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Hi Tszfungma,

Thanks for your advice and useful information.  I will take a look of those exercise books that suggested by you.

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歡迎到雅虎網上聯盟加入　”yourgiftedgroup 你家的資優兒”互相交流意見，不論你的孩子是否資優兒．．．．
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faith ) 期待大家的加入

RaineMummy

Hi Critic,

Can you please kindly let me know how I can buy the two DVD two mentioned above?  Even though my daughter joined Phonics lession now, she can't master phonics much.

Look forward to hearing from you.

Thanks

critic

I bough the DVD in the US, I think they are available in most DVD/VCD shops in the US. Not sure if amazon.com has them? you can take a look.

My son can only master the single sound, not able to blend them yet, I think he is too young to learn blending.

cocomami

Dear Critic

I have been tracing your articles and am very glad for you to have such a bright son.  My daughter is now 14.5 month but she hardly talks.  I am very sad and am trying to find something to stimulate her.

Do you mind telling me how much are the two Leapfrog DVD?  Do they come along with books?

How about the machine you talked about, is it the LeapPad?

Hope to hear from you.
Thanks
cocomami

critic

Dear cocomami,

The DVD does not come with books. You can order the DVD from amazon.com.

My Leapfrog talking machine is Phonic Travelers, has stopped the production. Try to search at www.leapfrog.com, the newest model is something called phonics desk. (I found a shop in Windsor House, Causeway Bay) has it, with extra lesson cards, but quite expensive.

Your girl is taking care by maid or you? Try to talk to her as much as you can.

I don't think my son as bright as before! He is making me very tired and I have stopped teaching him. I really understand what is terrible 2 now. He is driving me crazy on his diet and toilet training. He acts like boss at home to order us to do this and that and listen to him all the time.  He bully babies in daycare and I got complaints all the time.

I am really very tired especially when my husband is on business trip.... I wanted to beat him the other night.

cocomami

Dear Critic

Thanks for the information.  I checked the web just now and found that the Phonic desk is quite expensive.  I won't consider, it is out of my budget.  

Well at least you don't need to worry about your son's learning, but I do.  Yes, you are right, I need to work during the day and won't be at home until 7.30pm.  She is with my maid during the day and does not have paupau or mama living near.  That is why she does not talk much.  My maid speaks to her in filo Eng, may be "Tagalo" (a kind of Philippines), I am not sure, (of course I told her not to).  Then when I am home, I will speak to her in English.  Her dad speaks Cantonese and her grandma speaks to her in Chiuchow+Cantonese during the weekend.  How can she learn to speak in the way!?

But one thing makes me feel better : she understands what we are talking about, like, NO, CLAP YOU HANDS, OPEN, CLOSE, KNOCK THE DOOR, HELLO, GOODBYE, HELLO KITTY, MICKEY, TEDDY BEAR, BUNNY RABIT, HIPO, ELEPHANT, APPLE, CAT, TEAR THE PAPER, GO, CHEW. I always want her to be a gifted child, but she is not.

I am thinking of bringing her to playgroups, any good recommendations?

Thanks a lot
cocomami

critic

cocomami,

I let him attend full day nursery so did not arrange any playgroup for him. You can consider to let her try 1/2 day playgroup.

After reading most books and discussion from other sites, I sincerely hope that my son is not gifted. As I said, just a little bit smarter than his peers and I don't have to worry about his study is enough.  Gifted children have all kind of problems or learning difficulities.  He is a terrible troublemaker these days, maybe he is not feeling well.... still taking medicine. I quickly search babycenter.com - develoment chart for his age, he already at 36 months advanced skills level.  

Any moms are following this thread can tell me what to do with him at home?  He is making me crazy on his toilet training. This is what he keeps repeating to do at home - non stop.

1. take off his pants
2. take potty from toilet, put the potty in living room
3. wee wee
4. back to toilet to take toilet paper (toilet paper will throw all over the floor)
5. go back to living room, squat & clean his pat
6. run back to toilet to throw the dirty toilet paper to toilet, sometimes use his hand to touch the toilet water
7. back to living room, take the potty to toilet
8. throw his 'dirt' in the toilet (throw all over the floor!!)
9. put the very dirty potty in drawer, close the drawer door.
10. Run back to me and tell me he is very smart

If I try to help him to clean his pat, he will cry 30 mins. If I don't let him throw his dirt in toilet, another 30 mins cry.  After he takes off his pants, he will put the pants back to his closet....  HELP!

cocomami

Critic

Yes, if I were you, I will feel the same too.  But are you more or less a friend to him or a mother instead?  Have you tried letting him know how a smart kid should be? (like kind of 激將法?)  How about giving him tasks to achieve and reward if he has done so?

