家有自閉傾向的小朋友......

jeffyim

我有個囝囝Thomas亦都係有自閉症傾向的，現就讀兼收位的幼兒中心。
不過我是爸爸，我見呢度發言的多數係媽媽。摻唔摻我呢？

mrsphcheung

Of course.  Parents who care about the development of their children are welcome to share their experience and feelings here.
  

jeffyim 寫道:
我有個囝囝Thomas亦都係有自閉症傾向的，現就讀兼收位的幼兒中心。
不過我是爸爸，我見呢度發言的多數係媽媽。摻唔摻我呢？

Babytweety

There so many brave mom/ papa to share their valuable experience here. I know that I am not alone...

tin_tin

jeffyim 寫道:
我有個囝囝Thomas亦都係有自閉症傾向的，現就讀兼收位的幼兒中心。
不過我是爸爸，我見呢度發言的多數係媽媽。摻唔摻我呢？

my son is also called Thomas, 有自閉症傾向的. He will go to 兼收位的幼兒中心  August this year.  

ClaudeeMa

Hi jeffyim & tin_tin,

  My son is now 3 and he has developmental delay and 有自閉症傾向 also.  He will also go to 兼收位的幼兒中心 August this year!

Best of luck!

Babytweety

Hi all,  

My son is almost 3.5 years old and he is developmental delayed, weak in social communication. He started his I seat at last Aug , his幼兒中心 is located in Chai Wan. He get ST training and Heephong training once a week . And I would like to seek for OT. Any good OT to recommend?

Thanks a lot.

ClaudeeMa 寫道:
Hi jeffyim & tin_tin,

  My son is now 3 and he is developmental delayed and 有自閉症傾向 also.  He will also go to 兼收位的幼兒中心 August this year!

Best of luck!

janet7903

jeffyim 寫道:
我有個囝囝Thomas亦都係有自閉症傾向的，現就讀兼收位的幼兒中心。
不過我是爸爸，我見呢度發言的多數係媽媽。摻唔摻我呢？

jeffyim
這個TOPIC好似無話"男士不得進入"這些字眼喎。 當然歡迎你入黎啦。
歡迎你呀。   

sjmama

Dear Gigi, Mrs Cheung and pamam,

Thank you very much for your words of comfort and encouragement!

Just can't afford, both psychologically and financially, to have two kids with developmental problems....We have used up most of our income to pay for our son's various training and therapies. I really don't know where to get the "extra" resources for our daughter....

:cry:

mrsphcheung

Dear sjmama,
I am extremely sorry for your situation.  As I really don't know how to help you, I will pray for your family.  May God bless you.  

稚言治語

sjmama 寫道:
I really don't know where to get the "extra" resources for our daughter....

Dear sjmama,

How old is your daughter?  If there is a doubt that your girl has some traits of any problem, please seek for professional help.  I understand how bad it is both psychological and financially having more than one (or two, poor sjmama!) children who have developmental problem but we have to face it, right?  Queue up for government service at the moment is highly recommended.  It will take a little more time but still better than just sitting there.

All the best.

Dr.T

1. 小朋友在訓練中的進度時快時慢不足為奇,不要因一時的停滯不前而灰心啊!而且感覺統合和聽覺統合(尤其是後者),嚴格來說都是另類療法,每個人的反應都不盡相同...

2. 囡囡在那些地方進展不太理想呢?

sjmama 寫道:
1...my son didn't make any marked improvement these days, in spite of having more OT/SI treatment, as well as the auditory stimulation program.
2...my daughter followed a very similar trend with my son's developmental profile, she is OK in cognitive development but is delayed in most other aspects, around 18months only.

pamam

Dear sjmama,

maybe you can consider switching your daughter from going to international kinder to a local kinder. That's what I am doing with my younger son. From what I have experienced, govt support(PT, OT and ST) for Cantonese speaking children is much better provided than English speaker. Also lots of other Cantonese private courses are cheaper too.

You may worry that your son is English speaker but your daughter is becoming a Cantionese speaker, but I have friends who are doing the exact same things for financial reasons, it seemed that their kids are doing well. We only have limited resources, we need to weigh against the pros and cons for our children. We are not talking about a  battle for a year or two, this battle is going to be a rather long one.

On top of that, there are more local schools which accepted development delayed kids than international school.

Please pm me if you need someone to talk to.

