日學生成績大跌 歸咎無壓力教育

judy

不難看到家長們都有自家的想法, 如果我們真能理想的達到自己預期的目的. 就是對的了.

既可表達自家的想法，又可吸收人家的意見。這里是個好地方。

cowboymama

Matt'smum 寫道:
there is at least one famous traditional school who does not rank students based on academic result,
“這間傳統名校, 學生自由自在地享受學校生活：啃書的啃書、搞學會的搞學會、運動的運動……似乎學生都能在這片小天地盡情發揮自己個性和特長，建立自己的空間。學校辦學的基本信念──人性本善: 師長對學生有真誠的尊重和信任。考試成績不是評價學生的唯一標準。一切的學習和活動，往往由學生的自由意志驅策。而自由氣息得以滲透學校每一個角落，依靠的是學生的自律和自重。”
from "自由之路：一間傳統名校的學習生活"  作者 : 林智中

but i don't know which school it is about.

Should be 九龍華仁. Philip may be too obsessive about DBS! Just kidding! I have read the book. The school is really very impressive.But should think it over thoroughly if apply this school.  Youngsters who have low self-discipline may abuse the freedom the school offers. My boy is only P.1. I have much time to study both the school and whether my son suits this type of school.

judy

一切的學習和活動，往往由學生的自由意志驅策。而自由氣息得以滲透學校每一個角落，依靠的是學生的自律和自重。

這是理想之校園，我心中的香港最好學校。

環顧世界，那些人享有自由？那些人不能享自由的生活？一間band1學校，好像華仁，我們會讚美其自由氣息，讚美其學生的自律和自重。換一間band3學校，如果學校說依靠的是學生的自律和自重。一定受到附近街妨之責備。

自由是有代價的。孩子要入華仁，首先要是Band1生。

lochan

If that is true, then Wah Yan  = Cambridge in HK!

Anyways, this is a very informative forum and although we may differ in opinion, there is no sense of personal attack like those found in many other forums.

lochan

As parents we provide him the best possible, the rest is up to the children. There's no guarantee that the child will perform. If he does, that's count as bonus. If he fails, well you did your best.
Also, hobbies are for kids to enjoy, not to suffer. Luckily, my son likes what we give him since we regularly ask him if he liokes it or not.

Raising children is NOT an investment, it 's a burden that we love to carry or have no choice but.

lochan

One thing parent must practice is to let go. We cannot be overly protective. It may seem hard to let your child fall without lending a hand, but in the long run, small defeats will help to build the confidance of the child.

It is the child's own life he will have to face, we can only give help on the side, give him the right tools. He will have to walk his own path, spread his own wings, breathe his own air and build up his own experiences both success or failure in order to make his life complete.

TWMa

是的, 不容易, 但一定要做....... 學習為人父母的課程之一

lochan 寫道:
One thing parent must practice is to let go. We cannot be overly protective. It may seem hard to let your child fall without lending a hand, but in the long run, small defeats will help to build the confidance of the child.

It is the child's own life he will have to face, we can only give help on the side, give him the right tools. He will have to walk his own path, spread his own wings, breathe his own air and build up his own experiences both success or failure in order to make his life complete.

KLN

stccmc 寫道:

一定沒有錯, 父母不為子女設任何目標或期望, 他們的學習便全無壓力, 一直到中四/中五會考。  但這是否對子女的最好安排? 經驗話我知在現實商業社會, 如果員工全無目標, 期望或壓力, 做事便會事倍功半, 甚至一事無成。  作為領袖, 未能引發員功潛能, 便是失敗。

唔 一 定 從 商 姐. Right?

judy

唔 一 定 從 商 姐. Right?

KLN，

stccmc 那句改成: "經驗話我知在現實社會, 如果員工全無目標, 期望或壓力, 做事便會事倍功半, 甚至一事無成。 作為領袖, 未能引發員功潛能, 便是失敗" 也成。

lochan

Wunma,

Interesting question..

La Salle were brought up in childhood to take DB boys as lifetime enemy! In most cases, we handle the emotion positively through competing in sports and academics although a few fights broke out but is nonetheless serious imo.

I would love to send my to LSC but it is the education system that I object from Day One that stop me from doing so. In the beginning, I have not even thought about DBSPD since the school that my son is studying currently is imo the best choice. Having considered in both finnancially and child's lifetime development of contact/buddy, I am 90% sure that I would let me son attend DBS since I tend to buy the education sytem offered by DBS and am crossing my fingers that they can established the IB in secondary school.

Today, there's no more hostile feelings with DB boys and looking back the years, I can't help but think how naive (but no regrets though) we were! Today, some of my good friends are from DBS too.

TWMa

不管寫商業也好, 現實也罷, 我還是覺得理念、方法、技巧...重要
話說一間不大不小的公司, 老闆有目標, 卻往往不太合實際, 對員工有期望, 員工自然也有壓力, 老闆用他自認為 "民主" "人性" 的方法管理公司, 但員工的感受卻是不體諒、不合理...
不談目標合理性的問題, 以我的角度來看, 這個老闆很多的想法和要求其實不見得是不合理, 但只要出自他的口中, 由於他的用詞 (溝通模式) 和態度, 便難以令人認同, 更搞到相反的效果, 以致於這家本來一直成長的公司, 自從由這名 "領袖" 領導以來, 每下愈況
"愉快學習" 是學習的方法, 不代表沒有目標、沒有期望, 引發孩子的學習興趣, 重視學習過程而非以成績做為成敗標準, 自有較樂觀而壓力輕的人生觀.

judy 寫道:
[quote]唔 一 定 從 商 姐. Right?

KLN，

stccmc 那句改成: "經驗話我知在現實社會, 如果員工全無目標, 期望或壓力, 做事便會事倍功半, 甚至一事無成。 作為領袖, 未能引發員功潛能, 便是失敗" 也成。
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lochan

I am thinking.. when a child grows up, must he find a 9-5 job or be his own boss. There are others things that he can do e.g. artists, atheletes, writers etc. There are numerous possibilities other than "enter into business world" and some of us will have difficulties in competing in this business world but that doesn't mean we are of lesser quality. It's just that every individual has its own talent which so happen this is not our strength.

Parents always, especially in HK, hypnotise their children such that when they grow up, they need to survive the cruel commercial world, be a warrior and fight their way through battlefield.

To earn a lot of money or get a high-paid job is not the ultimate goal though it is important to make both ends meet. Moreover, it is utmost important that the child will grow up to live a meaningful, fulfilling and happy life. He can be poor but rich at heart! It is our brought up that has encaged owr thoughts and I don't want my next generation to limit his visions.

beseem2003

lochan

看了你多篇留言，覺得最適合你（並非你兒子，因為我不知道他的想法）理想的學校，仍然是國際學校，DBSPD無疑有能力提供很好的課程及環境，但你要認清一個事實，它仍然是一個競技場，激烈程度亦一定甚於喇沙那些津貼名校。

你想兒子有的那些思想，我真的很懷疑DBSPD能否給予。