小朋友入左名校, 但 ....

mattsmum

“選適合自己小朋友的學校最為重要 !”

讲的好，不要因为名气而担心， 童年只一次，

GIPW

原帖由 LittleKidult 於 09-10-22 17:36 發表

我地未讀過名校(小學), 所以唔知要求係咪咁高, 不過如果初小都已經要補習先跟得上, 我會同佢轉校.....
我覺得童年時要比多d時間小朋友玩, 呢段係人生中應該最快樂同無憂既時候黎... ...

Agree.  Really need to consider the psychological development of the child.  If the child grow up in an inferior enviroment, she might not grow up happily.

I do not agree to 補習 when they are in P1 or P2.  Study is a self initiave stuff, if you need 補習 evensince you are small, you will heavily rely on the tuition teacher.  I have come across children when they just would not like to think of an answer themselves but rely on tuition teacher to give an answer.  Or is very afraid to fail.  

My kid has the same problem.  She always asks me if the answer is right before she writes them down on the answer sheet.  She did this because she is lack of confidence or she is afraid to fail.  if she can not take any 挫折 at this age, what happen when she grows up.  We are not the super riche and their path will not be smooth.  So at this young age, they still aford to learn from failure.

oknsca

我細B都有相同情况..可能kinder太淺,而家好似跳班咁,追得辛苦,成績唔好 ....唔知佢好運定點..偏偏又有學校收佢...!佢天資唔差..希望努力啲快啲有改進啦!

原帖由 panbaby 於 09-10-22 18:33 發表
現在談轉校太早了吧, 在新的學習環境下, 是需要時間來磨合的, 小孩這麼小, 大把時間追回來, 得幾歳人仔, 多數人的天份是差不多的, 可能是以前幼稚園程度淺, 或者父母要投放多些資源...

但有一點是, 妳讀得名校, 妳 ...

Rattie

我朋友個囡情況相似,不過佢接受個囡嘅天資尚待發展,冇發哂癲咁去谷小朋友,咁當然都有補習,幫得幾多得幾多.但就有個良好嘅親子關係.小朋友一樣可以有個愉快嘅學習過程.
有人考第一就梗有人考第尾.除非學校請走,唔會輕易放棄個學位.佢覺得個囡去到邊成績可能都係差唔多,咁名校出來,中學要叩門應該著數D啩.

daisy17772

原帖由 goodmama2003 於 09-10-22 14:46 發表
..入名校, 難過媽媽找工架!

Hei, so true in HK.

But a child's self confidence is really important.  When they lose confidence, they don't believe in what they can achieve.  Confidence is a "belief".  So as mom, we should never give up this belief about our children.

Felixcwt

原帖由 momochiu 於 09-10-21 22:04 發表
Each child is different. If the child cannot catch up with the school, there will be pressure on him/her which may impact the confidence. Confidence is more important than results which affect the who ...

完全讚同,入得到名校又如何? 小朋友開心嗎? 請各位家長認清楚方向才報讀學校,應該衡量自己小朋友適合讀哪一類型嘅學校,勉強冇幸福!唔好將自己嘅意願強加响小朋友身上,咁樣對小朋友好唔公平.:cry:

HIN2003

原帖由 CFaHB 於 09-10-22 10:40 發表
轉校一定唔會喇, 我唔敢提, 因為得來不易 ~
係一間考入去的學校,
當年小朋友考到之後, 佢重上台同 k2 家長做 sharing

我朋友因為好忙, 收入又唔多,
小朋友只可一星期去一次"名補習社" 的雞精班

佢人好好的, 見佢 ...

重要你朋友好忙, 收入又唔多.
佢有無聽過鄧靄琳ge親身經歷?

漢堡飽

原帖由 goodmama2003 於 09-10-26 07:44 發表


辭工倍仔女讀書是第一步.
第2步是請補習.
如果2步都是科科不合格, 就會給通知, 貴子女要出校啦, 如果不是就要留班.

名校出來後, 在普通學校又會名列前茅.
自信心再心來.
之後會成績好.

成績好返後,再去考名校.或 ...

你的建議最好，想要有成績，一定要付出，唔好奢望不付出有奇蹟。全心去幫仔女先。

tinkerbell2004

Some people told me that the students in famous schools easily come to two extremities. The top students are top because they are clever, diligent or having more resource and  training .....  not solely what they can get from the school.

If parents don't want to give up the place in the famous school, both you and the children must work hard.

If they can not get up with the school curriculum, then I think it's better to change the school.

Students from other schools can get good results in HKCEE recently.

