唔知轉唔轉校好!!!!

ivan_mom

我個仔係一間傳統小學讀小三，那家學校的程度比較深，功課也比其他學校多。因他讀下午校，每晚功課做好已10點半，早上9點半到補習社補習，但他的成積.......，其實由一年班下學期開始都知他跟不上，跟我老公商量幫他轉校，但老公反對，理由是一動不如一靜。我見個仔讀得辛苦時我更加痛苦，試問有那位家長不緊張子女的成積?而我們每星期至少有3晚都會在打鬧聲渡過......有無人可以比下意見呢??我快煩死了.....

morris_mama

如果這發生在我身上，我會先找多些其他學校的資料，然後再去說服老公。另外都要問問仔仔意見。始終，仔仔已經三年班，可能會有自己的想法。問問他，想吾想再努力再試？同埋同仔仔講，就算轉校，都係要努力讀書架，吾係話轉校就吾洗努力。

katiekma

morris_mama,
I have a same experience before. Although I let him repeat in P4. But the test result till now still not good. Now my son is in secondary school S2. I seldom see him smile since he in primary school till now. And seldom talk to us about what happen in school. If I can make decision again. I wil let him change another active primary school not tranditional one. But you must talk to your son and ask what he want.

Don't be sad. May be change another school. Your son with love to learn with another kind of teaching method. Search more school information.

ivan_mom

唉!!!已用過好多方法，傾、

morris_mama

Oh... 如果已經努力曬都知道係吾得，甘同老公講囉。。。叫老公吾好甘堅持。你真係個 super good mom...

有好多人響香港讀吾好，去外國讀就讀得好，其實道理都係一樣 -- 咪就係吾 match 囉。

"Re: 唔知轉唔轉校好!!!!" 甘轉囉。

CutieAngel

I think you need to identify if the problem is on school side or on yr son... I don't really mean yr son does have any real problem. But, sometimes, we do need to admit that not all children have talent on academic side. If that's the case, & yr school standard is extremely high. It's really a wrong match. BTW, have you talked with the teachers ? They may give more opinion or comment about yr son's strength or weakness... The end, school should be a place "teaching yr son to learn" ..as it's a life time matter.  Find the right match for him is better than find a so-call good place for others..  

morris_mama

katiekma 寫道:I have a same experience before. Although I let him repeat in P4. But the test result till now still not good. Now my son is in secondary school S2. I seldom see him smile since he in primary school till now. And seldom talk to us about what happen in school. If I can make decision again. I wil let him change another active primary school not tranditional one.

Oh... sorry to hear that...  How is he doing in the secondary school then?

琴棋書

其實如果大家都係口吾開心，咁又何必讀下去？個仔又不開心,你也不會開心。試下同佢講下，參觀下其他學校，再諗下轉吾轉啦。
加油！！！

motherlau

ivan_mom ,
你好,我和你一樣，囝囝從K1開此就跟唔上,有想過K3留一年,但老師覺得OK,唔比。此時我知一上小一,必定是惡夢的開始。因為家姐都讀得幾辛苦。
到了小一,起初都可以,但做功課做到十時(因他一樣讀下午校),又要溫默書和測驗,無一兩點都冇得睡.第二日九時補習,佢辛苦,我都一樣.打鬧哭日日都係.到下學期,跟班主任商諒可否留班,因佢考全級尾幾,但不成功,要升班.
如是者升上P3,壓力很大,囝囝自悲,我要見社工.當年囝囝的班主任好好,明白囝囝跟唔上,比佢留級.
repeat P3,囝囝自信好D,成績好小小,但大家開心D,佢話上堂終於明呀Sir講書啦!我差D哭出來.
其實有想過轉校,但可以去得邊呢?好的唔收你,差的唔想去,新的靠估,國際學校好貴,所以老公叫我唔好轉啦!留一年睇下先.依家P4,OK啦!(要求好低)但佢鐘意運動,有時間比佢游水,打球.佢開心D.但唔係個個小朋repeat都好,要考累心理質數,我用半年時間同囝囝洗腦,所以佢接受到自己留班.
ivan_mom你要努力呀!係辛苦,但好快會過去,當囝囝思想成熟D,佢會慢慢進步起來的.其實轉校,repeat都係方法,你要明佢鐘唔鐘意依家間學校,想唔想轉校呀!

我地BK家長支持你架 :

sixmillions

我個仔的情況都是差不多，表現一路在中下游。一、二年級都是我自己教，但是今年會嘗試補習班，希望減少磨擦。

你想轉校重讀還是升級，我就考慮轉校重讀。

你心目中想轉往甚麼學校，傳統還是活動教學？

carcar123

I also suggest you to search more informations of other school for your son.  I think that if your son didn't match with his school style, he may be good in other school.  可能在就讀既學校好有挫敗感先至令佢 唔可以做得好, 但去到另一D school 佢可能會好適應同埋好有滿足感又唔奇.  首先一定要佢有興趣, 如果唔係佢會無心機, 只要佢覺得學得快樂, 自信亦自然會返黎.  同你丈夫商量下, 令佢明白呀仔都好辛苦, 唔好太過迫仔仔, 因為而家有好多好脆弱既小朋友, 做父母都好想自己既小朋友活得快樂及健康成長, 叫你丈夫諗一諗, 到底佢想唔想見到自己個仔於快樂及健康中成長.  唔好咁唔開心喇, 希望你既問題得到完滿的解決!

