SC畢業生家長一起走過癲婆的日子

chingyu

hi angelmom (danielboy),
Thanks for your quick sharing.  It works on Ms. A.  I follow you and let her play lucky draw for "scales".  She could finish practising piano very early today and both parties were very happy.   Many thanks!
DanDan is so lucky to have you!  You are a genius.
(hey...u see...she is still so "Low B") :)


hi TSLiu,
How are you??  Wanna meet you more often.  If you come TY to visit your parents-in-law, let me know so our kids can play for a while.


hi sumyinmama,
hello..........how are you??????  miss you much...very busy, huh?  You are so gentle.  I don't think you will grumble at Ms. S.   Don't pretend you are as gruff as me.  You are also an angel in my mind.


hi HeiHeiMa,
Fortunately my hubby is quite patient.  He reminded me how to communicate with Ms. A in order to minimize the conflict.  Now I am learning "no grumble, more encourgement."  --> but it is very difficult to achieve this slogan if our kids keep doing something opposite.  Add oil!
How's HeiHei now?  Fully recovered?  As per my observation, his concentration seems better than Ms. A, at least he can focus a while on piano.

[ 本帖最後由 chingyu 於 10-2-24 22:03 編輯 ]

HeiHeiMa

TSLiu/chingyu:
大家有心! 佢而家食住藥, 已經冇痾! 醫生叫佢食多半年, ie. 食到7月左右再覆診! 雖然唔太想佢食咁多藥, 但冇計! 總之冇事就算!

chingyu:
我同佢已經到o左互相忍無可忍階段! 咩鼓勵方法都試過! 我開始覺得有問題果個可能係我, 係咪應該先改變自己先呢?

chingyu

heiheima,

oh.. I typed my long response in Chinese but all vanished in a flash.

well... I also had the same feeling as you before.  However, we should not give up.

For Ms. A, her main problems are (1) slow motion (2) lack of concentration (3) relying on others.

In order to tackle above points, I always request her to complete her own jobs in a time frame.  

For coping with weak concentration, I try to split the time slots into fewer minutes and find some ways to raise her interest.

Besides, I am learning  "let go".  I told her I would not check her homework. She has to tidy up her school bag and double check her homework by herself.  (Certainly I still need to remind her something from time to time.)

Perhaps you have too much time with him.  It's also torturing for both parties.  Let him have some free time to manage his own tasks.  

You are more patient than me.  I believe you can do better than me after refining the skills for mutual communication. Don't give up!!!

Remember:  More encourgement, Fewer arguement

I am also squeezing my neck to talk with her sometimes. haha...


If you feel upset, come and grumble here la......you are not alone....  we all are crazy-driven moms....

Supporting you,
chingyu

[ 本帖最後由 chingyu 於 10-2-25 20:01 編輯 ]

HeiHeiMa

chingyu:
多謝妳o既鼓勵!
其實Mr. A同Ms. A差唔多, 妳所講o既我都做過! 我發覺佢d間歇性失聰仲越來越嚴重o添!
有時我都放棄, 佢唔怕遲到, 我就更加比佢慢! 佢唔願做功課, 我就set個時間, 做唔晒就唔准做, 由佢冇得交! 唔練琴就由佢唔練, 等老師話佢! ...... 有時呢d方法都work, 不過我知唔係最好, 所以都要尋求d更好o既方法至得!
大家努力!

原帖由 chingyu 於 10-2-25 19:39 發表
heiheima,

oh.. I typed my long response in Chinese but all vanished in a flash.

well... I also had the same feeling as you before.  However, we should not give up.

For Ms. A, her main problems are  ...

danielboy

HeiHeiMa,
同佢鬥衰鬥慢鬥唔做,其實應該係個train up佢獨立嘅好方法,最衰係自己成日唔抵得,所以你分析得啱,有問題果個可能係自己.三日唔練琴屋企就風平浪靜,尋日一練番啫,哎!又喊又發脾氣,一話佢有句拉錯就話我pick on him喎.


chingyu,
I am not an angel, I am only a boar! 抽獎練scales方法係Mr. T個violin teacher提供架,我邊有咁醒吖!其實Mr. T喺做功課方面係OK嘅,都肯做同做得快,可能功課量不多,只係messy囉,練琴先真正攞我命,我練琴嘅恐懼症好嚴重.

danielboy

好耐好耐好耐真係好耐無食糖喇!今次仲食粒好大嘅添 (以Mr. T咁naughty嘅小朋友嚟講)

有一日Mr. T喺rooftop玩,執到本card album,入面有好多pokemon cards,有d仲係Mr. T好鍾意嘅,但佢無據為己有,攞咗去office,啱啱校長喺門口佢就俾咗校長.第二日校長竟然親自寫番張card讚佢(又話佢highly principled and caring, 係role model of the community etc誇都毛管豎起),本card album嘅owner後來專誠揾Mr. T say thank you,仲俾Mr. T喺佢個"collection"度揀兩張card添.

