好擔心...醫生話BB發展遲緩~~

hoho1105

我仔e兩晚瞓覺一定要我帶眼鏡陪佢訓,我以為佢整估我嘛,咁咪襯佢唔為意就除咗副眼鏡囉,點知一好鬼認真咁久不久望我有無帶住眼鏡,比佢發現我除咗佢就係咁喊又發老皮 佢噙晚唅情默默望住雙手摸我面咁講咗聲媽咪. (唔通我唔帶眼鏡就唔係媽咪咩    )好彩同佢出街佢無迫我帶眼鏡.

陸尾媽:妳用行刧來型容,很攪笑.
hinhinmummy:妳點知維園有攤位玩架??至到幾時呀?我都想帶個仔去同d動物玩同影相.

hinhinmummy

hoho

我之前都不知有得玩架, 本來諗住帶佢地去sir滑梯架, 點知去到草地見到好多帳幕咪八卦入去law, 佢做到尋日咋.

陸美媽

軒軒上年做完d驗查之後, 好多都要follow up, 其實我都懷疑, 點解每年都要再去做多一次?

mickeyma

Mamee,
I will keep the table task for sure. Problem is Yu is only willing to do table task with me, not grandma, not daddy. I hope I can have more time...
Hohomama,
Congratulation that Hoho found a good kinder. It proved your decision was right.

仔仔着急,我開心:
When my son was around 2 years old, I often pretended that I was crying to see his reaction. His usual reaction was: throwing himself on me unhappily. That is all. I felt a little bit disappointed.  Then, 2.5 years old, he would laugh when I was pretending crying as he started to know I was not serious. As he recently develped a new habit to point the finger to his mouth to reduce the repeating of first word, I tried to stop him last night on bed, and he bite my finger once. I was hurt and pretended crying again, and out of my expectation, I found him very 着急, nearly crying and said loudly : 呼下啦!呼下啦! and used his hand to comfort my finger immediately. I often did this when he was hurted.    I could not keep on pretending, instead, held him to me and conforted him: Mummy is fine!  

Who said our children do not know how to love others... Sometimes, I think he is very normal in many aspect except the delayed problem and social skill. He is not stubborn in his routine life, he is not with big temper, he likes other children coming to our home and in the park. he has great imagination...
Even with a chopstick, he can play it as a train...

When I checked with doctor what I should do better if she still thought my son had A-feature. She was very nice in answering all my question, but this one hurted me very much: No matter how good your son's speech would be, he would have this A feature with him...  And she made an example as following:
If your friends come to your home, you will not expect your son will bring them a glass of water volunteerly. He is the person you need to ask him to do so.   If this is the case, I really do not care. I would not bring a glass of water when I was a kid to the guest unless my mother asked me to do so. My daugher will not do so as well  now without my asking. Even my maid, need to wait my instruction to do so...

I know this is only an example from the doctor, but .. still I think, I can train my son's social skill and bring him to a NORMAL life. I HAVE BELIEF ON THAT.
  

mamee

ClaudeeMa
好認同hinhinmummy既講法.
初初同小朋友做訓練, 做到1分鐘或者3分鐘已經要當pass, 慢慢build up. 最重要就係做個安靜環境, set好枱椅. 做每一個task之前, 我地先做示範, 然後先到小朋友做.
遇到小朋友唔合作, 嘗試俾啲獎賞(小食), 再唔得就捉住佢做. 有陣時候就可以減低難度/做少啲啲, 等佢自己可以完成, 從而得到成功感.

mickeyma
其實你仔仔已經有好大進步. 至於醫生用邊個醫學名放落個小朋友道, 你盡量唔好太介懷.
以我個小朋友為例, 22個月評佢為發展遲緩. 但其實我覺得佢可以叫做A feature, 不過撞啱睇佢個醫生話佢係遲緩之嘛.
點評, 我都係做番同樣既野, 一樣咁努力教佢.
有個醫生舉過個例, 佢話: 有啲人好受朋友歡迎, 會有10個朋友; 而我仔仔好可能只會得1個或者2個好朋友>始終佢地呢啲小朋友social或者其他方面都係差少少.
咁都無辦法, 日子都係咁過. 盡量放開啲, 生活得開心啲

仲有, 恭喜hoho找到間有愛心既學校!!

mamee

kakab105

到我呻下))))

原先係舊年未做評估前 同亞仔寄左幾間學校既申請表 (幼兒園)

呢個星期六將會去見skw一間(佢地有 12個i位，我先諗佢地會有愛心掛)，咁我就打去問定 (我仔排緊s位，想問見佢地普通位，佢地會收嘛) 個主任一口就叫我唔洗去喇， if 收我個仔入去 會一d都幫唔到我個仔， 仲會衰d添，叫我安心等s位， 我話我有同仔做訓練 (青蔥)， 咁想佢多d 同其他小朋友一起，所以想去入幼兒園普通位 讀住先 ，但佢都叫我唔好去in ， 因為佢地都係唔會收，佢地好多人讀 冇位會比到我個仔 :cry:  :cry:  :cry:

hinhinmummy

kaka

呢d學校讀不讀都巴啦, 有錢不驚無學校收, 依家出生率低呀! 我以前都試過你的感受, 軒軒比人reject不收果種感覺, 不駛驚, 一定有學校收的.

kakab105

hinhinmummy

我諗我再搵其他學校，再唔會講仔仔有d咩問題喇，佢地見到收就收，唔收就算!! 好心灰!! :cry:

mamee

kakab105

等我呢個/另一個無奈人黎安慰下你.

