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Re: 06年培正K1....一齊交流下啦!!!
Cleo..
聽見你咁講...我第一個反應係....好咯~~ 原來我個仔唔係 the only one....let me share with your my experience here~~
你依家講嘅嘢我大仔當年 K1 全部出齊...我每隔一頭半個月就收到 "feedback" (老實講...又唔可以話係投訴, 不過我成日都話老師揾得你傾偈多數係唔慌好嘢架喇....), 對"動感型"小朋友嚟講唔好話培正呀, 去到間間幼稚園都"蝕底"架喇~~ :cry: :cry: 因為所謂"精人出口, 笨人出手", 成鬼日咁"活躍", 想唔俾人認得就怪...當時連隔離班d老師同學都識佢架...死未....俾人識佢曳有鬼用咩....
當年我大彥都係咁...又反斗, 又自我, 唔鍾意人搞佢, 一搞就出手...etc..又好奇, 成日搞人地, 富同情心 (但就係好心得滯, 同學仔唔識做功課又成日走去"幫人", 人地唔識答問題又去搶答), 排隊又死要爭排第一, 結果響人眼中咪被視為"搞事份子"囉~~~ 同學仔成日覺得佢係"好曳", "唔聽話"之類, 有d小朋友仲成日告佢~~ :cry: 當時我為咗咁都喊唔少....我心覺得好唔好意思, 因為佢整親人, d"受害小朋友"就會返去同佢父母講係 XXX 推我呀...etc...搞到全世界都當我個仔係反斗星....其實唔係我呢個做阿媽嘅幫實自己個仔先咁講...我大仔係反斗, 但都只係一d典型嘅 "attention seeking behaviour"...this happens very commonly among kids ga la....只不過永遠出手打人個個就係唔岩架喇.. (但其實好多時係我仔先俾人撩, 佢就唔抵得頸, 要同人鬥咀, 打番人之類), 但d人睇唔到撩人個個, 只係記得推人個個, 咁咪衰哂囉....
當時我都成鬼日收到老師電話架 (真係好唔開心架, 都話打親嚟都係冇好嘢哇.... ), 好似你咁, 我都好擔心第日因為被"投訴"得多而要被"勸喻"退學....但有樣嘢你可以放心, 老師打比我唔係要"投訴"佢, 只係指出一d佢地見到嘅行為, 其他 support staff 點諗我唔理 (反正個班人有部份真係好鬼官僚, 你幾乖佢地都係對你晦氣架喇), 但最緊要係老師會點睇~~ 就住呢樣我好感激培正d老師, 佢地不單止唔會嬲佢 (可能因為佢地真係見唔少唔同嘅小朋友) 佢地對我仔仔呢d行為唔單止唔會 label 佢係曳, 反而會嘗試去欣賞佢一d正面嘅嘢...e.g. 佢幫人做埋d嘢只係好心, 雖然咁會搞到人地乜都唔識, 根本幫唔到人~~ 並會引導個d認為佢曳嘅小朋友去學識欣賞每個小朋友好與唔好嘅一面, 而唔會令其他人都對我仔有錯覺覺得佢好反斗....
再加上因為我收到"報告", 知阿仔響學校又曳咗, 我就又響屋企同佢講, 教佢唔好咁咁咁...要點點點....then 慢慢地..依家佢 K3 喇....已經好咗好多...起碼唔再郁手郁腳, 亦學識"忍耐", 咪成日爭第一, 雖然間唔中都會曳, 但有時我返去接佢放學時我都聽到班主任同我講話我阿仔仲有點曳點曳...但都加一句 : "但我真係睇到你仔仔比以前有好大改善..."...聽到我都好開心.....証明學校同老師都會對呢類小朋友係採用"包容"嘅態度, 咁我就放心好多喇....
係咪多數培正小朋友都好乖架?
==> 我以前都以為係, 其實唔係, 而係乜人都有......依家再聽完你講, 又回想起老師講, 我就知其實我地小朋友呢類情況係都幾普遍, 所以唔駛太擔心, 只要家校合作, 佢地一定會慢慢好架喇..
其實我仔曳我所感受到嘅壓力反而唔係嚟自學校, 而係嚟自家長咋...因為每個小朋友響父母心目中都係"寶", 尤其K1個時, 好多小朋友只係剛入學, 根本未識規矩, 亦未識與人相處嘅 appropriate ways, so 有時阿仔唔乖整親人, if 比較大件事, e.g. 小朋友可能塊面紅咗 etc...then 手續上老師都會知會"受害人"家長架嘛...就算老師唔講, 小朋友都會番去同父母講, then 現今社會...唉...一個起兩個止, so 個個都係"掌上明珠", 好多父母亦係初為人父母, 故自然萬分緊張, 好多時就會"大興問罪之師", 問老師.."邊個打我個仔架..."...etc...
老師雖然就係唔想大家唔開心都唔會 disclose the name of the kid who hit others...但有時小朋友自己會講嘛...then 個d父母因為未知哂來龍去脈 (e.g. 有時係大家小朋友爭嘢玩..so 兩個都有唔著 ma) ....又或見自己小朋友喊得犀利, 個心就痛, then 就 complain to the teacher 話佢地唔睇實d小朋友....唉....我都有教書架...我知有時老師都好難做....小朋友邊個受傷我地都唔想, 但一班 30 人, 又唔係坐監, 有時走漏眼真係一d都唔出奇, 而且好多"傷"都係小傷而已...唔係因為我個仔係冇事個個先咁講, 就算有事都咁話...小朋友受傷真係好平常, 我個仔都一樣有試過俾人打, 但只要唔係大吉利是, 只係小傷, 擦損之類, 我就會 focus on remedial action...以後可以點教自己小朋友 or 睇人地家長會點處理以後多過過只係去追究同埋怨點解個仔比人打咗...但可惜唔係每個家長都好似我咁諗, 好多時事情發生咗就埋怨甚至投訴去學校樹....呢樣先最難搞咋......因為我唔排除 (雖然我冇見過) if 個仔真係被其他家長"群攻"咁會有乜後果架喎~~~ 不過我就有聽過老師親口講過佢地係唔會趕小朋友走嘅~~
所以老師呢點都做得唔錯, 起碼佢地會真係平常心去睇呢類事件, 唔會偏幫某一學生又或指責某一學生, 會嘗試 balance the two sides la....咁對大家都係一件好事....
而我 so far 亦開心大部份家長都會明事理, 起碼大家會做好教小朋友嘅本份 (當然唔敢包人人都得), this is also one reason why I like PC...好多時讀書開唔開心, 學校固然角色重要, 但你d"鄰居" (即係同學仔 and their families) 都一樣有好大影響力架...唔知你同唔同意...??
嘻嘻...又長氣咗添....總之一句, 唔駛擔心, 老師/staff will not label students, but still 我地都要幫手教好仔仔架...唔係佢地都會好難做架..明冇.~~~~
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