再有人打擊我為女兒選讀國際學校的決定

zitaeric

非常感謝 bobogood, ruby1219 & amyyeung,

你們的分享惜除了我好大的疑慮, 但是這條道路還是初初起步, 心底始終還有多多少少的起伏...但是信心真的給你們增強了許多.
最近在BK網內另一位家長也分享他的孩子在SIS的经驗, 話說他的孩子不甚適應學校生活, 校內的同學仔吾同他的孩子講通, 需然他己教導孩子在學校要主動和小朋友玩, 但仍然沒有好轉, 他的孩子讀得很不開心...準備轉校!!
我不知這個小朋友在溝通上真正的問題是什麽, 但是心褱面確實比較大的擔心在這方面.
最後, 再要多謝amy & 你個囡囡, 實際的經驗同感覺分享是我很需要的.

Happy小米

看到一位ba ba的分享, 都十分同意:

有自信, 較容易适應环境同學習.
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其實教育孩子真是一門深奧的學問,我也尚在學習檢討之中,有一些心得願與你分享.
我相信我兒子較強的語言表達能力來自他內心充分的自信,而培養孩子的自信是教育過程中至關重要的,所有諸如"大膽,鎮定,從容,隨機應變"等能力全都來自於強大的自信心.非常理解你對女兒學習普通話的擔憂和期待,正如我當初對兒子學習英語的擔憂一樣,他是以略懂英文26個字母的程度進入xxx學習的,可想而知,比起你來,我當時的擔憂有過之而無不及.但是事實是他現在的英文程度對比他的中文來說毫不遜色,這讓我大跌眼鏡之餘,更加肯定了自信是學習的鑰匙,語言環境是成功的關鍵.老師給他的評語總少不了大膽,主動,好學,自信心爆棚,而現行教育改革中提倡的"肯定教育"已開始讓許多孩子獲益良多,包括兒子以及xxx的孩子們.xxx在這一點上的確是可圈可點的.因此,我認為如果你能配合學校的教育,以“肯定”為基礎,有收有放的教導你的女兒,相信等她二年級的時候你一定也會有很多驚喜的.以下是我的幾項建議:1.入讀xxx的孩子相對來說學習壓力的確比較小,孩子較容易在"愉快"中懶散起來,因此培養孩子良好的學習習慣很重要,具體的說就是作為家長要督促孩子按時認真完成作業.教曉孩子用"滴水穿石,聚沙成塔"的方法真正做到輕鬆學習.2.通過手冊和老師保持緊密聯繫,即時了解孩子在校表現.與孩子多溝通,多鼓勵,少責罵.3.堅持用普通話或英語締造家庭語言氛圍(一年級學生在校用粵語交流).語言表達能力的提高可以間接幫助孩子的邏輯思維,分析判斷能力,從而提高她各科綜合能力.以上絕無自吹自擂誇誇其談之意,僅是嘗試後覺得初见成效的些許心得,加上獲知你我份屬同鄉備感親切,因此不經意間囉唆了一點,希望不要介意.相信妳的女兒有你這樣一位尤為關注孩子成長教育的媽媽,一定能在xxx愉快學習並找到屬於她的亮麗舞台.
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tongtracy

Hi, 大家好:

我想知那間學校有IS課程？

zitaeric

" 有自信, 較容易适應环境同學習. " 相當同意, 那位爸爸的分享確是一個很好而又正面的例子, 當中有很多籍得借鏡...的確教育孩子真是一門深奧的學問, 作為父母親在各方面都要不斷學習和檢討, 和家中孩子一起成長. " 大膽,主動,好學,自信心爆棚 " 是每位家長都希望子女能夠擁有的能耐, 亦不是一時三刻可以陪養出來的, 孩子打從細細個還未真正入學, 就要從家庭教育最好, 多些鼓勵孩子, 用多些正面的言詞, 讓他從生活等各方面不斷得到成功感, 孩子自信心就會自自然然地滋長起來.

非常感謝 小米 帶給我們的回應和分享...謝謝 !

evatsoihk

Hi zitaeric：

因爲我的女兒會在今年8月底轉升SIS，所以我很想知道“話說他的孩子不甚適應學校生活....”的一些詳情。

可以告訴我在BK網内，找哪一個標題才可以分享到上述所說的事情？

請pm我，或[email protected]。

謝謝。

zitaeric 寫道:
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最近在BK網內另一位家長也分享他的孩子在SIS的经驗, 話說他的孩子不甚適應學校生活, 校內的同學仔吾同他的孩子講通, 需然他己教導孩子在學校要主動和小朋友玩, 但仍然沒有好轉, 他的孩子讀得很不開心...準備轉校!!
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JennyBaBa

Dear 旻旻&思思

I understand this issue has upset you a lot.

