家有自閉傾向的小朋友......

Chr336

Pamam,

My son has 自閉傾向 and I don't know I should send him to 全日幼兒中心 or choose among these 3 kinders.  I am afraid that he can't study well in these 3 kinders, however, I want to try to see whether he can make it or not.  If he can't make it and I need to find other for him, it will waste time.  Therefore, I don't know what to do.   

Can anyone gives me suggestion?

Chr336.

pamam 寫道:
chr336,

Sorry, I thought you are talking about primary school. But what is your son's problems? Is he just developmental delayed or with A-features?

I guess your son's problem is not very serious because both Kentville and St. Cat have offered him a place. From what I know, Kentville has lots of homework and St. Cat is becoming more and more demanding too, don't know anything about Kln Rhenish School.

If you do worry about homework and pressure, you may consider sending your son to other kindergartens (not necessarily I-seat) eg, Creative or Ling Liang Church, both kinders are open-minded and have relatively less homework.  

Pamam

My younger son went to St. Cat's interview but they only put him to waiting list.

sjmama

各位朋友：

非常感謝你們的支持與忠告！在這裡我感到有如家庭般的溫暖！

昨天帶了小女去見兒童發展方面的私家醫生，這位醫生年初時也見過小女，那時她已經提醒我們小女可能會有subtle的問題。昨天的評核結果是：小女可能是Asperger/ High-functioning Autistic Spectrum Disorder/ Nonverbal Learning Disability, 不過因為她年齡還小，所以醫生只給了一個label：Mild PDD。醫生的看法是：小女智能方面很好，語言發展也可以，但欠缺社交語言與觀貌辨色的能力。

至於大肌小肌的發展，則要到星期六才有OT的詳細報告。

我們現在面對的難題是要盡快決定：讓小女排英語的EETC(Watchdog)還是廣東話的EETC(這位醫生可以填寫Form II，直接拿去社署排)？按醫生的建議是小女應該去Watchdog, 讓她在她覺得有信心的環境學習與人相處。

我也曾想過把小女轉去廣東話的環境，但是她的適應能力真的非常低，她好不容易才享受現在國際學校的playgroup，我們原來的計畫是讓她今年九月在原校唸kindergarten，希望能減少她適應上的困難。

在家裡我們主要用英語溝通，一方面因為兒子只能講英語，另一方面也為了讓妹妹能與哥哥多溝通。如果要改為跟小女只講廣東話，我們就沒辦法維持單純的語言環境了。

最近兩個月我也帶了小女參加幾個協康的活動，她的表現很不好，常常哭鬧、跑開。上星期六帶她去了bilingual 的playgroup，她在廣東話小組也是跑開，在英語小組時才參與了些活動。

我們很擔心如果把她轉去廣東話的環境，反而影響她的發展！

然而，現實是我們不能不考慮財政能力，所有英語的服務既少且貴，排Watchdog的EETC 要9個月至一年，去Watchdog路途遙遠，接送安排也增加財政負擔。但外子的看法是：我們不能因為財政原因，不讓小女在她感到快樂的地方學習，那對她不公平！

今年初當Edu Psy的報告說兒子是moderate autism時，我就一直內疚，總是想如果當初我們能夠負擔ABA Training(據說非常有效，但每個月要2-3萬港元)的費用，或者兒子的情況不致倒退……

我非常擔心會做錯決定。請問各位有何高見？
:cry:

mrsphcheung

Dear sjmama,
ABA (applied behaviour analysis) may not work out a magic on your child.  It provides mechanical training to children with severe autistic features.  I know a mom who sends the child to take ABA for years but the child does not show great improvement.  Don't feel regretful for not sending your son to ABA!  You have done your best.

HayBMum

Sorry Mrsphcheung,
I cannot agree with your view.  My son is currently receiving ABA training and has shown increditable improvement with just few months' training.  His cognitive, learning ability, speech and social skills are improved a lot.  But I agree that not all children can benefit from ABA especially for those kids whose sensory problems are severe or have learning disability.  Two of the kids I know do not show great improvement due to these problems.  However, for those parents I know, majority of their kids can benefit from this training.
I totally share the concern of sjmama on the financial burden of ABA as I am just a middle class working mum.  It's really costly and dry out my family's income!  So I am so pleased to know some parents who are doing something to help those families in need to source the ABA therapist at the cost as low as possible.  These parents are not making any profit for helping the others.  They simply want to help those who are suffering and facing the same situation as they did before. Unfortunately what they can do now is only for English speaking kids.

sjmama, perhaps you may feel that I am quite hard-selling the ABA.  But really I am not.  Frankly speaking, I don't think it is a miracle training. It's just a kind of systematic training method that all of us can acquire by learning.  If I was not aware of your husband's presence in my favourite parent's website, I will not PM you to talk about my experience.  Just really want to help when I see your desperate message. Please ignore my messge to you if it makes you feeling regret. I am so sorry to make you upset.

pamam

Dear sjmama,

don't feel guilty about past decisions, like other moms said, you have done your best, being a mom, we always feel we have not done enough.