Fatherlove

唔好講到要死！
家長應該緊張成績，但太緊張就唔好。
打、鬧、嚇的方法沒用！
第一、試試同學校傾，學校有責任幫你個仔，但你亦必須家校合作。

第二、找人幫手，不是處理你的兒子問題，而是處理你的情緒問題。例如：綜合家庭服務中心

第三、記住親子關係比成續重要。打、鬧、嚇傷感情，儘量唔好做！

你要想清楚是學校給你壓力還是你自己過份緊張？



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ivan_mom 寫道:
唉!!!已用過好多方法，傾、

AmyWonglo

ivan_mom,

可能應從小朋友的角度去想想.  如果我是他也會讀得唔開心, 因為生活就只有學校、功課及補習社.  試想一個大人每天上班後還要加班到10點都唔開心啦, 何況是一個小朋友.

妳覺得補習社有用嗎? 他讀下午校, 所以功課應可以由家長輔導.  其間應該可以了解小朋友的進度及問題是什麼.  不如跟兒子商量, 叫他自己努力些, 上堂時留心老師講課, 唔明就問.  如果他認為做得到就取消補習社, 好讓他有多些活動時間做他喜歡的事.  先要令他有興趣上學, 如妳可以幫兒子備課, 那麼他上堂時會吸收得比較快.  當他明白老師的講課, 見到自己的進步, 就會自然開心些, 返学的壓力也會少些.

sixmillions

I type Chinese very slow.  I better type English to save time.

I found that the outcome of scouting, hitting is negative.  But still sometimes I can't control myself.  I don't want to change school if the present school can let my son repeat.  I like his present school as the school is quite supportive and positive to help students. But I don't think the school will let my son repeat as he is below average but not at the bottom yet.

I don't expect my son to perform very well after changing school.  I am more concern on his character development.  I worry that he losses confidence gradually and turn up to be negative and passive.  

However, it is rdifficult to apply a suitable school.  

yoyo0229

我個仔又係差不多,亦都試考過幾間學校啦,成績好就話啫,所以全部無聲氣,令人洩氣!

Bambi

妳老公反對轉校, o甘佢有無幫下手教下仔? 如果只係一味反對, 只得妳同個仔去死撐, o甘不如真係轉下d無o甘多功課做既學校啦, 對大家都好d.

Mrssslui

仔仔係唔係年尾出世架？如果係，都正常既．

ocean_baby

Dear ivan_mom

睇左你所講既經歷，都知道你呢幾年好辛苦，不過你唔好再用 打、鬧、嚇，呢d方法喇，你仔係唔識，你點打佢都係唔識架啦，你打佢既時候，佢痛之餘你個心仲痛，咁又何苦呢，咁樣對你同你個仔都無幫助，而且仲會傷害左你同佢之間既感情tim，我覺得你應該向學校既社工或老師傾下你個仔既問題呀，睇下佢地有無方法可以幫下你。
如果你真係打算轉校既話，你自己有無睇過其他既學校資料呀？ 同埋你都要問下個仔想唔想轉校喎，因為你仔可能係讀得比較辛苦，但佢係學校可能好開心呢，未必想轉校架，同埋一轉校既話你仔要接受新既學習環境，你仔又會唔會適應呢？呢d你一定要考慮清楚喎。

sorlo

OH.. 你道出左個POINT ，　我個女都係年尾出世，　響小學三年級前階段教佢真係好煩，人地做個半小時功課，　佢做六小時，　仲以為佢有讀寫障礙，我同我老公就慢慢教佢，　比多的時間佢，　　依家佢升中啦，　成績唔算好好，　但係一切都係正常到唔正常啦　，　都係個一句，　千其唔好用 不過你唔好再用 打、鬧、嚇，呢d方法喇，　因為佢若果跟唔上，　轉校又跟唔上咁點呢?　我覺得慢慢教佢，　成績無咁好都接受佢，　咁樣囝囝會開心的

Leolonglongma

其實如果功課量多, 小朋友專心做的情況下仍然要做到 10-11點, 我覺得家長真係要去其他學校問下, 了解下.  長期積累功課上不明白, 只會害苦了小朋友, 令他沒有自信.  自信培養比一切來得重要, 而且亦難培養.  私校不一定貴, 個人建議考慮九龍城聖三一堂小學(今年學費好像仍是$1900), 老師有愛心, 我有好幾個朋友的子女在此就讀, 全部都說是"開開心心"上學去的.  他們下課時間為3點, 3-6點只額外交300元, 有老師留下教學生做功課, 下課後已無需為功課糾纏, 俾小朋友有閒暇去玩下, 小學生無理由一天到晚都是功課/補習再功課, 大人都癲; 何況小朋友.  沒有清醒頭腦, 根本無法再盛新的東西, 惡性循環.  ivan_mom 要與老公認真考慮商量, 唔好再"睇o下點先", 免拖誤時間, 小朋友已經3年班, 再拖根本無法轉校, 我寧願讓小朋友轉校留班, 讓他重新把根基打好, 否則小學根基打得不好, 中學不見得有奇蹟.  BK forum 上有很多小學資訊, 你可以參考.  世上無難事, 只怕有心人.  希望你的小朋友不再自卑, 開開心心上學!