我有個怕羞既小朋友

wingchee

我個仔今年 4 歲...佢係屬於發展遲緩.(佢 3 歲先學叫人) 佢好怕羞...佢對下有個妹妹...佢同我地相處無問題既...有時仲會好惡話妹妹既...但佢對出面既人就唔同哂...佢會成日垂低個頭...叫佢叫人佢都唔敢...佢成日同我講佢係學校無朋友...我已經成日同佢傾...叫佢放膽d....而佢學校老師亦知道佢既問題...我想問下我應該點教導佢...或者參加d咩活動可以幫到佢...因為我想最基本佢可以學到點同人相處..或者點可以保護到自己....

happyvalley

原帖由 wingchee 於 09-8-31 16:23 發表
我個仔今年 4 歲...佢係屬於發展遲緩.(佢 3 歲先學叫人) 佢好怕羞...佢對下有個妹妹...佢同我地相處無問題既...有時仲會好惡話妹妹既...但佢對出面既人就唔同哂...佢會成日垂低個頭...叫佢叫人佢都唔敢...佢成日同我 ...

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wingchee

那我應該去邊到找呢 ? 又應該找邊類型呢 ?

GraceMatt

會唔會佢會同妹妹比較? 或者自信心不足.. 去下d play therapy. gain back more confidence la.  

原帖由 wingchee 於 09-8-31 16:23 發表
我個仔今年 4 歲...佢係屬於發展遲緩.(佢 3 歲先學叫人) 佢好怕羞...佢對下有個妹妹...佢同我地相處無問題既...有時仲會好惡話妹妹既...但佢對出面既人就唔同哂...佢會成日垂低個頭...叫佢叫人佢都唔敢...佢成日同我 ...

愛貓

嘗試給寶寶參加一些運動班或興趣班，讓他多學習不同技能，亦能多接觸不同的人

運動能讓人增強自信心和滿足感；不同的興趣班亦能帶來的同的歡欣和樂趣的




另外，閒時多帶寶寶到沙灘，動物園，太空館或科學館玩耍吧

他們會很高興的，也會表現真正的自己

Mama101

I agree with the above.  Should let him join more activities such as playgroups where he talks to different children.  Also let him learn some team sports when he gets a little older such as soccer or basketball, more communication with other children is vital.

If you are very concerned, take him to see a psychologist for a checkup.

elok2009

don't need to find specialist so early

let her meet more friend first

join more extra curricular activities

if the problem continues, try to seek help from specialist

linusfong

get him to playground.  Let him play 1/2 hour and when he get relax and happy, he will release him self and play with other.  Don't need specialist so early.  

Try to have some of your friend to play with him for say 1/2 hour and if he has eye contact with other and can give answer to question or play together with toy.  That shouldn't be problems

原帖由 elok2009 於 09-10-8 11:20 發表
don't need to find specialist so early

let her meet more friend first

join more extra curricular activities

if the problem continues, try to seek help from specialist

維尼媽

我小朋友又係好怕羞，情況同你一樣。最慘係小一interview時，見到副校長，副校長只係問佢叫咩名，佢答完就衝咗出嚟大叫 Daddy，然後將個頭塞落我老公個褲浪度！

好咗學校無嫌棄佢收咗佢，係老師通力合作之下，真係慢慢進步，學校俾好多機會佢，選佢做班長，又有一個名叫"大拇指" (唔係好肯定) 嘅交友訓練！而家三年級仲做埋領袖生！我又鼓勵佢多參加不同類型活動，特別係戶外活動，一路認識不同的生態，又與不同嘅人討論，明知佢吹水唔抺咀都尤得佢！

今年見時機成熟，再鼓勵埋佢參加朗誦比賽，老師都係話佢怕羞所以俾個機會佢，唔望佢攞獎，只要佢係評判面前唸完成首詩，大家便成功啦！囝囝開始唔肯去，咁我又攞我以前朗誦經驗分享，佢又好受喎！大家訂立目標：媽咪陪佢去，佢入去唸完就走！咁佢又好熱烈期待！