原帖由 panbaby 於 09-10-22 18:33 發表
現在談轉校太早了吧, 在新的學習環境下, 是需要時間來磨合的, 小孩這麼小, 大把時間追回來, 得幾歳人仔, 多數人的天份是差不多的, 可能是以前幼稚園程度淺, 或者父母要投放多些資源...

但有一點是, 妳讀得名校, 妳 ...

tracytang

可否講我知?  我未聽過.  謝謝!!!

原帖由 HIN2003 於 09-10-26 07:54 發表


重要你朋友好忙, 收入又唔多.
佢有無聽過鄧靄琳ge親身經歷?

norakyng

原帖由 Felixcwt 於 09-10-26 01:20 發表


完全讚同,入得到名校又如何? 小朋友開心嗎? 請各位家長認清楚方向才報讀學校,應該衡量自己小朋友適合讀哪一類型嘅學校,勉強冇幸福!唔好將自己嘅意願強加响小朋友身上,咁樣對小朋友好唔公平.:cry: ...

最重要是小朋友讀書讀得開心, 開開心心上學去，勉強只會令到家長和小朋友也痛苦。

HIN2003

原帖由 tracytang 於 09-10-26 13:14 發表
可否講我知?  我未聽過.  謝謝!!!

大致上樓主朋友個case差不多. 詳細就唔記得, 但而家鄧靄琳都時常有親子講座.
或者有無mami記得? 可以講吓!

bbone

I also think that changing school is the last resort. It's really difficult to get into an elite school. If the child mentioned here is a girl, I would assume she's in DGS. If that really is the case, then the child is facing very keen competition in her class.

I heard almost all students from famous schools go to tutoring classes. I think this is the best means to enhance parent-child relationship. If this family cannot afford tutoring for more than once a week, then perhaps the mother should change her approach. Battle with the child daily only makes matter worse. Try to use the praising method instead of saying something harsh to the child. Give the child a break. It's not easy to survive in a top notch school. Give the child as much encouragement as possilbe, build up his/her confidence, and she'll do much better.

Parents should be a child's confidence builder, not the destroyer.

meipo28

大至係甘 (如有錯誤,請指教)

佢囝囝原本在傳統名校就讀.成績唔係幾好,鄧靄琳於是轉做全職mum希望谷起佢成績. 但係情況無改善,佢更出手打囝,越打越重手,更影響一家人的關係.有一次鄧靄琳猛然發現佢個囝將自己畫成一個恐怖女巫 ,佢好震驚,亦醒悟過來.

最後佢同囝囝轉去一間較平凡但有愛心既學校,慢慢重建親子關係, 而囝囝亦變得有自信更考取到好成績. 宜家佢囝囝好似都讀大學啦.

我睇過鄧靄琳幾本書,有幾次都睇到喊哂.非常touching.

原帖由 HIN2003 於 09-10-26 17:44 發表


大致上樓主朋友個case差不多. 詳細就唔記得, 但而家鄧靄琳都時常有親子講座.
或者有無mami記得? 可以講吓!

traeh

鄧藹霖大仔從喇沙轉讀國際學校．其實除咗佢個仔讀傳統學校出問題，我記得鄧藹霖都係唔識處理壓力，例如同其他家長比較，於是成日谷個仔，影響親子關係．如有記錯，請指教．

原帖由 meipo28 於 09-10-28 17:03 發表
大至係甘 (如有錯誤,請指教)

佢囝囝原本在傳統名校就讀.成績唔係幾好,鄧靄琳於是轉做全職mum希望谷起佢成績. 但係情況無改善,佢更出手打囝,越打越重手,更影響一家人的關係.有一次鄧靄琳猛然發現佢個囝將自己畫成一 ...

littlefaith

原帖由 traeh 於 09-10-28 17:19 發表
鄧藹霖大仔從喇沙轉讀國際學校．其實除咗佢個仔讀傳統學校出問題，我記得鄧藹霖都係唔識處理壓力，例如同其他家長比較，於是成日谷個仔，影響親子關係．如有記錯，請指教．

...

讀得名校，都好難唔會比較，一比較就有壓力，呢個係千古不變嘅事實。

所以，如果小朋友唔叻，谷唔起，就真係唔好夾硬嚟，成績差事小，影響小朋友心智發展事大。

當然，慕名而報名校者，仍大有人在。

misu

我覺得小朋友就算谷得起，第時都會愛比較。長大後較難得到內心快樂。如果係叻嘅去邊間學校都會讀得叻。最重要小朋友董得自發及有自信。到中學根本無得谷。

GIPW

Parents are now hard to do and I am lost.  One hand we wish they got high mark and on the other we afraid the pressure is too big.  Once they are pushing themselves to get high mark, we are afraid that they will only 死讀書 , to strive for marks and ignore the joyeous of studying.

This is an never ending struggling of mine