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Re: 唔識講說話=唔係資優？
一般來說﹕
內向的小朋友在外語言表達較"弱"；
外向的小朋友在外語言表達較"強"
但社會普偏接受外向的人(因為外向人與內向人的比例好像是3:1)，而內向的人通常會被誤解為有心理問題，唔合群等而被父母或外界強逼"扭曲"性格去"適應"社會，或給予各種標籤。其實內向和外向的人都係社會上不可或缺的....
以下是外向和內向小朋友的特性﹕
IF YOUR CHILD IS AN EXTRAVERT(外向) SHE PROBABLY:
1.is quite gregarious and outgoing.
(It’s important not to confuse normal development with a preference for introversion or extraversion. It is normal for children to cry or protest when held
by strangers, especially from nine months to two and a half years of age. An extraverted child will probably become calm more quickly than an introverted child in this situation, but both will cry.)
2. enjoys being around people. She becomes energized by a group rather than overwhelmed by it.
3.wants to tell you about her experiences and ideas immediately.
4.thinks by talking. She’ll walk around the house saying. “Where’s my ball” or “I’m looking for my blanket.” As she hunts for them. She needs to talk in order to make decisions.
5.talks a lot and easily initiates conversations with other people.
6.hates being sent to her room to sit alone.
7.can’t imagine why you would want to be alone in a room and always joins you to “cheer you up.”
8.lets you know what she’s thinking and feeling.
9.needs lots o approval. You may find yourself doubting the health of her self-esteem as she demands that you tell her what a good job she is doing or how much you like her gift.
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IF YOU CHILD IS A INTROVERT(內向) SHE PROBABLY:
1. prefers to watch or listen before joining into an activity.
2. enjoys doing thing s by herself or with one or two special friends or family members.
3.becomes grouchy if around people too long, especially after school.
4.finds being with strangers more draining than being with family members or one close friend.
5.refuses to discuss the day’s events until later, even days or weeks.
6.has a strong sense of personal space. Does not like people sitting too close or coming into her room.
7.seems to enjoy being sent to her room to sit alone.
8.may find it difficult to share what she is feeling.
9.may find guests in your home “invasive.”
10.may talk a lot with family members but be quieter around outsiders.
ENERGY SOURCES FOR INTROVERTS
1.Time alone
Introverts are lonely in groups. Participating in a group forces them to act outside of themselves, which is difficult for them to do.
Their energy is drained as they socialize. If you child is a quarrelsome curmudgeon after a day in school or day care, it may be that he is an introvert in need of time alone.
Introverts need their private time. It is often difficult for introverted children to tactfully out and play by themselves because of our social pressure to be part of the group. They don’t understand that when they are feeling out of sorts they need time alone. All they know is that being around people bugs them and makes them feel grumpy. That’s why they pick on the other kids until you send them to their rooms. That’s why they pick on the other kids until you send them to their rooms. That’s why they’ll suddenly stop playing with friends and scream, “I hate you! Go home!” An unrecognized need for time alone is one of the major reasons spirited children have tantrums, fight with sibling, or get nasty.
Seth is a five-year-old spirited introvert. During his Early Childhood Family Education (ECFE) class he played beautifully with the other children until the end. That’s when he got tired and needed to dip into his “preferred” energy account. Unfortunately, when he first started the class, he didn’t know how to accomplish this properly. As a result, he got his time alone by hitting. At first his teacher didn’t understand what he was doing and got upset with him. Then, by watching him closely she realized that Seth needed a quick introvert “fix” at this time of the day. Now when she sees him start to misbehave she says, “Seth I think you need a break. Let’s go out to the lobby and get your coat. You can help me gather the materials for the other kids.”
That five-minute break from people and action recharges Seth and gives him the energy he needs to make it through the transition from school to home. Seth’s teacher is hopeful that in the near future, he will be able to ask for a break instead of ghitting to get one.
If your child is an introvert you have to help her understand that she needs time alone in order to recharge. When she starts to get agitated, tell her, “I think your body is telling you that you need some time alone.” If she is playing with other children, teach her how to tactfully say, “I‘ve enjoyed playing with you, but it’s time for you to go home now,” or something along that line. You have to help her find appropriate ways to pull out o the group.
Kids can take a break in many ways. Some do it by finding a quiet corner. Others pull themselves slightly out of the circle at school, allowing themselves more personal space. Reading a book, asking for a walk, taking a nap, or disappearing into their room to play quietly by themselves are all socially acceptable ways for introverted children to recharge.
Introverted children grow up to be introverted adults. The need to energize by being alone remains the same, but it may look different. Adults take a break by pulling a newspaper up around their face, lingering in the bathroom., or burying their head in a book in the middle of an airport. Being alone restores their energy bank and allows them to develop their reserves for interacting with the group again later. After Thanksgiving, a parent in my class shared the following.
Extraverts need to resist the temptation to pressure the introvert into staying with the group. A few minutes alone for the introvert can mean the difference between a reasonable, conversational human being and a living scrooge. Introverts are their own best friends. They can have a great time all by themselves. That’s hard for an extravert to understand.
2.Physical space
Physical space is very important to introverts. Introverts are drained when their physical space is invaded. I recently had a phone call from the mother os a four-year-old. She said he was getting into trouble at nursery school for pushing in line and biting the kid next to him when they sat at the table. I asked her if he had told her why he was doing it.
She said, “All he’ll say is he bit the little boy sitting next go him because he shouldn’t be sitting there.”
“Makes sense to me,” I responded.
“What are you talking about?” the mother queried.
“Introverts need their space, and your son’s was encroached on, so he bit. Biting is usually quite effective in clearing the place out—obviously not acceptable, but effective. Sharing space takes lots of energy from introverted spirited children. When they get tired, they don’t do it very well. Your son needs to learn that he needs space. He can choose where to set his chair or where to stand in line to allow himself more space. He can learn to say, ‘Please move over’ or ‘Stand back. I feel more comfortable if I have more room.’ Simply realizing that sharing space is exhausting to him can help him recognize when his reserves are low and he needs to refuel.”
You’ll see the need for space in many ways: the child who has to have his own seat in the van, otherwise he grouses about someone touching his leg or breathing in his face; the two-year-old who throws a fit because you pulled off her hat or took off her sweater, not only because she wanted to do it herself—which is normal for two-year-olds---but because you invaded her personal space; and the six-year-old who lays a jump rope across the center of the couch to mark her half. Other signs might be the child who can’t stand sharing his room with another or the one who posts a sign on his door that says “Republicans Only” to let you know how important space is to his well-being and energy stores.
This need for space can be hard for extraverts to understand. Extraverts like to be helpful and they like to be together. Space is not an issue for them. Extraverts need to know that sitting too close, standing too near, or walking into a private room unannounced will drive an introvert nuts and drain their energy. Introverts are not being selfish or rejecting others by asking for their space. Giving introverts space is giving them energy. You can teach your introverted children to be aware of their need for space and help them learn tactful ways to ask for it. |
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