教小朋友時會否很容易動氣

syliujoe

請問大家教小朋友時會否很容易動氣?尤其是當她有一些極容易的字也串不到時(其實之前識，只是不小心或不在意)我就會失控，但之後又非常後悔，因於事無補。現在她只是升小一，我不可以再這樣下去，大家有何高見？   

ming269800

可能你太過緊張佢,所以先會動氣,不如請補習先生教佢啦,唔使自己咁激氣.

emiluihk

syliujoe,

       嗯嗯 ... 我都發現自己有咁既問題,我都係容易動怒既人
我囡囡出年都升小一, 我擔心我都會係咁 , 但又好清楚明白
如果用咁既方法係無辦法敎好囡囡 ... [img align=right]http://www.hk-laufamily.com/_1089.gif[/img]
請大家多多指敎

Mrssslui

你地話小朋友駁晒咀係唔係仲激氣!!

sleeping-beauty

自從女兒前年升小學後，她開始親爸爸多個親我，原因是我平日太緊張她的成績，很易勞氣、

catherinetpk

我相信係人都唔想自己喺仔女心目中係惡媽媽,但做媽媽的又太緊張仔女的成績,所以先會這樣.請補習先生無疑係一個最好的解決辦法,但如果全職媽媽都請補習會唔會俾人覺得好懶呀?我係全職媽媽,我自己都好易動怒,所以唔想教佢.但如果我唔教佢,又唔使返工,變咗好似大食懶咁.你哋有咩意見?

syliujoe

多謝各位意見。其實我有想過請補習姐姐，但又恐怕她會太依賴，再者她得六歲人仔，如已開始補習又好似好緊張(起碼我的先生這樣說)。

catherinetpk
你是全職媽媽，其實應該比較容易handle，因不用與時間兢賽。我真是敵不過時間!!!

pamcheung

動氣梗係會啦, 以下情形特別容易:
1. 夏天收工後, 又熱又累
2. 睇佢做工課
3. 同佢溫習 (串字呀, 計數呀等等)
4. 兩姊妹唔禮讓大家
5. 提出我認為無理嘅要求
6. 特別日子前 (燥底)   :cry:
但如果唔係因為第6項出現, 1-5項出現時能耐會強d, 可以講道理.  同樣我都係重覆動氣, 後悔, 動氣, 後悔 ........ 唉......


syliujoe, 我都係咁話, 淨係趕住叫佢地食飯, 沖涼, 擦牙都煩啦, 仲未計做功課溫習, 心急但又唔可以做埋佢地果份家嘛.....

jena2468

我都係要返工嘅媽咪, 有時對住個仔, 都會好勞氣, 有時以為自己有燥狂症 :evil: 遲D 個女讀書, 唔知我會唔會再癲D呢    我都好想有人可以幫到我   

Clementmammy

After they went to school, our relationship became worse-not as good as before.

I am a working mother, I don't have time to look at them, therefore I call them in every 2 hours, make sure they are doing homework, praticing piano and do some studying. And now, they don't really want to pick up the phone sometimes-especially when they not start up their works yet.
I love them so much and I really don't want to force them. But if I not forcing them, who will??????
If the marks going down, is hard to push them up.

I am a mother use to hit my kids, especially when they are 2 years old-I am a very emotional person. But after I lean something call-身教. I did not hit them anymore no matter what my mood is. If I hit them, they will hiting someone else-that's I observe.
When you are in a bad mood, just go in your own room take a rest and drink a cup of water. If you hit them or say something which may hurt them, you can never recover the relationship.
Just relax and be a EQ mummy......

monkey妹

jena2468 寫道:
我都係要返工嘅媽咪, 有時對住個仔, 都會好勞氣, 有時以為自己有燥狂症 :evil: 遲D 個女讀書, 唔知我會唔會再癲D呢    我都好想有人可以幫到我   

me2! 我都係比較易勞氣嘅人, 可能遲d跟呀囡d功課時, 我會再癲d!!!     

syliujoe

jena2468
燥狂症？冇錯！一定是燥狂症！不過我真係唔想！點算好！

Clementmammy
你說得對，如果我們不迫他們，又會有誰？打和鬧其實我都試過，不過興幸是不致於不可收拾的地步！而且小朋友又是非常善忘，轉頭又會唔記得，只是自己內疚。   :-|

Mrssslui

me 2.
雙職父母最難做．
要同時間競賽，子女一D 都唔體諒，你同佢一齊既時間都唔好好珍惜．

AnnieClarabel

死啦, 我又係咁, 我成日都覺得自己 EQ 勁低, 每日我對住個仔都好

Ben2003

城市人生活繁忙緊張，競爭很大。

小朋友生活亦繁忙緊張，面對的競爭亦很大
(不過佢地未必知 .....咁先激死，是嗎？)。

易動氣是人之常情.... ......不用過於自責.....

唯有盡量減少動氣   ........不過，談何容易....

或者   ......如果值的讚的時候讚多些，可以平衡些.....  

gordon7e

me too.
I am also a working mom. Everyday after work is already around 7 o'clock. You have to grasp the limited time to revise with him while leaving some time to play with him.
My son is going to primary 1, he's the small child and I wonder this lead to his poor comprehensive power and understanding in learning. I need to repeat so many times which makes him feels boring and resistant.
Every time he does his homework, or revision, he still plays a lot. Sometimes playing his pencil, drop the pencil and pick up again. Asks for water, go to the toilet and bargain to do less. All these make me angry and uncontrolled to scold him. Every time after he cries, I have strong guilty feeling again. Am I requesting him too much? Or he should have a happy childhood like us? But I think the generation has changed, and if you go too slow, you will be at the back.
I also think of putting him to the educational centre after school, but my husband says I am too nervous whereas we may not afford to pay.
I feel exhausted. I agreed with all the moms who have the same feelings and know it is difficult to solve. I think we are not pushing our kids to be the top, but just want to fulfill a mother's responsibility and not to let him to be the bottom.

emiluihk

大家好呀  

      我女出年都要升小一, 現階段我都擔心緊有你地既
情況出現,所以有時見到其他大d 小朋友既家長都會多口
請敎佢地,如何幫小朋友溫習,最重要係大家都係要番工的,
相處時間真係小之又小,大多都會建議給小朋友製定一個
時間表及每日給他們溫習。

       我問過有一位家長幫小朋友溫習dictation既方法係
溫足一個星期, 每日給他問少少,平時行街多留意身邊的生字, 如路牌,招牌,告示牌 etc.

     um~~~ 我又覺得幾有道理及認同, 因我女細個時對
數字真係敎極都唔識,but 我諗出個遊戲係行街見到d 乜
有數字既就敎佢讀,過左無幾耐佢已經能吸收入腦 ...
hoho ... 所以有時多d帶佢去街都未必係壞事 ...   
暫時嚟講,我都仲可以用遊戲方式嚟敎囡囡認字同計數,
因我始終覺得小朋友應該係由遊戲來學習效果會比每日
對戰所得的成效高 ...

       希望這小小無聊的發表能給大家小小的幫助 ...
大家請繼續努力呀, 兒女才是父母的終身職業及成就 ...
加油     

syliujoe

gordon7e,

你說的我很認同，完全沒希望過她會很top，只是不想她會是最bottom。

pamcheung

Gordon7e,

Agreed.  We do not expect them to know everything but we do not want them to know nothing.......