halloween的感想.

nicolemummy

一年一度的party日halloween又快到了.

其實, 這兩年多裡, 都沒有怎樣"慶祝"halloween. nicole一年前諗的學校是基督教的學校, halloween是西洋魔鬼節, 當然不會慶祝. halloween只是那些私立幼稚/兒園特地拿出來, 讓學校有藉口攪節目, 讓小朋友胡天胡地扮鬼扮馬做一個派對罷了.

我不想怎樣攪halloween, 生怕現在"慶祝"halloween的, 一點也不知halloween背後的意思, 以為純粹派對日子. 但是, 若全校的小朋友也扮到天使公主一般的玩樂, 只有獨獨某些小朋友一身普通衣裳, 他們就會出現自悲, 心中埋怨父母為何不讓自己變成派對主角, 只能當過閒角. 久而久之就會怨恨父母.

面對著這樣, 我又有些猶疑. 要孩子跟別人競爭成最注目的小公主, 還是讓他象徵式地少作"慶祝"... 孩子太慣當主角, 長大後承受跌倒的能力少了. 孩子太慣被少看, 長大後就變得憤世嫉俗.

唉, 當父母真困難...

SK1

nicolemummy
放心吧,當天個個小朋友都係主角.就算扮成小公主,同班都最小有成五六個咁多.扮魔鬼巫婆更多.如果當天唔打扮穿回校服,咁就一定做主角啦.不過小朋友可能有點兒難過啦.因為其他人都有打扮.
我亦見過有小朋友父母忘了給他打扮,去到學校門口,個小朋友唔肯返學.但放學後又冇事,因為在學校好開心,乜都唔記得.
其實咁既節日都幾難得,咪等小朋友開心下,有個愉快既童年.別想太多吧.

tt2001

nicolemummy，
我都覺得你諗得嚴重左，吾知你小朋友幾大呢？尚是kinder的話，我想halloween對他們來說就如Easter等節日差不多，有得玩下，扮下靚咁...我就會等佢大D有一定既理解力才跟他說由來(任何節日都會說)，到時咪睇佢get到幾多，想參予幾多lor。(如某個節日對你家庭的信仰/原則有違背另計。)

nicolemummy

SK1 & tt2001,

其實, 當我看見天使翼, 我會記番我好細個陣就真. 當時, 看見同學仔有筆盒, 有擦膠, 已經覺得好羡慕, 如果有歡樂時間(我想當年唔會叫PARTY), 有人有面具, 我們只會知道自己是一定沒有的(因為家貧), 他們是有的. 由細到大都係咁, 雖然好羡慕, 但卻不會好"眼紅".

所以, 我相信, 小朋友由細到大都係萬千寵愛在一身, 一定有一D層面他是不會體會, 不會感受到的. 這是為甚麼身為媽媽的每一個, 都想自己的小朋友當主角; 但亦會想到這些....

不過, 好多謝你們的意見....始終, 我都想NICOLE做主角仔,所以都係買左對天使翼俾NICOLE   

SK1

nicolemummy
就係自己是過來人嘛.所以唔想自己既小朋友有唔開心既經驗.
我細過都好想學跳舞同拉小提琴.耐何無錢,冇得學.到現在都有點遺憾.而家可以afford到比對仔女,所以我都會比佢地試.畢竟是一個愉快的經驗嘛.
提外話nicole而家學緊乜?

nicolemummy

SK1,

而家NICOLE無特別野學緊, 只係返緊個普通話合唱團咋. 因為佢未夠3歲嘛   

不過, 佢個零月先走去個電子琴度"自彈自唱", 所以諗著佢一到3歲就俾佢去學鋼琴. 其他野, 都係佢想去學先幫佢搵啦...

SK1

OIC

charlene

nicolemummy,
唔講又真係唔知.咁其實 halloween 背後的意思(意義)是甚麼呢?
係咪好似中國人的鬼節一樣?
我只知道小朋友會扮鬼扮馬,遂家遂戶去拿糖吃,還有甚麼典故?

至於會否比較,我想其他的 occasion 或者 party, 甚至平日的生活上都會出現.我哋做家長的係要教小孩如何去建立自信,自尊(self-esteem),不受物質的多寡影響.讓小朋友知道每個人都值得別人愛,但首先要"先愛自己".

nicolemummy

charlene,

其實我都唔係好記得halloween的起源, 但係同"神聖"無關.所謂"萬聖", 其實係指魔鬼. 其後人們強要拉鬼和神一起, 淡化這日的邪惡起源...

我真係唔太清楚 但係基督家庭個邊應該有人曉, 去年有個topic 嚮個邊談論"不要halloween"...    

點都好, nicole一眼都唔睇黑翼, 只要白翼...

http://www.hkedcity.net/article/arts/030905-017/

justjust

I am also one of those parents who would dress up the kids so that they don't feel bad if they are the only ones without fancy costumes.

But just last Fri, there was a b-day party at school and I forgot to remind our maid to dress our girl in casual clothes instead of school uniform.  I remembered only the next day but we didn't find our girl upset at all.  She was happy as usual. At least any unhappiness she might have should be short-lived and not enough to warrant the teachers' or our maid's concern.

About Halloween costumes, we also wanted to buy the angel accessories at the beginning.  (It seems that angels are really hot picks and there may really be 5 or 6 in the class!)  However our girl was not impressed by the angel wings.  She chose a colourful fairy dress with wings, and a dragonfly on a long stem as her wand.

agoodfox

This year I have decided to choose 2 or 3 Halloween books to share with my son.  heehee ... we read to celebrate, save money and still have some Halloween atmosphere.