- 在線時間
- 83 小時
- 最後登錄
- 08-8-11
- 國民生產力
- 10
- 附加生產力
- 0
- 貢獻生產力
- 0
- 註冊時間
- 03-8-13
- 閱讀權限
- 10
- 帖子
- 64
- 主題
- 1
- 精華
- 0
- 積分
- 76
- UID
- 13093
|
At my school age, I learnt that early experiences can be stored sub-consciously (ie we can't recall the experiences at normal circumstances). They affect our behvariours and temper at later ages of our lifes sub-consciously. Hence, we sometimes don't know which experiences (and their details) influence which of our behaviours.
The simpliest way to illustrate this is to recall those mad killers in films. Some of those screenwriters may be based on the fancy theories that mad killers are affected by earlier tramatic experiences, without remembering those experiences (through self-defence mechanism like denial, subpression, etc.). Of course, they're extreme dramatic cases for entertaining film watchers.
And the more intensive the feelings aroused by the experiences, the easier the kid can recall the experiences later. Being unable to recall may be because the interview experience did not arouse intensive feeling, probably the kid crying to die doesn't fall into this category.
To cure the psychological trauma, some psychological schools use psycholanalytical methods, some use Rogerian, etc. To explain completely, I need to review my dust-covered old textbooks. The point is, I found these fancy theories sometimes really work, explain something, and solve something.
In short, that's why parents stress on happy school life; unhappiness reduces kids' interest to learn, and is not good to kids' healthy personality development. Last Sat, I asked my kid whether he likes the interview of this school or not. He nodded. Then I suggested we come here again to play the interview again. He said no repeatedly. Then I asked him which of the 2 schools he attended interviews he wants to go, he said the other school. The process of interview has affected the kid's interest. And I'd some idea which of the 2 schools created more happy experiences to my kid in the future 6+ years. My kid's answer is not surprising, consistent to the experiences of the crying kid, and my experiences with this school.
The above are just my immature thoughts, which are not necesarily correct, nor applicable to others' situations.
原文章由 KaWo 於 07-10-29 12:22 硐表
我問了一個十歲的小朋友,記不記得小時是怎樣面試?
他説: 己不記得
[ 本文章最後由 t421316 於 07-10-29 13:34 編輯 ] |
|