自從呢件事,Mr. T真係比以前helpful,人哋跌嘢佢拿拿聲幫人執,有visitor嚟揾唔到toilet,佢拿拿聲帶人去.

雖然路不拾遺係好普通,大人覺得係應該嘅,但小朋友俾人讚真係好開心架.我哋中國人有 時真係衰,做得對係應份嘅(所以唔洗讚),做錯就一定鬧/罰.

好想同大家share呢件事絕對唔係曬嘢,而係真係體驗到讚賞小朋友嘅說話可以好powerful,所以多d讚佢哋啦!

0203Ma

Dan Dan 好抵讚!
依排我就EQ偏低, 見親個仔懶懶散散, 痴痴呆呆就忟!  明知佢要用軟功, 硬係不涉低聲下氣, 愈鬧佢就愈懶皮蛇, 我就更火!

有冇人知去大棠荔枝園最快應搭乜野車? 朗屏站轉的士? or 去粉嶺站?

原帖由 danielboy 於 10-3-3 10:00 發表
好耐好耐好耐真係好耐無食糖喇!今次仲食粒好大嘅添 (以Mr. T咁naughty嘅小朋友嚟講)

有一日Mr. T喺rooftop玩,執到本card album,入面有好多pokemon cards,有d仲係Mr. T好鍾意嘅,但佢無據為己有,攞咗去office, ...

[ 本帖最後由 0203Ma 於 10-3-3 16:33 編輯 ]

chingyu

dandan is soooooooooo sweet.... as the principal said, he will be a pillar of our society.  :)

Thanks a lot for your reminder.........we have to grasp every single chance to praise our little one.  It's quite difficult indeed.  Work hard la, buddies!!!!!!!!!!

原帖由 danielboy 於 10-3-3 10:00 發表
好耐好耐好耐真係好耐無食糖喇!今次仲食粒好大嘅添 (以Mr. T咁naughty嘅小朋友嚟講)

有一日Mr. T喺rooftop玩,執到本card album,入面有好多pokemon cards,有d仲係Mr. T好鍾意嘅,但佢無據為己有,攞咗去office, ...

chingyu

0203Ma,
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0203Ma

Thanks chingyu,
我就係唔想搭巴士, 因由我屋企去沙田站再去朗屏已1小時坐底, 所以prefer 轉的士, 不過真係唔知O係邊, 咁大個女去元朗數埋唔知有冇 5 次, 所以我諗咁樣近D or 其實粉嶺去元朗會近D O者!

TSLiu

danielboy,
恭喜您, Mr. T又有新突破, 極抵讚!
好彩有您和chingyu時不時提吓大家要多讚吓d小朋友, 我都同0203ma一樣, 見到佢軟皮蛇就火起. 但係昨日睇完您
個message, 返去求其攞d功課讚吓佢, 佢又真係積極咗. 不過未必日日放工返到屋企可以咁有耐性.

danielboy

0203Ma & TSLiu,
你哋嘅心情我點會唔明白吖,男孩子d夢遊嘢我都領教得多啦,我雖然有讚Mr. T,你估我咆哮得少咩?一齊努力啦!

TSLiu,
<未必日日放工返到屋企可以咁有耐性> Agree!我哋都有情緒ga,我哋都係人,遇到喺公司受咗氣嗰日,個囝就大鑊喇.

0203Ma,
你老公唔得閒車你咩?From沙田去大棠荔枝園無論經Tuen Mun/Fanling都唔洗一粒鐘.

chingyu,
其實寫card嘅人係Max Muller,仲有Rodney,你知唔知邊個係Rodney呀?

chingyu

danielboy,

Rodney?  I dunno...who's he?
Max Muller is really good.  I like him too.   
Last Tuesday I brought Ms. A to the goverment dental care service center, my helper saw a TV programme there while I was tidying up Ms. A's homeworks and chatting on the phone.  She told me lots of RC students had shown on the programme.  One is called Tara (Year 3) and the other is called Nicole (Year 5) now.  Both are pretty girls.

danielboy

chingyu,
Ms. A應該識Tara 架.  Tara 好似係1CC同學,又係Year 3 teacher, Tracy Wnek個女嚟.  

Rodney我都係啱啱識,但d小朋友就個個都識囉,你有無07-08本 year book呀? Rodney係Max Muller隻黃色老鼠soft toy (Mr. T話係佢隻pet),張card有Rodney嘅footprints,仲有一句寫得核核突突嘅<I am just learning to write and spell, from Rodney>.超低B!

chingyu

hi danielboy,

oh yes, Ms. A did mention it in Year 1 but certainly I completely forgot his name.  I also saw him before 'coz Mr. C uploaded us some videos about Max and his pet.   ha...

right..  Tara's mom is Tracy.  When I said "pretty girl", I have mixed up another girl called Alison. haha..

