學之園(海逸校)06K1

ljsze

Lydia, Doris

I had the chance to talk to Miss Cheng this morning.  She said Miss Jill was very sick.  Just arrived.  Lot of pressure...finding accomodation, adapting to new environment...  She has high blood pressure...  She said Miss Jill would definitely return.  Hope that she would get well soon.

Lydia

I think every working mom has got the same problem as you do.  I've got a friend who's a teacher.  She likes being a teacher but job duties are simply too heavy.  She doesn't have the time for family.  Plus some other personal issues.  She finally quitted the job & will become a full-time mom in Jan 07.  She'll be taking care of her two kids.  I'm so happy for her.

Though my job does not occupy much time, I still find myself extremely lack of time for my own.  You know when you return home, 90% of your time will be hanging with your kid.  I can hardly have the time for reading or doing something else that I like.  I'm seriously thinking of working less when Davin goes to primary school.

Any plan for a 2nd child ?  This is ideal case.  In reality, I won't do so.  Too much pressure to me.

Do you plan to have another one, Lydia ?

DorisTSL

ljsze,

Thanks for your info about Miss Jill.  Hope she will get well soon.

ljsze, Lydia,

I really want to have a 2nd child.  I think it's good for Brian's development and for the whole family.  It will be a burden to Brian when both my husband and I get old.  He (and his wife) will be the only one to take care of us.

However, my parents are getting older and older.  I am afraid it will be too hard for them to take care of one more kid.

I enjoy my present life as a working Mom and I don't want to quit in the near future.  Still struggling.

ljsze

Doris

It's good to hear that you enjoy your present life.  She should like your job, I guess.

LydiaWong

ljsze,Doris,
Preston went for optometry follow-up today. After wearing the glasses for 3 months, there is no improvement in his right eyesight. The development is still lagging behind the left eye(which is normal). The optometrist was afraid the right eye would become lazy eye and could not develop well (coz he's compensating with his left/good eye). Now his left eye needs to be covered 3 hours a day so as to force his right/bad eye to use more for better development. So in case you see Preston with his eye covered, please don't make any comments or just say his bandage is pretty. He is a sensitive boy and very aware of what other people say. I'll tell Miss Cheng and hope he will cooperate and hopefully he doesn't need to cover his eye for a long time.

DorisTSL

Lydia,

Do you plan to let Preston cover his eye for three hours in school or at home?  He will use his eyes more in school so it is a good choice to do it in school.  However, if Preston is aware of what other people say, you may consider letting him cover his eye at home for a short period of time before doing it in school.

Lydia, ljsze,

My family went to Macau and China last weekend.  Brian enjoyed so much.  It's good that he didn't vomit in turbo jet this time.  I let him hold the towel he used to use in bed.  He fell asleep soon after the turbo jet started.  However, dining is still a problem.  Brian was reluctant to try new food and he didn't like meat much.  He only ate a little in each meal.  Luckily, I have brought some milk powder and he could drink some milk before napping and sleeping.

ljsze

Lydia

I was just about to ask you what happened to Preston after I saw him this morning.  Hope that he would overcome this difficult period & get back to normal soon.

Doris

Which part of China did you visit ?  Personally, I hate the southern part of China.  Unfortunately, my in-laws have got quite many relatives in PRC.  I have no choice but to go from time to time.  My husband also doesn't like China & so we seldom go there.  We have to go to for a wedding banquet (lunch) & we'll get back after lunch.  My sister-in-law can skip because her daughter has to prepare for exam.

Doris, Lydia

Miss Jill has not yet reported duties.  Poor her !

DorisTSL

ljsze,

My family went to 珠海.  My parents owned an small apartment there.  Personally, I don't like going back to China much.  It's always time wasting to take turbo jet and coach bus for over 2.5 hours to get there.  

However, my parents always want us to go.  Everyone was free last weekend so we went there finally.

Miss Cheng called me last Friday and we talked about Brian and Miss Jill.  Miss Cheng said Miss Jill was really unwell and may need some more time.  Miss Bai will take her role at the moment.

ljsze

Doris

Agree.  If there's a lot to do, it's better.  For me, if we go to their 'home town', I've got nothing to do at all.  Yet, somehow you have to answer to their request since they want their grandparent to visit 'home town' at least once.  To be honest, it means nothing to the kids.  They won't relate themselves to so-called 'home town'.

I also remember that the daughter of my sister-in-law also visited once or twice only.

LydiaWong

ljsze,Doris,
Preston got his one eye covered for the 1st day today. Miss Cheng said he was a bit shy and uncomfortable in the beginning. Then she asked Preston to come out in front of the class and told the classmates why he needed to cover one eye. He said mom gave this bandage to him because his left eye was good. It's so funny that some classmates asked for bandage as well if their eyes were good. Miss Cheng said he was better than the 1st day he wore the glasses. Hope his bad eye can develop better soon.

I'm lucky I don't have to go to China at all. I don't have any relatives in china and I have no interest going back. I'm always afraid to bring Preston to china coz I heard a lot of horrible stories about kidnapping children. I don't think I'll bring Preston to China unless necessary or until he's older.

ljsze

Lydia

Lucky you that you don't have to go to China.  Anything can happen in China.  It's developing very fast.  People hungry for money.  Negative effect of birth control.  Corruption....

Beijing or Shanghai is better.