Just ignore me if you tried those already, I am sure you did.

cocomami

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critic
I think you should stop the toilet training for at least two weeks. If he feels comfort, you could try again. I think you better to do the toilet training during hot season, it would be much easier.

LC

Ah ha, it’s quite a hard time, critic!

I think you and your son sort of both need a break. Sometimes child is just like a mirror of his/her parents. So do not push yourself so hard or push your son neither. I know the potty training is important but if need to do it later is not a big deal.

I wish you both had overcome such a hassle. But if not,

While he doing so, you may
1.        First take a deep breath and smile to him.
2.        Then give him a big hug at least 15 seconds and tell him “you are mommy’s good boy.”
3.        After that may be take him out for a walk or to pretend you as a tunnel to let him do a train that driving through or whatsoever would attract him. Forget the dinner, forget the laundry, and let him know he is your first priority.
I’m not saying you should put the rule, the discipline away, but sometimes you need to do some unusual thing, right?

And on the other hand, during this period, put more effort to ease you and your lovely boys’ anxious. Maybe a relax field trip or beach walk (Gold Coast Hong Kong is not bad) is a good idea. Don’t purposely teach or ask him any unless he asks for. Make sure he is real enjoying and relaxing.

My opinion may not suit your situation since I don’t know the exact reason/ the trigger of why your son was doing so. However I do want to share with you coz I really appreciate you have shared the books with me. Hope to hear your good news soon.
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Besides, may I have a word on your gifted child topic? As you know I have been watching this topic for a while. I would suggest you do not struggle in wondering if you boy is a gifted. Doing so only gives yourself too much pressure or even your boy. My son is also a bit advance in some areas comparing with the development benchmark, however, I would rather suggest myself that is only another confirmation of different development progress of various children. For the reason say so, many expert also suggests that not to give a test or to determine if a child gifted or not, until he/she is 3 or even elder.

My son now is 18 months old, he can manage to walk up 6 stairs by his own, build up a tube with 7 pieces of 1” X 1” wooden block. And most make others amazing is his early speech. He talks to us a lot, the range from naming almost all the objects and nature, such as toys, vehicles, animals, colors and shapes etc, to making up his own compound word and incomplete sentences, like “我驚驚”, “扮跌跌”, “我o既婆婆”, “同媽咪一齊去街”, “火車嘈”, “好多人”, “白色/藍色毛巾”, “Daddy (is) brushing.” ,“ Duckling跌跌” etc. Am I happy with this? Yes very happy indeed. And I will put every effort to develop his knowledge and skill in all aspects.

But in the meantime, the thing I always bear in mind is not to push him if he doesn’t like. Everything he learns should be learning in a smooth and happy and beloved (Every mommy loves her baby, but you got to let him know.)atmosphere.
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At last, below is an extracts of another topic that I wrote for about compliment to a child. Hope to have your opinion on this topic.

我的情況與你的雖然未盡相同,但也好想在這兒和各位媽媽分享一下, 並希望能多多參考大家教導小朋友的心得.

我可以肯定我的小小孩並不是完美主義者,也由於年紀小接觸同齡的小孩少,所以也應說不上會有甚麼和人競爭的心態.可是他也老早有了好些好勝,要強,害怕失敗而不願嘗試的表現.
開始我和爸爸都百思不得其解也都很擔心, 心想他才丁點大的小人兒呀, 成長的歲月可說是漫又長,要學的東西更是數之不盡.這麼早就有這樣的表現,甚麼時候才能長到老大呀,學到老大呀?(這裡”老大”指的是年齡的老大,而非大佬的意思)
後來才想到出現這種情況,好大機會是由於我們和這一代的大多數家長一樣大都信奉鼓勵和讚揚的教養方法.於是就這樣遇事稱讚,過了火位.小小孩為了十拿九穩獲得讚賞,就非十拿九穩的事不做,而多數會失敗的就肯定不做.
我們有了這個想法後,針對不願嘗試,作了某些嘗試, 一是給予了更多的鼓勵,二是調整了讚賞的時機,密度和手法,.而當中的一些做法受到下面的話的很大影響,甚至有點是依據其理念而做的:

