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回覆 35# evianh2o 的文章
其實我極尊重Brisingr的看法,的確「要試過先知得fit唔fit」是市場上其中一個School of Thought,且可能是大部份家長的主流態度,但大家又不妨討論吓。
1) 始終都係果句,試邊件究竟係咪應該由家長決定晒?(In my family, my son picked the primary school, secondary school and IB vs NSS. We learnt that from a retired education officer, provide sufficient info, let him choose, accountable to his choice and create responsibility and motivation.) 試過後適唔適合係咪由家長講?(He is the user or key stakeholder.) 舉例咋,學校A有「業績」有「校譽」,學校B屬中游且老師對學生非常好,兩間都收阿仔,如果家長想個仔入學校A,但其實個仔想入學校B,因為最好D朋友仔入晒學校B,課程設計好啱個仔,而個仔未讀已經麻麻地like學校A,咁呢位家長應該點揀好呢?(In my case, he picked A even we preferred B, closer to home, compariable standard, more classmates and seniors, easier to adapt .....)
2) 當故事發展最後個仔讀左有「業績」有「校譽」的學校A,一兩年後,家長同阿仔真係覺得唔適合,想轉校,咁點? (First 1~2 years, he struggled a bit (Not the top boy anymore, he was not very socialable and not many friends in school.). We discussed with him, he can change to other school, not necessary B, his academic standard can get in a reasonable school in HK.)
嗱咁講如果故事發展真係如(2) 咁,要提一提各位家長,sadly speaking喺現行既教育政策同環境,真係好多時唔係你話轉校就轉校,想插班邊間就邊間,若返轉頭想入學校B,人地未必收你,最後最後真係要個仔捱晒果六年?!
(His comment was - it's tough, he can't change the environment and schoolmates, but he can change his paradigm. He enjoyed more from G8 onward.)
雖然有家長會話應該為仔女爭取最好,甚至怕將來仔女會怨父母冇曾經為佢地爭取最好,但其實這個「最好」係家長認為最好,孩子又是否認為對佢地切身真係最好呢?(I still believe B is better than A. After going through the process, he learnt, he mature, be a responsible teenager ..... May be he is right from start...., not me.)
若然結局如(2),孩子又到頭來怨父母讓佢辛苦左六年呢?!(He suffered a bit for 2 years, now, I am comfortable, he can survive easily in any university and the society.)
再者,父母雖然大多望子成龍,但如果孩子想成為平凡的綿羊又或是自由的飛鳥,父母又是否應該成就他們?!
(Agreed. But it's tough to learn let go.)
咁講,揀學校真的家家有自己的一套,大家亦唔需要說服彼此去認同自己,畢竟每個孩子都係獨一無二的,都係果句,我只希望大家努力去了解自己的孩子,嘗試一下用童心去看事情。 (Agreed.)
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