送小朋友去學琴，為了甚麼 ?

Charlotte_mom

wewangwang
當然唔介意 我都係想個女試多樣野, 當然佢handle到2樣就最好啦, 我都唔想迫佢架....

tippi
(tippi? 係咪果個法國女仔? 我有佢本書架....)
我都係arm arm先見完小提琴老師, 過埋年就會上堂, 女女而家k3, 由於上左小學都要學violin, 所以唸住反正大班學, 怕佢學得唔好, 不如搵個好老師1:1好好地學lor

Charlotte_mom

vk1101
係呀, 我女女叫charlotte, 因為查字典話"petite & feminine"--我想佢唔好咁牛黃頭   

我個鋼琴老師同你一樣, 希望小朋友學得開心, 所以我個女上堂多野講, 老師都接受到, 仲話起碼show到佢仲有心機wor, 好過有d俾媽咪迫上堂, 堂堂都無表情, 叫佢做咩就做咩, 老師見到都悶
所以佢都幾鐘意我個女架(嘻嘻, 厚面皮), 佢介紹我既violin老師, 亦一樣鐘意家長放手俾佢教(唔係唔緊張, 係唔鐘意家長急功近利lor)
係呀, 次次我叫個女玩鋼琴啦, 彈咩都好啦, 佢就好開心"好野~~~"拎d舊書出黎, 我相信樂器可以係一件娛樂, 唔係一件功課, 好似如果只可以拎筆寫字, 唔可以畫畫, 俾我都唔掂支筆啦!
多謝你, 希望女女真係繼續培養到興趣啦, 你講得arm, 唔辛苦點會有成就, 人梗有慣性, 我覺得作為一個媽咪既role, 就係要教仔女點去overcome難關, 始終真正彈既又唔係我, 如果個女無晒興趣, 我迫佢上, 佢辛苦時我又辛苦, 所以我會努力架喇

Ruby1219

vk1101,

多謝你的意見和鼓勵.
雖然冷靜時我很清楚自己要求仔仔學琴的目的和要求,但過程中又真的有很多問題和煩惱.我希望將來他會好像你般得欣賞媽媽的苦心啦!
我已跟鋼琴老師商量過,決定不再要他今年十月考琴,但老師說想再看看他的情況.因為已教過了全部三首考試歌,仔仔亦把第一首彈得很好,也似乎很喜歡彈.
我就跟老師說,在練考試歌的同時請也教他其他有趣的歌仔,同時也不用迫他太緊去練考試歌.就因着他的自然進度去決定考試與否.你覺得這樣會可行嗎?

Charlotte_mom,

你囡囡的例子給我很大的啟發,我會效法一下,看有否改善.

Really thank a lot to both of you !!

Ruby

vk1101

你囡囡都唔牛黃頭啦，著條彩色裙仔o係海邊飄o下飄o下，幾 feminine 呀 ~~    

你囡囡咁細個就學琴 + 小提琴，都幾大挑戰，charlotte 要加油呀 !

Richard_Hui

Charlotte_mom & vk1101,

多謝妳們的分享。

學音樂最緊要是要學得快快樂樂，這樣才可事半功倍。

不過學音樂不單祗是多一種興趣或多一樣東西這樣簡化。

音樂被歸類為多元智能的其中一些，是有它的獨特性的。再且在學習、練習、表演、考試等等過程中，小朋友(或大朋友)必定能夠積累經驗。這些經驗又會在其他事情中使用出來。

Richard Hui

vk1101

Ruby,

我也是長大了，特別是開始教琴後，見到每個媽媽都這樣緊張子女，才知道媽媽從前對我也是一樣，沒有她鼓勵我，今天我甚麼都不懂了 ...      

所以我常說爸爸媽媽對小孩子學習真的很重要  

3 首考試歌都教過練熟了，那裏面的大細聲、拍子、感情 etc 呢 ? 還有他的 scale 和 aural 怎麼樣 ? 他有沒有在那一方面較突出 / 弱 ?

Charlotte_mom

vk1101
我都係見個女有心機學琴, 至敢俾多樣佢試咋....你知啦, 咁辛苦"搭上"個好老師, 如果好快又話無興趣, 到時好鬼尷尬架嘛...
我怕佢又要企, 又要拎住個琴, 嗌tired咋! 你都唔知我個女, 正一火麒麟周身癮, 仲想學埋畫畫呀, 上次睇電視見到兒童大戲, 又雙眼放光咁問我幾時可以去學 -_-""" 都唔知咩人黎架

睇黎要努力果個係我


ruby
多謝你睇我發up風就真, 放鬆d, 希望你仔仔搵到佢既興趣啦

安安

多謝你提醒左我, 以前我開始俾阿女學的時候係想佢學多d野, 但係我開始俾左d壓力佢, 每次坐埋個琴度我就迫佢做好d, 什麼我會鬧佢.... 我應該要放鬆d, 我唔想佢討厭音樂, 多謝你

Ruby1219

vk1101,

Hope you don't mind I use English. My Chinese typing (actually I was using the writing pad) is really slow...