Pamam

mrsphcheung

Dear sjmama,
My son used to speak English and attended international pre-school before.  We chose to let him use Cantonese in Jan 2004 and his speech is age appropriate right now (5 years old).  We felt very unhappy when we changed his language.  We did this just because there are more rehabilitation services in the market and the prices are more reasonable.  This is what I think --- If my son lives in Hong Kong for the rest of his life, Cantonese is much more important than English; he must master the local language in order to live in the community.

According to your previous description, your daughter is very smart and is younger than my son when I changed his language.  There should be no problem if you change her language.   DON'T GIVE UP.  MANY MOMS ARE HERE TO SUPPORT YOU.

      

Chr336

pamam 寫道:
sjmama,

don't be unhappy, seek another professional advice and I am sure they can work out something to help your girl.

Some professsionals can be very subjective and jump to conclusion too quickly, I don't know if I have told you, my son's PT thought my son should go to special school and there is no chance he can get into or stay in the mainstream school.......but other professionals and his school all thought he should be ok and would benefit most in a mainstream school.

I used to get very upset by the PT's comment, so I came to this forum and got lots of support from other moms especially from you. Don't despair! We are all here for you. We know our children best,  if you don't agree with that professional's opinion, seek another one, maybe Dr. T? Meanwhile, just continue training your girl.

Pamam

Pamam,

I want to know that your son is now studying in mainstream school or not?  Is it possible to study in mainstream school, I am worry about this.  My son has admitted in mainstream school and will be start in Sept 2005, however, I am afraid that he can't pick up the workload in mainstream school.  My son is now waiting for I-seat but need to wait about one year time.  What can I do?

Chr336.

pamam

Chr336,

my son is studying at ESF P.1, he got help from the learning support teacher regularly. His school knows his condition before taking him in. He didn't do too well in the first term but he is picking up nicely from the second term, his teachers have certainly helped him a lot.

I am not too sure about the arrrangement of the local school, but my friend's son(who also got A-features) has been accepted by a famous boy's school (LX SXXXX)in the coming September. I think it's no harm trying, but it would be better to brief the school and his teacher before school starts, it will make your son's life easier. If it doesn't work out, then you can consider other alternative, eg switch to I-seat.

It's hard to tell whether your son can cope or not at the mainstream school, it all depends on the attitude of his school. My son's fine motor skill is very weak and cannot write very well. I was very worried but his teacher is very open-minded and  suggested us to teach him type so he could work at the computer. I also heard stories from other moms that they fight with their sons' school(local schools at Kowloon Tong) for lighter workload and easier exam paper and succeeded.

Pamam   

  

Chr336

Pamam and all,

My son has been admitted to Kowloon Rhenish School Kindergarten, Kentville Kindergarten and St. Catherine's International Kindergarten respectively.  I don't know I should try for my son or not in this September.

Chr336.

pamam 寫道:
Chr336,

my son is studying at ESF P.1, he got help from the learning support teacher regularly. His school knows his condition before taking him in. He didn't do too well in the first term but he is picking up nicely from the second term, his teachers have certainly helped him a lot.

I am not too sure about the arrrangement of the local school, but my friend's son(who also got A-features) has been accepted by a famous boy's school (LX SXXXX)in the coming September. I think it's no harm trying, but it would be better to brief the school and his teacher before school starts, it will make your son's life easier. If it doesn't work out, then you can consider other alternative, eg switch to I-seat.

It's hard to tell whether your son can cope or not at the mainstream school, it all depends on the attitude of his school. My son's fine motor skill is very weak and cannot write very well. I was very worried but his teacher is very open-minded and  suggested us to teach him type so he could work at the computer. I also heard stories from other moms that they fight with their sons' school(local schools at Kowloon Tong) for lighter workload and easier exam paper and succeeded.

Pamam   

  

pamam

chr336,

Sorry, I thought you are talking about primary school. But what is your son's problems? Is he just developmental delayed or with A-features?

I guess your son's problem is not very serious because both Kentville and St. Cat have offered him a place. From what I know, Kentville has lots of homework and St. Cat is becoming more and more demanding too, don't know anything about Kln Rhenish School.

If you do worry about homework and pressure, you may consider sending your son to other kindergartens (not necessarily I-seat) eg, Creative or Ling Liang Church, both kinders are open-minded and have relatively less homework.  

Pamam

My younger son went to St. Cat's interview but they only put him to waiting list.

gigi2

stellacl,

no blame to him la!  Actually all our husbands are very good to take care the children and let mommies enjoy chit chit chat chat so long!

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