點算好呀 , bb情緒好差....嗚嗚 (我做錯了 , pls help)

adosze

我承認做錯了 , 嗚嗚...請各位媽媽幫幫我 , 我應該點做...

大家做媽媽既都知bb有時都幾百厭架喇 , 我又冇咩耐性 , 有時bb百厭做錯野 , 我就會打佢手仔同鬧佢 .

我個bb囡(琳琳)e+18個月了 , 發覺琳琳脾氣同情緒都好似比以前差 , 例如會有時突然好扭計 , 喊到訓晒地...

今早帶琳琳上左第一次學習班 , 成班bb一齊玩 , 人地既bb就好乖 , 玩完玩具會識自己執 , 又坐定定同導師姐姐玩 , 但琳琳就唔肯執玩具 , 仲搶人地d玩具 , 又唔肯坐定定 , 而且平時都少接觸同年齡bb , 可能就係咁唔識同人相處

其實我係屋企都有教琳琳玩完自己執玩具 , 但佢執完又會再倒晒出黎 ...都唔知點教好...

then 今日食lunch , bb又試搞破壞 , 我就打佢手仔 , 坐係我對面有個伯伯同我講 , 唔好打喇 , bb"愈打愈惡"架 , 我當下先醒覺自己做錯左...怪唔得琳琳情緒咁差

我e+真係唔點做 , 如果bb再百厭 , 我應該點做好呢 ?

我睇到呢度好多媽媽都推薦dr.poon既班 , 係咪真係有用 ? 我見好多媽媽都話dr.poon教到佢地好多改善bb既技巧....

[ 本帖最後由 adosze 於 09-7-9 21:52 編輯 ]

eggmama

give 'time' to your bb to improve, she would learn from others in playgroup.
'Hitting' cannot solve problem (even only hands), it only means to your bb that 'hit someone is okay' , stop it and leave her alone (under your observation) can calm her down.
You are the best teacher of your bb, learn together.

原帖由 adosze 於 09-7-9 21:51 發表
我承認做錯了 , 嗚嗚...請各位媽媽幫幫我 , 我應該點做...

大家做媽媽既都知bb有時都幾百厭架喇 , 我又冇咩耐性 , 有時bb百厭做錯野 , 我就會打佢手仔同鬧佢 .

我個bb囡(琳琳)e+18個月了 , 發覺琳琳脾氣同情緒都好 ...

pamtabo

Yes, i agree ! 你要俾d時間你同bb, 大家都有改善空間. 我都遇過嚟個問題, 因為我要返工, 有時放工已好tired, 見到佢唔聽話, 就會打下佢, 但其實真係冇用, 只係大人自己發洩咗. bb都唔會理,只知道你打佢. 我依家盡量都唔會打, 會行開一陣, 等自己下咗火, 再同佢講道理. 我發覺有時小朋友百厭係想得到大人嘅注意, 如大人扯火, 佢就會更加同你作對. 所以如大人可以的話, 唔好用咁重嘅語氣閙, 俾多d愛佢. 希望令到小朋友都感受到愛. 冇辦法啦, 教育小朋友一d都唔簡單, 大家一斉努力 !!

Tiggercat

Talked to the consultant before. Not sure whether it works for you. Try to develop some rules for you and your kids first and follow it so it can avoid the inconsistent handling for the kids. They cannot follow when your rules keep changing esp they are too small to know the reason why you are angry. To him/her, it's right to do everything coz they don't know any"Standard rules" in their 1x months life. First of all, try to keep youself not too emotional, and then telling her/him that it's no use to yell on the floor, she/he should let you know what she/he wants even they cannot tell, but you should guess from their body language. When you talked to her for few times and ignore her action, she can follow your idea. Sometimes, it's just the adult have the preception what's going right and what's going wrong in their mind. Don't assume a Toddlers can guess what you want; I think your Husband may not know what you want sometimes. For Tidy up, she will know later which means after a few lessons for the playgroup as they learn quick.....don't push .........everything for them is stay tune.

