         
It all depends on the child. If the child is so happy to attend many activities like catcatmom's child. Why not? I see one case:
the child is going to two schools for years and she never takes sick leave. She always happy and healthy. She is very clever and smart. She has excellent performance in both kinders. The most important point is that she told her mother she enjoys very very much. If you see her, I trust some of you might change your point of veiw : and will not use the term of 虐兒 as the so-called expert said.....there are really too many experts in the world and they always have contradictory ideas to each other. I trust a mother is a better expert to her own child.

Adrian媽媽 寫道:
我有個親戚由第一個囝開始已上下午讀兩間唔同的幼稚園, 現在已小學二年級讀梗國際學校, 而個女現在三歲亦都是上下午讀兩間唔同的幼稚園, 雖然他們的爸媽都是純正香港畢業的, 但他們兩個囝囡日常已英文對話, 英文lock lock聲, 並且一樣活潑開朗呀 ! 所以我覺得是睇個小朋友是否習慣及適合jet, 這報導真係好似誇張了少少...

qmaqmama

Dear Sindy,
Agree You are so considerate
I found the message of catcatmom and 心心
are very sensible. I think they are reasonable and good mothers.

Sindy 寫道:
有頭髮,邊個想做la哩丫,我相信catcatmom係要搵食啫......你質問既語氣,令到佢好難受架...........

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pilita_ho 寫道:
catcatmom,

Understand you stated your husband brings your son to ECA every Sat and they are a lot of shares after the ECA.  But, how about you?  Don't you think you are one of the family member?  Do you spend any time on your son?  In my point of view, it is a very good time for us to built up the relationship when the kid is young.  We should spend more time (at least 2 hours a day).  If we do not spend time with them now, they will not spend their time on us when they grow up.

PP

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chan803

有關家長都坦言子女再無午睡時間，午膳也要匆匆完成，甚至要在街上換校服。

[quote]「小朋友無得

qmaqmama

"虐兒"? I think it's because you and the expert assumed that the child must change at the street and must feel very tried after going to school. The case I know is that the child would not sleep even after going to two schools. There are some gifted children. So, I said it all depends on the style and habit of the child. If you make so many negative assumptions and labellings, you and the expert must be correct in saying "虐兒", but are the assumption the fact? I think every case is different. I would say don't push the child  if he/she does not like. One man's meat is another man's poison.

chan803 寫道:
[quote]有關家長都坦言子女再無午睡時間，午膳也要匆匆完成，甚至要在街上換校服。

[quote]「小朋友無得

chan803

catcatmom,

既然你講到你個仔咁 enjoy 返 9~11 eca, 咁外人亦無謂多講.  

不過我想問吓 佢係咪由k1/2 就開始返咁多 eca 呢?

樓主係想指出有人要小朋友返兩所唔同的 kinders, 弄至午餐亦沒有足夠時間食/唔可以午睡/... 亦不認同這些做法.  

至目前為止, 大部分研究都係話小朋友要有足夠的睡眠, 而有幾多返兩所唔同 kinders的小朋友 而有足夠的睡眠就真係天知law.  

我相信大部分有湊仔的父母都會認同 小朋友是需要很多睡眠的.  即使有一/兩日訓少 d, 佢地一定會自動補足的. 長時間的睡眠不足, 對小朋友的發展是百害而無一利的.