好擔心...醫生話BB發展遲緩~~

mrsphcheung

tin_tin,
My child studied N2 in May, 2004 in this child care centre (as I discovered his problem very very late, 3 10/12 years old).  So far so good.  
"依家讀緊的幼稚園雖然少學生， 但d老師很大頭假， 愛心麻麻， 又以為自己好專業。"  I won't send my child to such a school even though it has good reputation.  Many famous schools are like this --- rude teachers but good students.  Students are good not because of the teachers.  Students are not taught by the teachers, but are taught by their parents.  

hinhinmummy

to all

多謝你們的鼓勵! 我今朝再留左message比家姐的班主任, 同佢再講聲我們同家姐處理左佢的問題(暫時), 亦會同佢講我們會多加留意家姐的情緒問題, 學佢話齋, 家姐仔係一個多愁善感的人, 有小小不開心就收埋, 不出聲, 連老師都發覺呢一點, 驚佢做埋d野嚇你一驚, 我諗我呢個做媽媽的, 一定要多加留意, 我不想將來有起事上黎, 後悔一生.

今朝同家姐仔返學, 佢聽到有一放屁, 係度笑, 我話佢不岩, 不可以甘樣笑人, 同埋無禮貌, 佢就用手摔眼, 又無喊出聲, 但係不開心, 果一刻, 我真係不知應該點做好, 我已經係好聲好氣, 不係鬧佢, 只係同佢講道理, 不通見到佢做得不岩的野, 都不出聲?

gigi2

我諗, 我真係要搵個心理學家/心理醫生, 醫治我的心理先.  我就快crazy啦.

你中英都得, 雖然我英文係有限公司, 但都好的, 可以訓練下我d英文麻.

hinhinmummy

tin_tin

我同你一樣, 返到屋企差不多8點, 有時早小小, 換得衫黎, 同軒軒做下功課, 跟住check下大女的功課, 又話食飯啦, 食完飯, 又話要洗面刷牙訓覺啦.

真係好小親子時間.

陸美媽

你諗的問題, 我都曾經諗過, 好不好比軒軒繼續係普通的幼兒園到讀, 自己再比私人訓練.

但我同你不同, 軒軒望人不係望得好好, 同埋佢係排緊s位, 不係i位, 但我依家又係度諗, 經過大半年的訓練, 軒軒明顥地已經進步左好多, 甘係不係可以讀i位, 不駛讀s位呢?

佢依家間幼兒園, 不知點解, 我覺得, 每個星期六接佢放學的時侯, 都好似接個乞兒仔返屋企啦, 好污糟.

工人都話, 有一日接軒軒放學, 塊面'chee 立立', 流完鼻血又無人幫佢抹.......希望快d捱完呢個學期算吧啦.

hinhinmummy

kakab

我依家先得閒開解你, 想當年, 軒軒做完評估之後, 我亦試過係地鐵喊到收不到聲, 由cwb喊到返公司, 係公司d同事見到我不多妥, 一問我, 我都講不到野, 又喊過.

到依家, 有時見到軒軒, 自己都眼濕濕.  點都好啦, 喊完再努力過, 如果自己都軟'藥'的話, 邊個來幫自己的小朋友呢? 不知你有無宗教信仰, (記憶中好似無), 試下祈禱, 當係講出心聲, 等自己舒服d, 再不係, 上黎呻下啦.

hoho

可能我無logout, 所以你果晚12點都見我on line, 早排軒軒出水荳, 我驚家姐仔係佢自己房悶, 所以我拿左個modem過佢房部電腦度, 所以依家得佢房部電腦上到網, 甘夜, 訓左覺啦!

不知係不係軒軒比較靜, 出街佢拖到我實, 我不拖佢, 佢都會叫我拖住, 所以我無你們的煩惱, 但比d心機d.

to all

軒軒識踏單車啦! 我早幾日係廚房摷返家姐細個時侯的三輪車, 放係廳, 初時佢不肯坐, 但又好奇, 因為有佢心愛的叮噹(不知點解依家叫多啦a夢佢不叫, 係都要叫叮噹), 星期六, 佢自己坐上去, 尋日卒之可以踏到幾步, 係屋企條走廊都踏得幾下.

有一晚, 佢訓覺的時侯, 拿住d野玩, 我叫佢比媽媽, 佢不肯比, 繼續玩, 玩到甘上下, 佢自己拿住比我的同時, 講'比媽媽', 好鬼開心.

st

軒軒識講, 開燈, 熄燈, 開門, 刪門, 開電視, 甘算不算片語?

mickeyma

Report:
We have got the advise from social worker that Yu got the I seat in 红磡家維邨保良局丁卯. We can start around Aug. this year. Hope it is a good start.