作為我地呢啲"special mum", 都要做定心理準備, 好多時會遇到"人間無情". 果間學校應該係怕麻煩, 所以一早關定後門.
如果再有下次, 我覺得你就咁俾仔仔去in, 得就得, 唔得就算. 同埋找學校就找啲無乜名, 甚至係收生不足就仲好. 因為咁樣, 佢地先唔怕麻煩同有多啲人手去照顧小朋友. 效法hinhinmummy既做法都唔錯, 如果學校問起咪(簡略)答囉, 總之見步行步.

唔開心一陣好嘞, 呢道個個媽咪都好明白你既心情, 你唔會得一個人嘅.

mamee

mickeyma

Mamee,

Actually, I kept telling myself the same thing you mentioned below, 至於醫生用邊個醫學名放落個小朋友道, 你盡量唔好太介懷。

but from the bottom of my heart, I hope that such kind of A feature can be trained or cured! When I saw the report from the doctor, everything is nearlly perfect to my expectation except the four words :自闭倾向。 Like a cap on my son's head. Like a label on my son's body. And doctor seems very sensitive to my very indirect question reg. this aspect...  Her sentence about the incurable A-feature made me quite upset actually... But you are right, we have better do something more important than sticking to this point and make ourselves not happy.  :

Kakab105,
I have the same experience as you when I talked to the kinder on Aug. when my son was 2 year 4 months. As Mamee said, you can try to find one school with less students. They are very willing to accept new enrollment.

hinhinmummy

kakab

我之前都無講架, 如果你記得, 我都post過啦, 未見之前話有位, 見完之後話無位 :evil:

依家呢間星期六都問我有無幫軒軒排i位啦, 如果佢要軒軒退學, 我會去社會福利署投訴架!

kakab105

mickeyma mamee hinhinmummy

我都係會咁喇 見步行步 問到先算~~  :cry:
老公就睇得開d ~~ 話再搵其他囉~~

hinhinmummy

mickeyma

我都同你一樣諗法, 軒軒都係有感情, 佢會喊, 會笑, 依家我叫軒軒'叫我呀', 佢會叫'姑', 可能姑奶同佢講得多, 所以佢以為係人講'叫我呀', 就答'姑'.

最近佢學識'嬲', 同埋運用'嬲', 當佢答'姑'的時侯, 我就會話'媽媽嬲呀, 不岩', 試多好多次, 佢就會叫'媽', 甘我就好開心攪住佢錫, 依家我只需要同佢講一次'媽媽嬲呀, 不岩'佢就即刻會叫'媽', 就好笑得好奸.

軒軒都無頑固路線之類的野, 我只係覺得佢d social skill都係不得, 正如你個醫生講, 有客人黎, 邊個細佬會識主動拿野比個客人飲? 我個女都不識啦.

我依家已經不再介意a-features呢個名, 我不會同人講軒軒有a-features, 我只會同人講佢發展遲緩, 因為我不想人label軒軒.

flysss

Dear kakab 105,

聽講有一種叫「暫託服務」，可以在s位的幼兒中心中讓兒童學懂一些常規，每次付款(不貴的，因有政府資助)，可以託2-8個鐘頭，任你決定。聽講每個機構的做法有些不同，你可以自己打電話到任何一間s位的幼兒中心問，不需轉介。

有些家長在等s位時暫託，雖然不是有正式訓練，不過可以讓孩子學規舉，好過在家中不知做什麼，如果在孩子將來讀個間暫託，老師更可以早些明白孩子，一有位就不用等孩子適應，快些開始訓練。

kakab105

flysss

我都有用佢地呢個服務，都係一間間歡迎，有d就問你真係冇人照顧你個小朋友？ (問到唔想你去咁) 哎

我之前因為工人走左，擺去托兒所，個老師日日見我就問：「你聽日唔黎既何？」 :cry:  :cry:  :cry:

JOANNA722

ClaudeeMa
我果時同啊仔訓練入7粒波子都唔得, 但而家可坐定1個鍾啦!
但你耍有table & chair 比佢, 仲要不停掌勵,( 口頭&食物)
日子有功, 佢見到張椅會自動坐下, 等做訓練.

kakab105
唔好唔開心啦!  該學校比都唔去啊.. :evil:   下次奸d唔好講,
讀左入去先算... 我個仔之前都係tko某私校讀, 佢地都知我個仔..., 不過無比壓力我, 仲常常安慰我...

hinhinmummy

頭先老公打比我, 佢今日返晏, 話軒軒臨返學的時侯, 講daddy, 跟住敲daddy的房門, 跟住講bye bye走人.

呢d係不係叫主動呢?

早兩日, 我們出街, 我同佢daddy卦住傾計, 無襟lift, 家姐又企係度不識襟, 軒軒用手指指下個制, 跟住daddy話, 係wor, 無人襟lift既?

kakab105

JOANNA

總之唔係 個個都係好人啦!! 做教育唔=有愛心0係啦!!

hinhinmummy

hinhin真係開晒翹~~叻叻呀！   

JOANNA722

kakab105
這當然啦!  等如做護士都唔會個個很有愛心, 衰姑娘大把.....衰醫生都唔少......

hinhinmummy

kakab,

check pm

kakab105

hinhinmummy

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