My advice to you, although I prefer IS, is not to send your kid to IS in your situation. As you mentioned, you need to afford all the expenses and you need to give up some other activities of your kid so as to send him to IS.

Take ESF as an example, the 2006/7 school fees are HK$51500 and $82,600. However, I just got an email from ESF that the fee will increase to ~54000 for primary school in 2007/8.

Besides school fee, you need to pay bus fee ($600-800/month) or other fee (e.g. Chinese private tuition).

So, you need to consider
1. Can you afford the expenses without sacrificing your quality of life?
2. Can you afford the ~60% increase in secondary school fee?
3. Can you still save $ for his university education?
4. Can you keep your job for another 12-15 years?
5. Can you keep any saving for retirement?
6. Will your marriage last forever?

If any one of the answer of the above question is NO or NOT SURE, you really need to think twice, unless your husband changes his mind.

IS is better than local school in many aspects, but don't forget that many good people are also graduated from local schools. Sending your kid to a local school is not a death sentence! He may do even better than in an IS.

So, if one day for any reason you send your kid to a local school, don't feel bad! You are always a good mother!

BTW, may I know which IS you plan to send? Pm me if you don't want to disclose publicly.

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旻旻&思思 寫道:
好多謝你地
如果我可以有個同樣認同IS既老公，咁就好啦，可惜唔係，佢覺得緊係要讀唔駛錢既學校，佢話明明唔駛錢都唔讀，走去比幾千蚊一個月讀IS或私校，我一路都有同佢講過IS同LOCAL SCHOOL既分別，亦同佢去一間IS既OPEN DAY睇過、、、、

其實我可以堅持送我小朋友讀呢間IS，只要全部學費同支出我比哂，而我又要放棄幾個我小朋友上緊既跳舞同畫畫班，佢如果唔鐘意D班都話，但佢又好鐘意，我一個人既收入又比唔倒咁多，唔係唔得，係辛苦D去維持咁比D錢出去，而家都仲OK，但唔知遲D加下又加下D學費咁我就好難維持

traveller

JennyBaBa 寫道:

So, you need to consider
1. Can you afford the expenses without sacrificing your quality of life?
2. Can you afford the ~60% increase in secondary school fee?
3. Can you still save $ for his university education?
4. Can you keep your job for another 12-15 years?
5. Can you keep any saving for retirement?
6. Will your marriage last forever?

If any one of the answer of the above question is NO or NOT SURE, you really need to think twice, unless your husband changes his mind.

嘩一連串的人生大問題! 真真要認真考慮! 但世事難料, 誰可預計!
誰能保証份工可做12-15年? 就算自己做老闆, 都唔可以擔保間公司15年內唔會執笠!
保証一世婚姻, 在今時今日, 更是天方夜譚!
加上天災橫禍, 生老病死! 誰知自己活到那一天!

能作出5年預計, 已相當了不起 (所以中國都只有5年計劃, 沒有10年計劃). 所以十年八載的保証, 真是強人所難. 一生一世更是遙不可及.

所以只要在現今環境下作出適當的評估, 再加上三五年的預計而作的決定, 已是一個很盡責的決定了. 太遠的事情, 隨遇而安吧!

有時我都很佩服一些低下層的父母. 他們在連兩餐都未穩定的情況下, 就生完一個又一個. 他們好像不用為養兒育女而擔憂!

mattsmum

JennyBaBa 寫道:

So, you need to consider
1. Can you afford the expenses without sacrificing your quality of life?
2. Can you afford the ~60% increase in secondary school fee?
3. Can you still save $ for his university education?
4. Can you keep your job for another 12-15 years?
5. Can you keep any saving for retirement?
6. Will your marriage last forever?

any specialist teaching us how to calculate?
assume 5% increase in school fee?
education fund?
stock?

yyyy

如果選擇讀IS,無疑是比較長遠的計劃,但又不可以說無得返轉頭,我個女間學校以前沒有中學,原來學校都有幫佢地呈分(不過今年取消了),都有部份學生讀返local中學,有些仲係名校!所以最重要是父母的取態,如果父母覺得is是好的,自然其實的享受都可以犧牲.

play

Thank you for you giving so many valued advices.
I can make up my mind now.

On the other hand, the expense is not less as ESF has announced to increase 3% secondary school fee and 5% primary school fee.

But I think the quality of school life for my daughter is the most important. I am not rich. But I can cut the expense such as not hiring the helper, or travel.

Once again thank you very much.

katyfok

IS--- I only trust CIS , HKIS and German Swiss... they're the TRUE IS...

Reason 1.
well- connected Alumni... this will help a lot when you kids grow up.. making friends or having connections worldwide!

Reason 2 ( MOST IMPORTANT REASON)
Well- connected academic advisors... you need them when your kids are ready for good college (aka.. univ).
this is why you want your kid to go to IS ar... Don't be mistaken by English la... or Chinese la.. ...Language is only secondary... this is what Local schools cannot give you!!!!!