Hinhinmummy,
I have the same problem as you. My daughter was spoiled as we put most of our time on her before his brother's problem being found. She is very clever girl with excellent academic result with very little time investing in school tasks. She likes reading very much and has read many many books and somehow makes her more mature in thinking. I found her problems become more and more difficult to handle as she is very rebellious, she lies sometimes, she could  not accept failure (She could be unhappy when she was nr. 2 not nr. 1 in academic result, she was very unhappy when she got 80 score in Inter-school Music competition last weekend). I wish I could have more time for her.. though I tried my very best to squeeze time for her already... She needs badly someone to talk to and to guide her... but not everytime, she will talk with you her true thinkings... If we don't listen to her, I guess she will hide her own thinking more and more...
My husband could not help too much in this aspect, same in my son's case. All the training to son and care to daughter is on my shoulder... He is willing to do, but does not have the skill... I think nowadays, kids requests more and more from their parents.


Kakab,
Don't be upset, all of us experienced this low tide...
Things will be better. Most important, you must have belif on your son and talk to school, to professionals what is the best way to help your son... cheer up!!!

kakab105

hinhinmummy

我好好多架喇! 會同老公傾傾黎緊點搞~~退學定再試下! 諗番先前擺左佢去普通幼兒中心暫托，佢係冇喊老師都冇話好大投訴(可能只係暫托啦) 但就真係咩都學唔到番黎，反而去s位既中心就學左好多野，我睇都番去岩亞仔多d喇! 亞仔都係等梗s位嘛!

我算有無宗教信仰，不過有時都會迷失

joanne

加油呀你都!


mickeyma

thx! 唔開心完架喇! 我會努力!

hinhinmummy

mickeyma

我同你的景況是一樣, 軒軒的功課, 一係我做, 一係工人做, 佢不會同軒軒做, 但又成日話自己同軒軒玩 :cry:

家姐仔的性格太似你囡囡啦, 怕失敗, 要做第一, 不要做第二.

我都係度諗, 點解家姐甘聰明, 細佬會甘? 家姐今個星期默書開始背默, 佢可以看一次, 就識背 呢d叫過目不忘?

點解你們i位甘快有位? 我未有消息?

kakab

希望來年軒軒有幸同你仔仔做同學仔, 不過佢應該n2, 你仔仔應該n1

HelenMrs.Lau

hinhinmummy 寫道:
依家d小朋友真係麻煩, 得果7歲人仔, 情緒問題都多多.
我都係度諗, 點解家姐甘聰明, 細佬會甘?

我對阿女D情緒問題都好煩 :cry:  :cry:  :cry:
ME TOO :-|

JOANNA722

kakab105
我諗你心情平伏了很多!  大家都加油!  雖然我日日都好唔開心, 成日因見佢未識講野而緊緊於懷, 有時見佢好似知好多野, 有時又覺得佢好似嘜都唔識, 有時更覺得佢瘋瘋 癲癲, 可能我誇張了點, 但佢一有怪異行為我就............近幾日, 佢又有新野, 鐘意咪實隻眼, 再用2隻手遮實, 攪到個樣好核酸, 古古怪怪, 又要立即停止佢這樣做; 但唔開心都要做人架啦! 我別無他選.  昨日去完街返屋企, 佢好乖自己除鞋襪, 你地話係味古怪, 一係扭到7彩, 一係好正常.

鐘意咪實隻眼..... 今日我看他在校食早餐, 佢又係感, 但係我見老師都唔左止佢, 真係唔開心.  一陣約左老師攞評估表(類似成績表), 又要面對現實了,  明日又要返去評估中心見醫生,
不過我覺得現在心情, 沒什麼wor, 可能明日先識緊張

hinhinmummy

joanna

面對佢地d表情, 不好加以阻止, 越係阻止, 佢地越得意去做.

平常心, 用第二樣野引開佢.

JOANNA722

陸美媽
我個好似返工架, 5日半, 除紅色假期, 日日要返, 無暑假無新年假, 好底架!

hinhinmummy
軒軒間PLK係咪一樣啊?

justjust

估唔到一個weekend去左甘多版﹐我係公司先有中文輸入﹐係屋企亦唔得閒上網﹐唯有返工先可以上黎。

kakab105,
我唔識點安慰你﹐我地初期都擔心啊女會俾學校投訴(普通幼稚院既幼兒班)﹐因佢唔聽指示同自己鐘意做咩就做咩﹐但好好彩老師好包容﹐話小朋友剛剛返學個個都係甘﹐佢第一個月既progress report 話聽指示只係fair(四級中由頭數落第三級)﹐老師話排隊時佢走去玩玩具甘﹐但第二個月就好D去到第二級﹐宜家都係。可能只有用長D時間等佢/老師慢慢適應。

