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本帖最後由 jolalee 於 14-4-26 01:29 編輯
Hm, many parents do not believe in (or does not WANT to believe in) their children having some sort of issues in reality, be it ADHD, ASD or SPD etc., and they try to blame it on the school. From the repeated over-generalized statements like 大意仍是『你孩子有很嚴重的問題』, it does seem like the parents are really quite clueless as to what's wrong with their child.
Nowadays we have an increased understanding about autism and ADHD, meaning more children are being diagnosed earlier than ever before. Early diagnosis is the best way to effectively treat both conditions. Most of the time, with sufficient early intervention, kids can improve drastically. However, it does require great effort from the parents.
We are fortunate to find out very early on that due to being born with a mildly twisted neck my son has SPD (sensory processing disorder, or Sensory integration issues - 感覺統合問題). It took me half a year to get it through my thick skull, but given we found out early, we still had sufficient time to rectify the issues. The golden period for settling any neural developmental problems is before age 3, but even by age 6 if sufficient effort is put forth into therapy (both at home and at the OT), the child should be able to resolve any detrimental problems.
In just 2 weeks with weekly private OT & daily home therapy i noticed my son really calmed down, and after 1/2 a year of OT even our neighbor swore he's a totally different person -- much less agitated and more focused. His attention span is still a bit behind kids his age (currently 3.5 years old), but with daily effort he is improving. Our OT tell us the next improvement really depend on the parents now, and that i must give him appropriate daily exercises and home therapy. It is quite draining for me but i saw results, and that's what's matters. I see another slightly older boy in my son's soccer class that behaved exactly like how he acted a year ago, and i am so glad that we went through all the therapies. Of course i also told that boy's mother what we went through so that she can help her son as she sees fit.
For the above article, I truly believe that the school saw some potential in that boy during the interview (kids with Asperger can turn out to be geniuses), and really want to give him a chance. When they spotted the problems and had meetings with the parents, it is the school's way of reaching out to get the parents on the same boat to help them. Unfortunately, the parents do not seem to want to understand and seem to blame the debenture of all things...! [For parents who did not purchase debentures from their IS please verify what i suspect? that it is not the reason that this family is being 'discriminated' against?]
It is true though, that in American public schools kids do get over diagnosed so that teachers do not need to deal with over active kids. Is our societies becoming less tolerant, or that this happens in all generations, depending on who you meet? I heard of a girl who was over active and the mom took her to a psychologist (this is back in the 60's). The shrink told her, "your daughter does not have a problem, you just need to let her dance!". That girl later became the top choreographer in USA. Whoopi Goldberg, Tom Cruise, Anthony Hopkins, Keira Knightley all has dyslexia. Walt Disney (The Founder of Disneyland), Justin Timberlake, 陳奕迅, Michael Jordan, Jim Carrey, John F. Kennedy, Richard Branson all has ADHD. Even Albert Eistein, we now suspect, had Asperger and/or adult ADHD. So although the boy in the story many have issues, his life is not set in stone yet.
It is good to notice problems early to help the children to overcome their issues, but it's something else when the society start popping drugs into children's mouths and ask them to sit still. There's a fine line between help & covering the problems, and all parents and teachers must tread carefully. For my son, i am giving him as much help as i can at this point, but will gladly celebrate who he is and who he want to become as he matures. I just want to give him options. As to whether he wants to be an actor or scientist or chef or banker or athlete, as long as he finds passion in what he does, i am a happy mother.
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