It took me a long time before deciding to put my younger son to local school. My hushand hated the local school system and he thought it would be unfair to place our younger son to local school while his elder brother is in international school. But finally we concluded to let the younger one try the local school first, if he is 'normal', then we can still send him to international school at P2 or P3.

I was very worried when I switched my son from international playgroup to local nursey, he is a fussy child, picky eater too. Surprisingly he has no problem settling in the new school, I think the main reason is his class teachers are very kind and the school atmosphere is good, no pressure at all. I might have changed my mind if he felt very unhappy there.

Your case is tough, honestly, if I were you, I wouldn't know what to do too. All I could do is give you moral support. Hope other moms can offer you some advices. What about Dr. T?


Pamam

kmwun

stellacl

都係要等到8月至知，不過負責人葉太提過因為資源有限佢地只可以收到升小二的小朋友，因為之後這些小朋友就無機會所以會優先收，去年就有兩個升小一的小朋友收唔到，承諾在今年收．我都好希望可以與你仔仔一齊上堂！

kawai

Dear sjmama,

我覺得你應該讓女兒繼續學習英語,試想象哥哥跟妹妹一起生活,但一個講英語,另一個講粵語. 此言語環境下既混淆又麻煩.你同爸爸成日要Nicam,好辛苦

Chr336

請問各位，
有沒有人給有自閉傾向的小朋友參加青蔥的幼兒訓練？我仔仔上咗三堂，但個人覺得好似沒有太大作用，個導師只係同佢玩遊戲，跟住叫我哋返去同佢玩．唔知係唔係自己要求高．
但不上這些課程就好似對個仔唔住，真的不知怎麼辦．

janet7903

Chr336
請問你比仔仔上這個訓練目的是想仔仔在這課堂學會什麼或想改善什麼呢？

我無參加青蔥計劃的幼兒訓練，但之前同仔仔參加過另一間中心的幼兒訓練，是訓練小肌肉、手眼協調咁，但玩得多真的有些進步的。
P.S:仔仔穿珠仔時有"彈手指"的習慣，現在好些了，但間中都有彈手指的。

hinhinmummy

Chr336

你估食西藥咩, 甘快見效 講笑咋, 不好嬲呀!

軒軒做左差不多一年(上年8,9月開始的), 到依家, 上星期上堂, 姑娘話佢比起初去的時侯, 叻左好多, 專心左好多, 還話, 如果讀埋s位, 好快好似家姐甘叻

雖然不知佢係氹我開心(由工人講返比我聽), 定係真心, 但係我聽左之後, 比左好大的鼓勵我, 努力呀!

真係要返屋企做功課架.

軒軒今期不肯做功課, 係甘擰頭, 擰到個頭就黎甩

承承媽媽

各位,
好耐無見呀!
我個仔尋日去麻麻地見精神科醫生,醫生見承承入房時又叫佢早晨,跟住又聽到佢講唔該,就話佢進步咗好多,於是乎下次見佢要半年之後再見.不過舊年十月話幫阿仔排d小組,到依家都未有聲氣,好似話要排一年至有位喎......   

Hei媽

Chr336

我都同hinhinmummy有同感,吵仔又係舊年8月開始做幼兒訓練,好明顯

Chr336

janet7903/hinhinmummy/Hei媽,

好多謝你哋嘅支持同鼓勵,我都知唔會即刻見效,但見上堂的時候,個位導師只是和仔仔玩吓,跟住叫我哋番屋企同佢玩,見個導師唔係什麼專業的人(我覺得),好似只係找個人同佢玩45分鐘左右,但是要收$350一堂,好貴呀!
你哋係唔係都係一星期一堂呀?

hinhinmummy

chr336

佢地係搵幼兒導師教小朋友架, 果d通常係在協康教的姑娘黎架, 大多都有教呢類小朋友的經驗.

不好看小玩玩下d玩具呀! 真係有用架, 但就真係要返屋企同佢操lor.

承承媽媽
好耐無見啦wor, 你去左邊呀?

reginang

承承媽媽
你浦左去邊呀,咁耐唔見你    
幾時過嚟71會傾兩句啫  

承承媽媽

Hei媽,
我係見Dr.Lee,佢都幾nice,不過佢尋日特別幫我問姑娘,佢地d姑娘話......依家要排一年至可能有位呀!   
佢叻乜呀!最主要都係佢幼兒園o既老師教得佢好咋!
我自己教的話,分分鐘變虐兒都有呀!   

承承媽媽

Chr336,

有時我地見d導師教小朋友的東西好似好簡單,但係佢地會識得用d可以幫到小朋友的方法,和針對他們需要的方向來做.有時他們亦會糾正我們的教法的.
好像承承依家上言語治療,每次上課都好似好簡單的東西,但治療師會教我們在家可以用甚麼方法/訓練目的使他們在家中受訓練得進步.
好似呢期阿仔學緊簡單對答,佢有時答得對,有時答你和他心想的卻又相反,令我不知他是不明白,還是故意玩我?!不過我和治療師討論過後,她叫我若有些問題承承答錯,我要立刻告訴他正確的答案.