hinhinmummy, gigi2, mickeyma,

聽你地講要照顧兩個仔女其實我自己唔係甘辛苦﹐但想像唔到細女出世後會係點。

最近唔知係唔係對啊女既要求高左﹐定係自己炆左﹐有時為左D自己事後都覺得係小事而控制唔到自己既脾氣。尋日仲打左啊女隻手﹐當時已經後悔。今朝叫啊女起身同佢講我要返工﹐同埋媽媽好對唔住打左佢手仔﹐佢仲半夢半醒﹐諗住同佢講左bye bye就算數﹐(如果唔講bye bye佢起身會喊住找我地)﹐點知佢突然好清醒甘講媽媽唔好再打我隻手﹐媽媽唔好嬲我﹐ok? 我當堂對眼同個鼻都好酸﹐原來啊女甘識諗野﹐仲可以一口氣講出黎﹐另外佢既說話令我更後悔﹐更慚愧點解啊女甘容易原諒自己﹐自己就甘小氣甘容易發脾氣。我即刻再講對唔住同應承會控制自己脾氣。

gigi2,

係啦﹐中文輸入係慢好多﹐但係就一針見血好多。

Hei媽

hinhinmumy/micky ..

都知道要照顧2個小朋友係好考功夫, 自問自已自從呀仔有事後, 對老公都關注少

hinhinmummy

joanna

係呀軒軒果間都係, 只放紅色.

hei媽

mug協康有校服? 不係卦, 我都不知我敢不敢比軒軒著出街?

工人好留意軒軒架, 佢有時腳上'魚'左, 多一粒'蚊'爛, 佢都即刻會report比我聽.

同埋軒軒不會係學校開大的, 佢每朝一定開完大先返學的

mamee

Hei媽
協康好似真係無校服, 小朋友返到學校就著件圍裙仔咁.

justjust
關於打, 我前一輪聽左個講座, 覺得都有得著.
個講師問: 對上一次打小朋友, 係因為小朋友果日特別曳, 定係我地果日心情特別差?
佢咁一問, 想真d又係喎. 好多時因為果日我心情差, 所以就忍唔住打左落去.
每次打之前咁樣一想, 就應該唔會打得落手.

同埋講師都有講: 有邊個人(小朋友)會喜歡同個時時打佢既人(父母)係一齊. 關係建立一d都唔容易, 要破壞只需要一下子.

大家都要切記切記.

mamee

hinhinmummy

協康好似真係無校服, 小朋友返到學校就著件圍裙仔咁.

-----oh 甘就好law.

Hei媽

hinhinmummy

係呀, 我係講緊件圍裙,因為我都怕有人識.我知咁唸唔唔好,但....

mamee/micky媽

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mickeyma

Hei媽, Hinhinmummy,
Kids do not need to wear uniform in S school.
We only bought one school bag. Even this, you can choose to buy or not to buy..  

Sometimes, SCCC is good that teachers know the needs of the kid and will take care and set a detailed target for kids to reach. But once your kids have intention to imitate and follow others, I think more stimulation is more important.  
Today is the new start for Yu in school. As teacher will adjust his group. There will be 4-5 kids who will leave end of this term will put in his group and they will experience some new teaching method in normal kindergarden school. Something like free choice of library corner and drawing corner...  Yu's PT training has been increased twice per week as his progress in this aspect is weakest. Other intensive training will remain.  Somehow, I am quite satisfied with the school except it is too far away...  Trainers are very considerate and training is tailor-made...

Both the school ST and private ST started with asking questions with Yu... School ST is on the stage of answering question properly including: Pick which animal to supermarket, which color car it will take? which supermarket you will go (two choice), which thing you will buy (6 choice), and practise give money to buy and say thank you afterwards.  Private ST is one step forward? training him to ask:
have or not have xxx ah?  Yu was used to answering such question, and was not so cooperated in put forward questions... but finally ST let him understand and did it. At home, I used English Spelling card with alphabet blocks to train him to ask: have or not have A ah? then I will pass the block to him. To the end, he could ask by himself without a hint.. quite happy...      He likes English very much, I can use that as a reinforcement... ha ha.. even in his OT or PT training..

mamee

Hei媽

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gigi2

Just returned to work but found here a lot of messages posted already – we are very supportive!

Tintin,

You also have 2 kids?  My children’s age are quite similar to those of mickeyma & hinhinmummy.   Taking 2 children for a balance is not an easy task especially one already in primary and the other got different level of problem to help him/her overcom the difficulties.  We are working mom as well so that the time is never enough for us to allocate.  Much worse, I do not have any relatives (even grandparents) to rely on or support me to take care of these two children.  But I will pray to God that my husband and maid are so far so good to cooperate with me.  My husband handles the small one at night whilst I follow & revise homework with elder daughter.  My elder daughter is an understanding girl but sometimes will be lazy and rebellious.  Her academic result is only above average from school.  Sometime I feel a bit sorry about this as if I have sufficient or more time to stimulate & support her that she must perform much better!

Heep Hong discussed with me that they did not recommend my younger girl to do assessment again within a short time from last assessment report.  The psychologist observed her last lesson that my girl seemed to over protect herself in crowd or strange area but she was not innocent with things around her and she would observe each child in the group.  She always concealed herself extremely in the moment when she found herself insecure at the place.  Fortunately, the ST from Heep Hong commented her performance was improving especially on speech but the social interaction skills was weak comparatively.