慢慢啦！唔使心急！好似用咗好多氣力都無進步，但有一日返轉頭睇，你會發現原來小朋友已經行前一大步！唔好放棄呀！

greenspring

Hi Wingchee,

I agree with what other mommies' suggestions. I think you can take him to go out more to meet other children before taking him to see the specialist.

my child is shy too. His teacher comments him as very smart kid and says the shyness is his personality comes from our gene wor.  i worry he will have few friends when he grows up. i purposely arrange different playgroups for him to meet different people. there are classes offering communication training and performance like actings. Besides, you can setup playdates for him to play with other children, take him to the church, playground or park.

My child has improved a bit now. don't expect he will have big change within a short period of time. It takes time to help him to build up his confidence.



我個仔今年 4 歲...佢係屬於發展遲緩.(佢 3 歲先學叫人) 佢好怕羞...佢對下有個妹妹...佢同我地相處無問題既...有時仲會好惡話妹妹既...但佢對出面既人就唔同哂...佢會成日垂低個頭...叫佢叫人佢都唔敢...佢成日同我 ... [/quote]

GiGiMum

Hi! 維尼媽

Pls check PM. Thx!

原帖由 維尼媽 於 09-10-8 17:49 發表
我小朋友又係好怕羞，情況同你一樣。最慘係小一interview時，見到副校長，副校長只係問佢叫咩名，佢答完就衝咗出嚟大叫 Daddy，然後將個頭塞落我老公個褲浪度！mouth:" />

好咗學校無嫌棄佢收咗佢，係老師通力合作之下，真係慢慢進步， ...

GiGiMum

Hi! Wingchee,


Pls check PM.

原帖由 wingchee 於 09-8-31 16:23 發表
我個仔今年 4 歲...佢係屬於發展遲緩.(佢 3 歲先學叫人) 佢好怕羞...佢對下有個妹妹...佢同我地相處無問題既...有時仲會好惡話妹妹既...但佢對出面既人就唔同哂...佢會成日垂低個頭...叫佢叫人佢都唔敢...佢成日同我 ...

lokaci

WingChee我係一個小朋友既導師架黎既, 其實平時都會有接觸到同你仔仔相近類型的小朋友. 其實要知道佢點解會有咁既性格仲要睇多D野架先會了解到點解佢會有咁既行為.

就好似要睇..佢講野表唔表達到自己啦..又或者佢平時同D同學仔係點相處都會可能會成為佢怕羞無咩自信既原因.

比喻話,佢會唔會驚自己講野得唔到認同,或者佢驚表達唔到會俾人笑, 於是索性唔講咁.( 所以我地絕對唔鼓勵家長去鬧OR責備小朋友, 因為小朋友會有好深刻既印象或受大打擊, 可能會不敢再作嘗試, 驚做多錯多)


大家都講得好岩呀, 係應該鼓勵你仔仔參加多D課外活動, 最緊要係團隊性要求大D既活動,好似足球咁.或者一D體驗學習的課堂. 等佢習慣同唔同既別人相處. 然
而且平時亦都多D向佢發問多點, 多問" 點解你會咁諗既?""點解?" 從而幫助佢練習 EXPRESS自己. 咁做亦都幫助到你了解仔仔既思考方法/想法.

至於你仔仔話學校無朋友,其實除左向老師問之外, 或者可以同其他同班同學仔問下你仔仔既狀況同埋佢地同你仔仔係相處成點.
同學仔係同學校你仔仔相處最多既人, 佢地睇到既野有時比老師仲多架.


其實都唔駛太多擔心既, 0係我自己接觸既小朋友當中,都有見到佢地有好明顯既改變.

小朋友俾多D時間同埋俾多D機會佢去接觸多D唔同既野人, 練習及鼓勵佢去表達自己就會有所改善架喇.
記住我地要去鼓勵, 一步一步黎.
加油呀!