日學生成績大跌 歸咎無壓力教育

WYmom

If talking about how much freedom should be given to our kids, at which stage, it really varies depending on different kids.  I think it is more important to equip our kids with good value judgement, self-confidence and motivation, so that they will strike for what they deserve.

What I don't support is that some parents treat the kids as their property, so control every aspect of the kids, make all decisions for them, including their hobbies, their choice of subjects, and even career.  Some parents expect their kids to complete what they can't, or inherit their work.  So the kids may ultimately live for their parents' sake... :-|

TWMa

我的想法, 就是在這個社會, 適者生存, 如果想子女長大後, 可以自己選擇喜歡的職業, 或是推前d, 在中四可以自己話事選修喜歡的科目, 係咪首先要成績好先至有得選擇呢?

有些人不是 "讀書的料", 卻是 "畫畫的料"、是 "運動的料"... 這種想法往往會令父母只追求子女的學業成績.
看過 "小孩不笨" 嗎? 那個有畫畫天分的小孩, 由於 "學業一直處於下峰", 因此, 他的繪畫天分一直被母親忽視甚至摒棄
認識一個朋友, 幼時家境不好, 自小成績也不佳, 最大喜好就是畫畫, 他那沒受過什麼教育的母親卻不責備, 只是想盡辦法搜羅一些彩筆和廢紙給這讀書不成的兒子作畫, 現在, 這兒子倒也是一名創作總監
現在的父母用自己的價值觀, 施太多無形手 (?橫手) 在孩子身上了

lochan

It's never been more difficult to be a parent nowadays. Competition is more fierce than 20 years ago, there are more and more U grads walking in the streets jobless than before. One must be really outstanding in order to set foot in the world.

We have to strike a balance on how much guidance we have to give to a child before we would be named tyrant . As a  child grows older, he will have more of his own will. If you suppress his decision making when he was young, he would not tell you his inner thoughts when he reaches adolescent, which is the most rebellious years of a child that all parents fear.

Must he enter University? I do hope so, since I still believe in Univ. education will enhance a child's life. Some might argue Univ. might restraint a child's risk-taking abilty and becoming more conservative which is still debatable. Remember, Bill Gates never finished his Degree!

I keep asking myself, am I being too lenient or stringent to my son from time to time and I cannot tell if I am doing the right thing sometimes.

However, i do believe good parents have to set good examples and we are trying hard to correct our own shortcomings at the same time too!

toffeeli

It is always dangerous if we try to generalise matters/individuals. I would think "how to adjust" is something a parent should be tactful because no one knows better than we know our child.

TWMa

wunma:
純粹討論 (吹水)
每個人都要接受教育, 對我而言, 那是無庸置疑的.
"小孩不笨" 中的母親也不過是擔心子女讀不成書, 將來入社會怎辦罷了, 也正是因為她對子女讀書成績的要求, 而看不到子女其他方面的天分
一個孩子若是成績中上, 畫畫、音樂方面也不錯, 我們會稱他 "多才多藝", 但若是孩子成績 "谷" 極唔起, 有多少父母還懂得欣賞?!
我想說的只是, 用成績, 尤其是學業成績來定一個孩子的志趣是危險的, 還有很多的志趣不是也不應該用學業成績來衡量的. 父母要做的是儘量提供一個環境和條件讓孩子發揮所長, 而不是太多的一廂情願.

judy

上 一 代 父 母 則 僅 百 分 之 八 有 相 同 觀 感 。 三 成 七 新 生 代 父 母 渴 望 子 女 長 大 後 從 事 醫 生 、 律 師 及 建 築 師 等 專 業 工 作 ， 也 有 小 部 份 希 望 子 女 加 入 演 藝 界 ； 但 上 一 代 父 母 則 只 有 百 分 之 十 四 有 相 同 期 望 。

上一代之人，只要有"一技"，就足可"傍身"。現在呢？生活艱難，政府又向綜援户大派金錢，有工作的個個捱到心淡。為人父母，誰不想子女生活比自己好。醫生、律師及 建築師等專業工作，在現在看来，還算較易揾食，所以新生代父母有此渴望，也不為過。

上一代人，文化水平低的，怎敢為此奢望，他們最多希望子女可打寫字樓工，可享受冷氣。

lochan

The result is very discouraging, those 37% parents should be re-educated. Simply too narrow-sighted!

There's nothing wrong to be a prof., but there are so many more things to do! there are lot more meaningful career in this world.

I do hope those parents will not insert pressure to their children towards these profession, especially Arch. and Eng. since they are a sunset prof in HK speaking from my own experience.

WYmom

Nowadays as the society becomes more and more advance and job requirement becomes higher and higher, kids have to learn a lot more languages, knowledges and skills than in the old days in order to be competitive in future. Competition in their peer group is very very keen, e.g. playing piano becomes so common that it is not counted as a music instrument in some schools already, so kids are compulsorily required to learn another music instrument in addition to piano.  Apart from this, they have a lot more activities to join - sports, dancing, language courses, community services, religious courses etc., some are required by school, some are joined by interests, so they are always fully occupied.  All these may just prepare the kids to be equipped with the basic skills to compete, not necessarily to be professionals or successful.

Parents also feel very stressful, have to support their kids heavily financially, and also need to spend a lot of time to accompany them attending many extra-curricular activities.  This phenomina seems to be very common nowadays.  Maybe this is inevitable for coping with globalization and high advancement in technology...