Russia is also terrible, I mean robbery.

DorisTSL

Lydia, ljsze,

I have also heard of many terrible stories about kidnapping kids in China.  This is one of my concern.  

My parents brought Brian to China on Friday afternoon while my husband and I were still in work and we had to meet them on Sat morning.  Brian had to stay overnight with my parents.  Luckily, they were responsible and so I am sure Brian would be safe with them.  However, I am not sure if my relatives there are 'responsible' enough to take care of Brian.  It always gave me trouble when we dined out and my relatives wanted to bring Brian out for a walk.  Didn't know how to refuse.

ljsze

Doris

The answer is you cannot refuse.  You do not meet your relatives that often & I think it's not quite good to refuse.

My in-laws won't ask for taking my son to China without us.  I also won't let this happen.  I have to see them 365 days a year & I hate being a part of them or being a shadow going out for a trip with them.  What's worse, if they've got relatives coming to HK, sometimes they may stay with us.

DorisTSL

ljsze,

I can understand the problem you face.  My situation is better than yours.  To me, their presence is important.  Although I can't prevent any conflict from happening, they do help me a lot in taking care of Brian.

By the way, Brian sang a song about Davin last Saturday in Putongua, "我愛Davin Mak, 我愛Davin Mak, ......."  So funny!  But when I asked him about this song, he couldn't tell me anything.  When I asked him to sing the song again the next day, he said he couldn't remember.

ljsze

Doris

They are your own parents & so my situation is a bit different.  Of course, I have to give credit to them taking care of my son.  Yet, I really don't want to live with them forever.  The ideal case is that we live close to each other & so they can still take care of my son if I don't have the time.

My son also mentioned the name of your son from time to time, but in Chinese name.

Doris, Lydia

I checked the Mandarin textbook each Tue & Thur & it seems that their progress in learning Mandarin is a bit slow.  Any comments ?

My son enjoyed the topic of car last week.  It's good that kids brought cars back to school & they can play the cars of their friends for a while.  I like this idea.

LydiaWong

ljsze, Doris,
You guys should feel lucky that there are grandparents that are willing to take care of your son. My mom doesn't like to take responsiblities and she doesn't really know how to take care of kids. She just comes to play and has fun maybe once a week. (although she lives very close, it doesn't mean she can come over, I was unhappy at the beginning, but now I'm OK with it). My 99 is too old and she needs someone to take care her too.

Preston has a flu today and did not go to school.

BTW, Preston will invite your sons, esp. Davin(he always just mention inviting Davin) to his birthday party in Jan 21 3:30-5:00pm. Will you be availble, let me know so I can know how many kids are coming. Thx.

ljsze

Lydia

Though timing is not that perfect (normally my son sleep during that period), Davin will probably join since they are good friends.

There are not many occasions that Davin can play with the other kids.  So, it's a good chance.

I know that not all parents like or are able to take care of our kids.  There are also good & bad sides of an issue.  I don't have much problem (some but not big issue) about my in-laws taking care of my son.  My issue is that I don't want to live with them.

Doris

We were back to school early today & I saw Cheuk Yan's mom told Brian not to '爭玩具'.  I thought she saw once that Brian '爭玩具'.  Does he do so often ?  I guess it's normal that kids sometimes do so.

DorisTSL

Lydia,

Does Preston feel better today?  Could he go to school this morning?  Hope he will get well soon.

Thanks for your invitation and Brian will probably join.  I will just let him wake up a bit late that morning so he can skip the afternoon nap.

By the way, I have collected Brian's photos from the Studio.  The quality is not bad.  Interested to take a look?  I also saw a cute photo of Christy (琳琳 which was in PNB last year) in their website.

ljsze,

Do you mean Cheuk Yan's mom stopped Brian from '爭玩具' or she just talked to Brian about this?  Miss Cheng told me that Brian's temper is a bit bad recently.  Whenever he wants something, he will reach for it instead of waiting.  Miss Cheng said it's normal.  However, I still think I have to do something.  Instead of scolding him or talking to him directly about it, I tried to use stories (the method was suggested by Miss Hung).  I am not sure if it will work but I think it needs time.

Thanks for telling me about this and please let me know if you see Brian misbehave again.

ljsze

Doris

Cheuk Yan's mom just talked to Brian about this.  He played cars with the others & everyone was happy (kids brought so many cars to school & so they don't have to 'fight' for one).

You can make Brian wake up later.  How ?  Recently, Davin only sleeps for about 8 hours at night.

LydiaWong

ljsze, Doris,
Thanks for bring Davin and Brian. I know it's not a good time (it's also Preston's naptime too) but that's the only time they got. The other slot is 5:30-7:00pm, I'm worried it's too late and it's dinner time. I guess one day without nap should be alright. I'll try to make him sleep a bit late the night b4 so he can wake up a bit later that am. Preston sleeps from 10:00-7:00am recently. I guess kids at this age doesn't need to sleep for too long.

Miss Jill is still sick, right?

ljsze

Lydia

Where are you going to hold the party ?  Davin usually sleeps late at night, so there's no point to let him sleep even later.  If he doesn't take nap during daytime, he can stay awake for at most 13 hours. How about Preston ?  Yesterday, he also did not take nap.  And, he slept from 9pm till 8am this morning.

You're right, Miss Jill is still sick.