原帖由 danielboy 於 10-3-4 16:15 發表
chingyu,
Ms. A應該識Tara 架.  Tara 好似係1CC同學,又係Year 3 teacher, Tracy Wnek個女嚟.  

Rodney我都係啱啱識,但d小朋友就個個都識囉,你有無07-08本 year book呀? Rodney係Max Muller隻黃色老鼠soft toy (Mr.  ...

0203Ma

我老公出左 trip 呀! 元朗&天水圍對我黎講無限遠, 好彩依家有西鐵o乍!
說來都係自己懶招禍.  話說明天是我個仔學校去旅行, 通告說歡迎家長去(not must), 如家長不去, 小朋友將由老師照顧.  咁難得唔洗我去, 又諗住佢同其他小朋友聯誼O下好過, 咁就 only　報佢名.  點知禮拜頭再派備忘通告, 詳列資料, 全班23人, 原來得佢一個係孤兒仔, 個個都有家長去 (又會咁擁躍).  即刻覺得佢好可憐, 所以臨時要自己去啦.  都怪當初母愛唔夠, 懶得就懶.  抵死!

原帖由 danielboy 於 10-3-4 10:12 發表
0203Ma & TSLiu,
你哋嘅心情我點會唔明白吖,男孩子d夢遊嘢我都領教得多啦,我雖然有讚Mr. T,你估我咆哮得少咩?一齊努力啦!

TSLiu,
Agree!我哋都有情緒ga,我哋都係人,遇到喺公司受咗氣嗰日,個囝就大鑊喇.

0203Ma,
...

[ 本帖最後由 0203Ma 於 10-3-5 00:07 編輯 ]

chingyu

0203Ma,
Better late than never.  Now you still can catch up with Mr A's classmates.

Actually I tried to call the organizer but no one picked up the phone.  It had better ask them directly.  Last time we took MTR and then bus to there.  Then, we took taxi and then MTR back home. However, I could not remember the nearest station.  Anyhow, I  do suggest you taking TAXI because you still need to walk a long and horrible way from bus stop to the spot.

waiwaiwai........ will you go to SPORTS DAY this year?  It was quite boring last time.  

原帖由 0203Ma 於 10-3-5 00:06 發表
我老公出左 trip 呀! 元朗&天水圍對我黎講無限遠, 好彩依家有西鐵o乍!
說來都係自己懶招禍.  話說明天是我個仔學校去旅行, 通告說歡迎家長去(not must), 如家長不去, 小朋友將由老師照顧.  咁難得唔洗我去, 又諗住佢 ...

danielboy

0203Ma,
個個家長都去,唯有去啦.我估d家長係working parents,所以咁擁躍囉.俾著我第一個喺通告就填唔去嘞,母愛唔夠有我陪你.Give me 5!

你哋d小朋友有無發錢寒?Mr. T近日開始緊張錢.繼上次gathering話要去bank提晒d錢出嚟後(因擔心銀行會執笠喎),尋日又問daddy點解租屋住,個個月俾錢人,不如買一間?
Daddy同佢講投資,佢竟然問買馬好唔好? (因爺爺最近贏馬竟然封咗$1000俾佢下個月買birthday present),我同老公根本無賭馬嘅,Mr. T仲話不如去執垃圾揾錢


究竟點解Mr. T會變得咁市儈?有咩思想改造嘅良策呢?

chingyu

danielboy,
Tracy invited us to her home before for Tara's birthday.  Her hubby is also a teacher in a local school in MOS.  Last time he was so excited for horse-racing on TV.  haha....   if you let dandan know, probably he will seek some advice from Ms. T's daddy.

原帖由 danielboy 於 10-3-8 10:30 發表
0203Ma,
個個家長都去,唯有去啦.我估d家長係working parents,所以咁擁躍囉.俾著我第一個喺通告就填唔去嘞,母愛唔夠有我陪你.Give me 5!

你哋d小朋友有無發錢寒?Mr. T近日開始緊張錢.繼上次gathering話要去bank提晒d ...

[ 本帖最後由 chingyu 於 10-3-8 14:07 編輯 ]

chingyu

danielboy,

wow....dandan will be your finanical planner soon.   Many investment banks will approach this future super star.  :)

Daphy's mom bought Ms. A a piggy bank from book fair.  It is split into 3 parts - 1/3 saving, 1/3 donation, 1/3 expediture.   However, we are lazy and simply save her $ into bank.  Ms. A is always unwilling to use her $ for buying things.  Surprisingly, she said she would donate a hundred for charity.

[ 本帖最後由 chingyu 於 10-3-8 14:02 編輯 ]