“當你的寶寶知道了在他生命中永遠有人愛他,而並不因為他所做的事情,他的自信心會得到增強.每天都用你的語言和行動告訴孩子,他是世界上最好的,這對他也能起到同樣的作用.同時,如果他自我形象良好,即使犯了錯誤,也會對自己和別人給的愛保持信心.孩子如果相信別人只會因為他做過甚麼才喜歡他,這樣的孩子將會充滿挫敗感,會變得因為害怕而不敢作嘗試.孩子擁有了無盡的關愛,支持和讚揚,就會有能力和信心去找到解決問題的方法.她可以承受打擊,即使在失敗時感到絕望,但仍然有信心再試一次.”(Dorothy Einon, 1998)

我並不是說我的小小孩已經到了 ”孩子如果相信別人只會因為他做過甚麼才喜歡他,這樣的孩子將會充滿挫敗感,會變得因為害怕而不敢作嘗試.”的階段.我好肯定小小孩還未到這個心智年齡讓我擔心.而我只是希望他能更快地接收新事物,更勇於嘗試.所以也盡力避免發生這樣的事.

但是要怎樣才能達到既令他知道他是世界上最好的,而又同時令他知道並不因為他做過甚麼才喜歡他呢?對於這,我可說是並不那麼拿捏得準,只能因時因地因事地施教. 不過倒是有一句說話我決定不說為妙,就是: (”你曳曳或你唔做咩做咩),媽咪唔鍾意你啦”

至於好勝,要強, 相對來講,我覺得嚴重性反而沒那麼厲害.相反很多時候,這是求進步的最佳燃料.善加引導的話,可以得到好的效果.

看到這裡, 希望不要給我給悶倒了. 好期待大家能分享一下這方面的體會,講講自己的經驗心得. 謝謝.  

critic

Thanks for all moms support. Actually I never push him on toilet training because I don't have time to teach him. He has started toilet training in daycare for 6 months, as I heard from his teachers, he can manage to poo poo or wee wee in potty most of the time.  As I am so busy + lazy, I never start to do the same at home, still using diaper. I guess my son is growing up and no longer like the feeling of wearing a diaper. He once told me, "Mama, no cover wee wee."  maybe that's the reason he wants to show us he can manage to go potty on his own.   I have discussed with his teachers and they ask us to bring him to toilet every hour.

He behaves better this week but hates me so much, whenever he sees me in the morning, he says, "Mama go away."  because I scold & shout to him so often.

He is becoming extremely demanding these days and force us to listen to his commands, if not, he will scream and cry. He does not like to take his daddy's car to school in the morning, he insists to take green bus.  He says, "Take a green bus, no daddy car." If, we drive, he will insist us to turn 'this way' or 'that way' (he knows our area very well). He decides what he wants to eat every night, he goes to kitchen to check on me and tell me what he wants. His teachers also told us he is naughty in school, because he is able to speak a complete sentence and express himself and he wants everyone to listen to him.   

LC : I have given up the idea of he is gifted or not, definitely won't take a test or anything.  My final hope is he can eat well and stay healthy. You have seen him and know how tiny he is, he was sick last week and lost a few lbs again!  I can tell your son is smart when I met him. Hope you will enjoy reading those books.

carolsin

Hi Critic,

Can you tell me more about "Animal Planet"?
What is the full name of it and what is it about?
Is it a VCD/CD?
Where can I buy it?
Is it suitable for preschooler / baby?
Many thanks for your help. I am much appreciated for your generous in sharing your books, CD/materials.

critic

Animal Planet is a channel from Cable TV.  (I think is Channel 55 or 56) All the programs are related to animals.

cocomami

I even don't have Cable TV.  Giving birth to a baby is easy (to me), teaching him/her is much more difficult.  I always want mine to speak up, but she turns out to be a late talker, and knows how to speak nothing but yelling.  Ｉdon't know how to make her speak, I talk to her and read books to her whenever I am at home, but she still keeps saying 'ah'.

A1

Hi, moms,
I'm a new BK joiner and have just read this title.  My boy is now 16 months old and he knows lots of things but just cannot speak (just baby talks).  I think that as long as he understand what I'm saying and I keep talking and singing to him, that should be alright and he will talk later at his own pace.
Critic, I just go to the weesing web and have found that they have a lot of materials.  Can you share your experience and suggest me which CD/DVD is good for a 16 months boy?