Yes, they're too expensive and If I cannot afford,  my kids will go to Local school lor!
it's just that simple!

I will not have my kids go to some school with 2 or 3 "westerners or Indians" and all Chinese students there reading "Next" Magazine outside classroom.. and calling themselves IS school!


Every parents want the best for their kids... if you can't give the best, give the 2nd best lor-- local school.

alan1013

very very good points!

what about some independent schools such as Pui Kiu College? I really hope you can give me some advices.

Ruby1219

You sound racist and discriminative to the other IS.
I think most IS parents are looking for happy learning environment for their kids rather than the 'materialistic' reason of making connections with rich people and foreigners.

Sorry I can't agree with you.

Ruby

katyfok 寫道:
IS--- I only trust CIS , HKIS and German Swiss... they're the TRUE IS...

Reason 1.
well- connected Alumni... this will help a lot when you kids grow up.. making friends or having connections worldwide!

Reason 2 ( MOST IMPORTANT REASON)
Well- connected academic advisors... you need them when your kids are ready for good college (aka.. univ).
this is why you want your kid to go to IS ar... Don't be mistaken by English la... or Chinese la.. ...Language is only secondary... this is what Local schools cannot give you!!!!!

Yes, they're too expensive and If I cannot afford,  my kids will go to Local school lor!
it's just that simple!

I will not have my kids go to some school with 2 or 3 "westerners or Indians" and all Chinese students there reading "Next" Magazine outside classroom.. and calling themselves IS school!


Every parents want the best for their kids... if you can't give the best, give the 2nd best lor-- local school.

Kycmc

Ruby,

I am with you. I want my child to be connected with honest and upright people, irresective of race and financial wealth. I will not clap with ecstasy over my child knowing the grandchildren of Li Ka Shing or any other tycoons. I will be very sad if my child sees friendship and connection in a utilitarian way.

Kycmc

chingyu

I always agree with Ruby1219.     

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Ruby1219 寫道:
MarcusD,

Hey I totally agree with you.
I also think the best gift I can give my son is good and happy education and I plan NOT to give him a flat or a big bulk of money (at least I think so now, and also becos' I probably can't afford it. haha). I do believe that once he's well educated, with positive and 'correct' life attitude, he would be able to earn a good living by himself. Sometimes, kids will just abuse what their parents can give them and they tend to become lazy (kind of human instinct).

My parents did not give me anyways when I was young. Not even subsidizing or helping my education. I had to earn my school fee since F. 6. But I did learn a lot from this experience. At least I know that I myself, am responsible for my own life. I believe that once I'm grown up, my parents responsibility on me has finished.
I hope my kid will understand this as well.


Ruby1219 寫道:
You sound racist and discriminative to the other IS.
I think most IS parents are looking for happy learning environment for their kids rather than the 'materialistic' reason of making connections with rich people and foreigners.

Sorry I can't agree with you.

Ruby [quote]

丫頭

今日又有人走黎同我講您對b讀完中學諗住點? 我話跟住上大學囉, 佢又話:咁您又話可能唔夠錢比佢地去外國讀大學?  我話係HK讀大學都得者, 佢話IS學生好難係HK讀大學因為銜接唔到 我話銜接唔到係乜意思? 佢話即係追唔上, HK大學未必收

我話佢聽我個家庭醫生不知有多少個同學都係由IS出來的.

D人真係無時無刻揾d野黎打擊您,係要覺得您揀IS比小朋友讀係害左佢咁

play

play

昨日有朋友對老公講IS唔得。原因︰
1) 貴，尤其要去外國讀大學
2) 有人讀讀下都轉返 Local school.
3) 等等....................

我對老公說讀IS的好處，希望不會錯吧！！

丫頭 寫道:
今日又有人走黎同我講您對b讀完中學諗住點? 我話跟住上大學囉, 佢又話:咁您又話可能唔夠錢比佢地去外國讀大學?  我話係HK讀大學都得者, 佢話IS學生好難係HK讀大學因為銜接唔到 我話銜接唔到係乜意思? 佢話即係追唔上, HK大學未必收

我話佢聽我個家庭醫生不知有多少個同學都係由IS出來的.

D人真係無時無刻揾d野黎打擊您,係要覺得您揀IS比小朋友讀係害左佢咁

vesley

SUPORT SUPPORT IT'S YOUR GIRL NOT THEIRS.

原文章由 bubbles114 於 07-4-9 10:51 發表
Hi Play,

why do you have to bother other people's judgement?  it is not your relatives/friends' decision but yours.

In my opinion, studying IS is not about the kids' Chinese/English profici ...

hjm

Maybe I'll put all my kids into IS if I can afford it!!!!  Then hire Chinese teachers to focus more on Chinese (as it's at least as important as Eng)!!!