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回覆 sugarnana 的帖子
Thank you for your advice. I really appreciate! What you said is really right and I just want to share my thoughts because this bothers me a lot and I hope I can talk to others too!
What you said really scares me but at the same time, I still don't want to sacrifice my son's happy childhood.
I may sound very stupid but 人生苦短, 好多時都不知為乜.
But very luckily, I had a very happy childhood. I have a loving family, school that left me very fond memories. So I think I have built a very good foundation to face the challenges and the difficulties I may face now. When I am in trouble now, I just tell myself, life will still be good if I overcome this hurdle.
So this is what I want to build for my children.
As I have already said, I see so many kids in HK nowadays feeling so depress. They don't have spark in their eyes. They don't look healthy. They all wear glasses and have crooked back. They cry each night because they can't finish their homework. I invited my much younger cousin to go Disneyland together but for the next 15 weeks, she has these tests and homework and projects that she can't go on a Sat. How cruel is this? My secretary's daughter loves music. I invited her to go to an orchestra concert that plays live cartoon music. She can't go because she has dictations and exams during that time. And we keep saying children should be given opportunities to appreciate art and music!?
What kind of lives is that? Even adults need entertainment and time to rest. Why would we expect our kids to act like a machine?
Some other said, children don’t know what is difficult and what is easy. Just feed them the difficult words and they will be able to learn. I don’t agree with that. Everyone learns progressively. If you have not built up good foundation of A, B, C, you won’t be able to master the more difficult words. When they are in K1, just let them master what is expected of a K1 kid. They will gain confidence and be happy about themselves. If you force them to learn K3 words, they will feel defeated and lost interest in learning.
I don't aim to spoil my children. No pain, no gain. One must study hard to learn. But at kindergarten, the most important thing is to learn to be a happy and healthy person. Be sociable, be kind, be responsible. Learn all the good virtues. Learn how to be a righteous person. This is the foundation I would to build for my children.
I believe many parents were forced to be monster parents because our education system does not give us a choice. But we should all still stand firm and protect our children! The stronger we are, the more likely we can change the system. We need each other’s support, PARENTS!
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發表於 13-12-5 14:50
我相信不少父母諗法跟你一樣（包括我自己），只不過生活在香港，無奈地再無奈地要隨波逐流，唯有妥協接受再拆招面對。。。人人都想子女入讀不錯的學校，競爭就是由此而來，你跑快時，我又跑快啲，似足國與國的軍事競賽，適量的比較可以是有益處，但大多數都係無謂的競爭，從而引致壓力，為了考學校而比賽爭獎狀，輸了阿媽難免失望，阿仔亦知阿媽不高興而心存內疚，這不是我所追求的。。。我不抗拒任何形式的比賽、面試、測驗，只要是出於興趣，真心學習，學有所成時跟別人切磋較量，最後追求勝不驕敗不餒的境界。『開心學習盡力表現享受過程』可以說是我的追求，無論在學業上定人生上。但在現有制度下，為了入讀心儀類型的學校，我們的確要落場競技一番，我的諗法是⋯努力爭取，好好認真準備，就算最後未如人意，都可叫已經盡力而為，無悔，何況過程中一定有得著。學習可以係享受，全視乎你如何包裝，不要俾個「谷」字嚇親，我會說是一個好機會，讓子女們體驗一下自己人生中第一個試煉，亦會讓家長們加深了解自己同子女。有人原來喜歡接受挑戰，有人原來愈in愈怕，當發掘了平日不易看見的一面，也有助揀選適合類型的學校，避免錯配。你十分清楚自己的要求，下一步就係尋找符合理念的學校 ，不用理會旁人的追趕跑跳，專心做好自己認為對的事就可以了，教育路上，各師各法，沒有誰比誰好。。。十分贊同孩子應該"be sociable be kind be responsible!" Exactly what I want! :) 加多點，懂感恩。
