Hello, Dr.T speaking...

alfyma

Dr.T,
"病發"是否指行為上出現的問題?

Dr.T 寫道:
就如某些長期病(借用暴龍一族 測出資優等於病發的比喻 ),明知現今醫療科技未必可以根治,難道充耳不聞就會相安無事嗎?

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cptkt 寫道:
我真是不明白, 就算check 到仔女是資優又如何呢?  香港都沒有為資優生特定的培訓地方和一般家長亦唔識怎樣去培訓他們資優的子女.

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alfyma

Dr.T,

check p.m thx

Dr.T

我諗暴龍一族的"病發"是指被正式確認為資優啩

alfyma 寫道:
"病發"是否指行為上出現的問題?

Dr.T

1."Terrible two"只是一個比喻,我會覺得這代表一個理解與表達不能夠完全配合的時期,所以亦有較負面的情緒行為表現.

2. 有可能是她現時的表達能力雖然已經相類/超越同齡小朋友,但理解及觀察似乎更好,故有目前的情況不出奇-"不肯"講心中所想可能是實在亦不知怎樣講...3歲咋!!!

3 多用內容豐富的人際關係故事去增加她的情緒詞彙,讓她可以有表達心中所想的工具...既然她已經可以自行閱讀,當然單調的閃咭是沒有吸引力...但她的反應可以算是經典-"點解我要睇? [ "I tried to show her flash card and she asked my why she had to see them"]

Sandrine 寫道:
1.My daughter is already three and the terrible two should be officially over...
2.My girl has no problem expressing herself but sometimes she just won't tell me what's on her mind...
3.Anything that I can do to help her?

承承媽媽

Dr. T,

我想問吓:依家有好多教學法都百花齊放,語文,phonics,rhymes,普通話,音樂,藝術,唱歌,跳舞........,這些都令很多家長和小朋友的節目十分豐富,但我有時有一個疑問:究竟有甚麼是我們家長必定要教小朋友,並且是責無旁貸,又影響到小朋友的一生的呢?

Sandrine

Thanks for reminding me, yes she's only 3.

"多用內容豐富的人際關係故事去增加她的情緒詞彙,讓她可以有表達心中所想的工具" --- What story books (in English) would you recommend please?  

"既然她已經可以自行閱讀,當然單調的閃咭是沒有吸引力" --- Strange it may seem, she likes the boring flash cards and asks me to show them to her sometimes.  However, I don't have a consistent program. I wish I had though.

sjmama

Dr. T,

My daughter is now 3yr4mth. She was diagnosed by a doctor in May as mild PDD (the doctor said may be Asperger). Her emotion control is very bad and she easily throws temper. When she throws temper, she will cry for at least 10-15 minutes (sometimes even 30min to 1 hr), lie down on the floor and stamp her ankle to the floor.

I'm very worrying about her situation:

1. Sometimes she threw tantrum for no reason.

2. She adapts to new environment very slowly. Recently she even refused to go to the playgroup teacher's house where she went twice every week since she was 20 months. We tried to bring her back after one month, but she still cried and cried and insisted to leave. Last Sunday she also refused to go to Grandma’s house where we go every Sunday. We tried to ask her why, but she couldn't tell us.

3. She could attend the pre-programme class by herself for several months. Since last Wednesday, she couldn't stay in the classroom without our helper. However, nothing special happened on that day.

4. These few days, she always covered her eyes when she saw something she "didn't like," e.g. taxi (in fact, she took taxi with daddy every day to school), the lift to grandma’s flat)...

5. Today she was fine for the first 15 min when she attended OT's training at home. However, after 15 mins she suddenly ran to the bedroom and no one knew the reason. When the OT and helper tried to bring her out to the living room, she threw tantrum for 15 mins and stamp her ankle until getting hurt.

Please advise if there is anything I can do to help her.
I'm exhausted.     

ADS

Hello Dr. T:

Could you send me a copy of article on "Omega3",
please?

My email: [email protected]

Thank you!

gigi2

承承媽媽,

愛!
  

Dr.T

相信我好像會短期內在"伯樂行動"見到小朋友...知道你心急,但讓我見到真人再直接回覆你好嗎

sjmama 寫道:
...Please advise if there is anything I can do to help her.
I'm exhausted.     

Dr.T

英文的選擇很多喎(相比起這類型的中文童書)...去打吓書釘(例如太古城間HK Bookstore,各Pageone等)一定有收獲-帶埋小朋友去揀囉!

Sandrine 寫道:
"多用內容豐富的人際關係故事去增加她的情緒詞彙,讓她可以有表達心中所想的工具" --- What story books (in English) would you recommend please?  .

Dr.T

人際關係/與人相處之道...重要係身教,唔好得把口

我不幸/幸運地承襲了家父自我中心(即係自私 )及家母對人批評不留口(即係尖酸刻薄  :tongue: )嘅陋習...一把年紀已很難改變.

承承媽媽 寫道:
...究竟有甚麼是我們家長必定要教小朋友,並且是責無旁貸,又影響到小朋友的一生的呢?

Dr.T

1. 要數星期改變兩個人之間的關係,咪講話言語表達能力不高的小朋友,彼此有心病的大人都未必得...急不來的

2. 突然間有個同自己咁高咁大嘅人出現同自己爭玩具...唔扯火至出奇...返學情況不太相同,始終是較熟悉的人物.

另一方面,會覺得是小朋友根本未到掌握"同理心"這個階段,你那番說話對小小朋友來說實在幾抽象,而且喺佢火遮眼時講呢d嘢,邊會聽得入耳

YULAMMAMI 寫道:
1...雖然表妹就快返canada. 但怎樣才可令他冇咁討厭表妹 & 相信黎緊返學時亦會遇到同樣情況. 我應點處理呢...
2...我巳嘗試過用同理心去同佢傾但唔work.  

mrsphcheung

Dear sjmama,
Do you ignore her?  Is she attention seeking?  My child could cry for one hour if there was something that he did not like.  He was long-winded.  I just left him alone.  He later quitted this bad behaviour.

Please check PM.

sjmama

Dear Dr. T,
Thank you very much!
I know her problem is serious and complicated. I'll wait until you meet her.

Dr.T 寫道:
相信我好像會短期內在"伯樂行動"見到小朋友...知道你心急,但讓我見到真人再直接回覆你好嗎

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sjmama 寫道:
...Please advise if there is anything I can do to help her.
I'm exhausted.     

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sjmama

Dear Mrsphcheung,
I'm afraid she is not seeking attention. In fact, if she wants anyone to play with her, she will take initiative to invite.
I did try to ignore her temper before. But it didn't work. She would cry even longer and hurt herself.

Even the OT said my daughter would not kick her feet on the floor in the past as she feels painful.  But these few times, not only does she kicked her bare feet on the floor forcefully, she even has some self-injured behavior, she beat her face and tummy with her hands. She didn't show any pain sensation when kicking her feet on objects.

Really don't know what to do.
    

mrsphcheung

Dear sjmama,
I am very sorry to hear about your daughter's situation.  Have you ever considered Applied Behaviour Analysis (ABA)?  I have read some articles about it.  The successful rate is not low in behaviour modification.  It may work on your child.  Some moms here are trying.  You may think about it.

May God bless you.  

sjmama

Dear MrsCheung,
Thanks for your advise!
I know ABA, but it's very costly. I even can't pay for it for my son.