讀書真的靠天份還是後天可培養?

ANChan59

Submarina2012 發表於 12-12-13 11:52
可否分享一些實則應用 技巧或案例 如何應用paradigm shift in parenting？
謝謝！
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I am not sure the following blogs fit your request or not, but it's the first time I think about paradigm shift in parenting and shared in my blogs 8 months ago.

http://www.edu-kingdom.com/home.php?mod=space&uid=107125&do=blog&id=625
http://www.edu-kingdom.com/home.php?mod=space&uid=107125&do=blog&id=627

http://www.edu-kingdom.com/home.php?mod=space&uid=107125&do=blog&id=629

http://www.edu-kingdom.com/home.php?mod=space&uid=107125&do=blog&id=633

I know it's not traditional parenting method, I just follow his development and walk with him. It works between us,may not work for other families.

ANChan59

shadeslayer 發表於 12-12-13 11:38
最近我也思考這問題，我的孩子玩大過天，究竟多少鼓勵或推動才是恰當，多少才是太大壓力呢？比多少空間她慢 ...

No quick answers, you need to trial and error with them ......

annie40

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Submarina,

以你的一贯才智, 做物今天脑筋关蔽! 我不自量力的讲几句:

自己喜歡的事物會很投入及沉迷，而不大喜歡的會很抗拒而往往敷衍了事。
****   正常人都是这样的, 除非你希望孩子不正常
喜歡的事物會很投入及沉迷-
*****  喂! 沉迷醉心的人更能看得深,想得真, 自乐其中, 遇苦而不觉其苦, 是成就大事的最高景界, 做老豆的仲想点, 得闲记得帮阿仔拨凉, 抬等仔, 做阿四, 总之由得佢!
情緒問題?  
*****  出去两父子打场波, Teenager 钟爱ACTION 多过TALKING.
而不大喜歡的會很抗拒而往往敷衍了事。
***** 12 岁的孩子最喜欢抗拒父母,急于长大,  愈叫愈走的, 见佢敷衍了事, 就当看不见吧, 继续坚持比D 好料佢, 佢能力高, 愿意做起来便是easy peas, 唔好comment 太多, 等半年一年孩子又是另一番光景了.

行到今天, 令郎大部分已经是超额完成, 唔好贪心嘞!

ANChan59

Submarina2012 發表於 12-12-13 14:12
看過你在Blog的分享，開始明白你所講的paradigm shift in parenting是那回事，發覺我自己其實在與孩子 相處 ...

Our parenting methods need to tie with their development and maturity.
If my boy has equivalent to 16 years old IQ and memory, but the physical age is 10. During our encounters, he may switch between ages 10-16, if I can't follow the switching pattern, I got mad and yelled at him when he was little. The CP taught us to face the encounter, with his physical age and intelligent age in mind.

Sorry, it's a bit complicated.

ANChan59

Submarina2012 發表於 12-12-13 14:32
Yes, that is why I have to switch among different modes of transaction from time to time.

We shared similar problems..... Add oil.

annie40

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按贵校的一般往绩,申请书入场应该无问题, 难度是ivy league 的收生比率是5-15%, 即是要问点样fight 低其他95 或85位同级表现的学生.  是靓仔D, 或是高大D, 或其他?  是天外有天啊!

samuel89

marcuscyrus 發表於 12-12-12 11:23
有天份者事半功倍，天資不高者事倍功半，但成就可以是後者較高。個人認為學習態度比天份更重要
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除左學習態度及天份外, 仲有一樣難以捉摸因素叫"開竅"......"開左竅"可以"日行千里", "開唔到竅"點做都寸步難行.....

annie40

加强合适的basic training , 多出去看, 吃得健康, 可以加快"開竅"的时间表. 千万别甚么也不去做, 把等"開竅", 变成惰性藉口

samuel89

annie40 發表於 12-12-13 18:00
加强合适的basic training , 多出去看, 吃得健康, 可以加快"開竅"的时间表. 千万别甚么也不去做, 把等"開竅", 变成惰性藉口

其實都幾矛盾架........加快 vs 等(惰性藉口).....其實都各有好處壞處.......有時真系幾難取捨呵....

ANChan59

annie40 發表於 12-12-13 18:00
加强合适的basic training , 多出去看, 吃得健康, 可以加快"開竅"的时间表. 千万别甚么也不去做, 把等"開竅 ...

Exposure is critical ..... I am not sure about diet!

Yanamami

annie40 發表於 12-12-13 18:00
加强合适的basic training , 多出去看, 吃得健康, 可以加快"開竅"的时间表. 千万别甚么也不去做, 把等"開竅 ...

我覺得多d听唔同既成年人傾偈/ 听下唔同經歷, 有時都會有助開竅. 細個時d飯局成日被逼听成檯大人講野, 不過而家d小朋友上網多.....

laorenjia

shadeslayer 發表於 12-12-12 18:55
正常21歲大學畢業，三年 PhD. 的確有不少要四年以上或有 gap year。

Maybe you are talking about your personal case, but I think we are talking about average here. As usual the answer is just a click away. According to the following report  (para 13 on p 6)http://www.universitiesuk.ac.uk/Publications/Documents/research_report_doctorate.pdf

The mean age of full-time registrations of PhD programs in the UK is 27.3 years old with the youngest in chemistry (24) and eldest in education (34). And I believe you don't need me to tell you that on average it takes longer than 3 years to complete a PhD, even in the UK.

shadeslayer

Thanks for the data.  I am only saying it is typical to go straight from bachelor degree to PhD and a 3 year program is expected.  Like I say gap years and dragging on to 4 years+ I suspect.  If somebody gets a PhD in the UK at 24, I would say he/she is smart.

ANChan59

shadeslayer 發表於 12-12-14 00:44
Thanks for the data.  I am only saying it is typical to go straight from bachelor degree to PhD and  ...

For research, not just smart, but also luck. After three years hard work, a new theory or a new approach or someone just issue a report or paper identical to your research...... you need to redo or modify your scope.....
I have two PhD friends, they got the degree within 2.5 years.They all said its luck more than hard work and smart. One even told me that when he published a paper, another doctoral student's scope and methodology exactly the same as his work, but one week late, the paper rejected and the research needed to redefine the scope and methodology..... Hard luck.