HimHim小BB

嘗試用讚賞的方法, 都幾有效呀! 小朋友係好鐘意人哋嘅讚賞的.  我個仔係一個百厭星, 我教佢執玩具都教左好耐,你命令佢, 佢係唔會睬你.  只要你知道佢鐘意甚麼, 例如鐘意落公園玩, 咁你就同佢講"你執完玩具就帶你落公園玩" (當然之後一定做你應承做的事), 然後佢真係做到時,就大聲讚賞他 "嘩, 琳琳好叻呀!" 不斷咁講幾次,仲耍拍埋手掌.  小朋友見到有人讚賞係會好開心的...之後再做多幾次,佢就會好鐘意tidy up, 因每次tidy up完都會有人讚..

你試試啦!

第二任媽媽

原帖由 陳家大少奶 於 09-7-14 23:29 發表
咦！你囡囡同我囡囡一樣大喎！琳琳好d嗎？

你快d join Dr. Poon playgroup 啦，實幫到你架！我囡囡7個月大開始玩 Dr. Poon Playgroup 架啦！呢處有好詳盡ga分享！

http://forum.edu-kingdom.com/viewthread.php?tid=1676353&extr ...

請問 dr. poon playgroup 係邊呀.!!!!  thanks! 1 班有幾多人呢. 同埋逢星期幾上堂架????

SmileJoey

琳琳媽：

我相信每一個爸爸媽媽都曾或將經歷你依家既情況，我都有試過打囡囡手仔、惡型惡相咁鬧佢(T^T)，人有情緒，好難唔會有失控既時候，當然過後會好自責同後悔……

我既童年生活令我相信棒下出孝兒、細路仔唔打唔大呢一類既教養方法係「絕對錯」！最慘既係除我以外既家庭成員，包括地位崇高既老爺奶奶都奉行呢套，所以我就成為慈母多敗兒──但咁樣無動搖我既觀念，要堅持自己既信念呀！

基本上0-6歲既小朋友主要係模仿他人(尤其係父母及照顧者)，小朋友有行為問題先檢討佢身邊既大人及環境，對症下藥，相小朋友有好行為大人一定要以身作則，而小朋友扭計搗蛋，並非想「落你臉」(佢哋唔識，純粹係大人既感受)，可能佢哋有壓力，先檢討下小朋友係咪性格慢熱，適應新環境需時？當下小朋友既狀態，肚餓？疲倦？口渴？悶熱？家中有新成員失竉？諸如此類原因都有影嚮。另外，咁細過小朋友正處於自我中心期，要求佢會分享、肯禮讓，實是強他所難，我哋做父母先了解小朋友每個成長階段既特徵，除可減輕對小朋友既誤會，亦可安心陪小朋友渡過，因為呢D大人以為既壞表現只係成長必經既階段，我哋可以做既係從旁協助，給予足夠既愛和安全感，唯有小朋友得到足夠既安全感，因為父母既愛而對自己既價值持肯定，才會分享、探索……向未來人生健康正面出發。互勉

mianyang_99

原帖由 SmileJoey 於 09-7-17 11:00 發表
琳琳媽：

我相信每一個爸爸媽媽都曾或將經歷你依家既情況，我都有試過打囡囡手仔、惡型惡相咁鬧佢(T^T)，人有情緒，好難唔會有失控既時候，當然過後會好自責同後悔……

我既童年生活令我相信棒下出孝兒、細路仔唔打唔大呢一 ...

Thank you for  your sharing, will remember your words.
How old is your daughter?

pcdogdog

Hi~想請問有冇mami都想自組平日playgroup架?! (囝囝而家8個幾月大)

陳家大少奶~另想請問, 係咪如果自組到3個家庭後, 直接同Dr.Poon約時間開班呀?! 以你所認識...又有冇mami平日想join呢?! Thank you~

原帖由 陳家大少奶 於 09-7-16 22:01 發表


地點在 TST
4 - 8 個 bb 一組
所有 group 都係 mami 自組架，多數 playgroup 都是在星期六、日
平日如果你組到，仲平好多添
星期六， 日 HK$1,800


星期 一 至 五  HK$1,400


(3個家庭同行九折)



共八堂，每堂 60 分 ...