I myself don't know piano, therefore, I can't comment whether his rythm, sentiments, scale and aural (what's aural in fact ?) good or not. And I really rely and trust on the teacher to teach my kid. I always believe that you have to give trust and freehand to the teachers for them to teach well. Actually, everyone is like that right ? Most motivated when they have the full confidence from the others !

And, I agree very much with you that parents have a big role in children's learning. And therefore I give myself pressure, but I really enjoy it too. And I believe this is the right thing to do and I'm sure that one day both myself and my son will feel glad about what we are doing now.

Thank you for your comments really ! It's good to have people remind me time by time. I really lose the direction sometime in the process.

Seems you don't have kid yourself ?

Ruby

Tippi

Hi Charlotte_mom:

係啊！這是我女兒的名
我希望她也熱愛大自然
你記得到時告訴我喎！！

thanks

sophiakwan

Hi Everyone,

I'm Sophia and very new to post here...... :wink:

請讓小孩子去愛音樂，不要怕音樂 !!!

I really agree with this thinking.  I've a son in 5 today (Jan 20), he refuses to go to piano class everytime (only a half an hour class per week), as he love to draw and play roller skate but not piano.  However, my hubby and I also want him to grow up with music, no matter to learn what kind of music instrument.  So on I only encourage him to go to attend the music class (eveytime just like fight with him), but not forcing him to get practise.  At least not to scare him in refusing to get in touch with music.

I know this may not a good way for kids to learn certain kind of techique, but I don't how to do, as I'm not a piano player as well.  :tongue:

Please advise! Thanks!

vk1101

中文英文都沒所謂，最緊要大家可以分享分享吧

父母不懂音樂不懂彈琴不要緊，只要父母和孩子同步學習 (例如一齊學數五線譜、數拍子，這些都是大人比小孩子容易做的地方，可以幫助小孩子學習)，其他的，只要找到一個你覺得可靠而小孩子又信任的老師，儘管交給老師吧 ! 始終老師有音樂知識，也有經驗，只要 keep 住同老師多 d 溝通就好好。Ruby，你放手給老師處理，老師真的會多點信心及多用功呢 !

aural 係考試其中一部份，要學生聽歌數拍子、唱歌、答問題的練習，如果小朋友怕醜或不喜歡音樂，呢 part 會難搞 d。

No need to say thank you, I want to try my best to have more happy children in the world, through music. Ruby, you are very important to your son, as he will influence others in future as well.

Enjoy music, enjoy life.

P.S. 我才20出頭，未有自己的小孩子，但有很黏人的學生，嘻 ~

vk1101

Richard_Hui 寫道:
Charlotte_mom & vk1101,

多謝妳們的分享。

學音樂最緊要是要學得快快樂樂，這樣才可事半功倍。

不過學音樂不單祗是多一種興趣或多一樣東西這樣簡化。

音樂被歸類為多元智能的其中一些，是有它的獨特性的。再且在學習、練習、表演、考試等等過程中，小朋友(或大朋友)必定能夠積累經驗。這些經驗又會在其他事情中使用出來。

Richard Hui

是的，當中的很著不能量化，但在成長路程中，不知不覺地幫助自己應付很多困難，那些經驗是難能可貴的。

謝謝 Richard Hui 的一番話，令我記起了學音樂這麼多年對我影響多大。

Charlotte_mom

"很黏人的學生" -- 嘻嘻, 咁樣上堂至有趣呢, 邊個老師想對住個苦口苦面既學生?

鋼琴比賽/考試, 暫時我未要面對, 比賽經驗, charlotte係有既(不過係體操/朗誦), 佢係屬於"期待演出"果隻, 鋼琴老師睇完佢表演既video, 雙眼放光, 話唔怕羞都係"天資"之一, 唔好side左佢, 而charlotte亦好有興緻, 自己要求帶琴書返學表演(佢鐘意舊歌就舊歌啦下, 最緊要大小姐鐘意)

都唔明點解我個女會係咁 不過學老師話齋, 希望遲d佢ready時, 可以"學以致用", 順便發揮下佢d厚面皮天份就得喇