學之園(海逸校)06K1

LydiaWong

ljsze,Doris,
I agree with you, ljsze, Chinese tends to be overprotective, esp Hk people. That's why you can see from the news that kids at 6 or even older  do not know how to take care of themselves.
What I expect and hope is that my kid can grow up happily, with good EQ (it's very important in this era in order to survive) and be a kind person. That's the way I teach Preston. Some people with high IQ but don't have good career coz their EQ is low. That's why I concern about his emotion. He hehaves well at school and at home, only at places he doesn't feel secure enough, he'll act odd. I'm sure why but just hope he'll improve as he grows older.

Doris,
Thansk for your info, maybe I'll talk to the doctor and see if I can get a referral. I'll let you know once I contact the private ones.

ljsze

Lydia

I see your point now.  You're right.  People performing good academically doesn't mean they will have good career prospect.

Is Preston still taking gym class ?  Do u think it helps him ?

LydiaWong

ljsze,
Preston is still going to the 'Little Gym'. He is not good physically so it helps him to develop some of the skill, e.g. forward roll. However, Preston needs warm-up every time and like to attach to the teacher instead playing with the kids.

ljsze

It's a good opportunity to let Davin play at Little Gym this Sun & I can see if it's good for him.

DorisTSL

ljsze, Lydia,

Brian joined 'My Gym' in Hung Hom for 10 classes.  We didn't continue as the time slot is not a perfect one (1.10-2.10pm).

Lydia,

It's true that EQ is very important for personal development.  This is what I concern most about Brian as he is too weak in it.  Miss Cheng called me yesterday and we discussed about Brian's emotion in the recent weeks.  It's good that she gave me some valuable suggestions.  I hope it will work on Brian.

LydiaWong

ljsze,Doris,
Miss Cheng is a really good teacher. Maybe we should do something at the end of the year to appreciate her effort.

ljsze

Doris

Is there a problem with Brian's EQ recently ?  Does it happen at school or at home ?

Lydia, Doris

I had given compliment about Miss Cheng when I talked to the principal some time ago.  The principal also knew she's a good teacher.

DorisTSL

Lydia,

Thank you so much for your invitation to Preston's birthday party.  We all enjoyed so much and we had a wonderful time in Little Gym.

ljsze,

Brian cannot control his emotion in school recently.  Miss Cheng said he couldn't get along well with his classmates sometimes.  I understand that it's normal as a stage of child development.  Brian could always tell me in which way he was wrong and what he should have done.  It's just he couldn't control himself at a particular moment.

Miss Cheng gave me some suggestions to help Brian.  I hope I can see the effect soon.

ljsze

Doris, Lydia

Davin also enjoyed a lot in the party.  When we left, he thought we were going back to the gym area.  When he noticed that we weren't going there, he cried.  He loved the place I think.

Do you notice that your son will get mad easily when he does not take any afternoon nap ?  Davin does so.

Doris

I know what you are talking about now.  Actually, I observed that Brian had a 'little' fight with Hei Hei.  Did you see this ?  He's so cute & would be more adorable if he can manage his EQ better.

LydiaWong

ljsze,Doris,
Thanks for coming to the party. Glad to know that the kids enjoyed it. Maybe you can let Davin join the gym, Preston has changed the class to Sat 6-7pm and it's focus on sports and gym skills.
Preston also has similar problem. He knows exactly what to do and what's not to do, however, he'll still lose control at that particular moment. I guess the EQ of kids nowadays are worse than the old times coz most of the kids are spoiled at home.
Preston will get crazy when he's sleepy. Like last night when we came back home after dinner (~9:00pm, usually he should be ready to bed), he said he's not sleepy and wanted to play. He then struggled and cried for a while and daddy calmed him down and he fell asleep after 5 min. (~10:00pm, even earlier than usual). Miss Cheng asked us to let Preston study whole day class so she has more time to spend on him. The only worry is that I'm afraid he can't sleep at school and will go crazy at night every day. I need to consider this well b4 I make the decision.

ljsze

Lydia

You mean Preston slept earlier than usual ?  It's normal since he did not sleep during daytime.  Whenever Davin does not take afternoon nap, he sleeps very early (mostly b4 10pm).  Last night he slept at about 9:15pm.  The problem is he usually wakes up in the middle of the night & I have to help him sleep again.

Why did Miss Cheng wanted to spend more time with Preston ?  Any special reason ?

LydiaWong

ljsze,
Miss Cheng said she wanted to spend more time with Preston so she can help him to improve his emotion and also he might improve more in an environment he felt most secure (other than home). He is the type of person who needs a lot of secruity and he gets nervous easily. We're still thinking as I mentioned b4 his naptime maybe disturbed.

ljsze

Lydia

How nervous is he ?  How does he behave that makes you worried ?

If your only concern is naptime, then I think it should not be a problem.  I guess most kids can adapt fairly quickly.  The only point that you may consider is that they will sleep for only 1 hour.

DorisTSL

Lydia,

Am I right that Preston joined Heep Hong training before?  Will you consider Heep Hong again?  It's very nice of Miss Cheng that she is willing to offer help.  But if you think nap time is really a problem for Preston, Heep Hong can be another choice.

ljsze,

Brian also thought that he would be back to the gym after the party.  However, he forgot everything when he saw the balloons.  He likes the colour green very much.  Once he's got the green balloon, he was satisfied and he didn't ask for going to the gym room again.

LydiaWong

Doris,
Brian also likes green color too? Preston is crazy about green, he wants eveything in green. He joined Heep Hong b4 and the teacher said he's OK. But I guess he's now older and the problem may be different.

ljsze,Doris,
I don't know if he really has a problem. But too me, sometimes he acts so strange that make me worried. I talked to the Principal and she also advised me to go for an assessment and find out the problem and see if he needs any help. Anyway, I'll try to take it easy and let him develop naturally.

ljsze

Lydia, Doris

Davin has been crazy about computer games in the past week.  He can play for an hour.  Good thing is that he manage to use the mouse.  On the other hand, he doesn't really want to stop & study time & story time has been reduced.  Any change in the liking & behaviour of your kid recently ?

LydiaWong

ljsze,
Preston used to like to play the computer games too, like Sesame street, Thomas, etc. When Preston likes to do something and I want him to stop, I'll tell him in advance like 10 more min, 5 more min, 3 more min.... I also used a timer to count down the time (he's afraid of the timer now) or I showed him the clock and told him to stop playing when the long arm touched 12, something like that. And I made him promise me and I said a promise is a  promise and no more arguments. And so far he's pretty good at this. You can try this with Davin.

ljsze

Lydia

Thanks for your input.  I tried the method of 'x more mins' but not worked.  Maybe the clock or timer is better.  He's also interested in looking at the clock.

LydiaWong

ljsze,
Have you tried the method with Davin tonight? Sometimes the more you want them to do, the more they'll do the opposite (preston is like that sometimes). They have their own ideas and quite stubborn.

DorisTSL

ljsze, Lydia,

It's Brian who used to use the 'x more min rule'.  Whenever I ask him to do something, like waking up from bed for stop playing his toys, he will ask for a few more minutes.  Usually, he can do whatever I want him to when time is up.

Brian doesn't like computer games much.  However, he loves using the mouse.  Whenever I teach him chinese characters using computer, he will ask for clicking with mouse.