Chatroom for St. Teresa's School Parents

Honney

BabyTing,

今日我見到你老公揹你囡囡返學呀~

我囡囡可能無讀諣bb班,所以佢從無要求我去第二間幼稚園返學, 佢都非常enjoy寫字, ms lay話佢寫字完全無問題~

你可以同佢講間間幼稚園都要寫字,大或者暫時唔好比佢練習,只要寫晒d功課先,睇下佢如何~

786

Hi BabyTing,

I believe you are questioning me.

I am sorry to say but every parent should have his/her responsibility to understand the philosophy of the kindergarten that he/she wants to apply. STS is a renowned of having pupils starting writing from K1. We SHOULD BE clear about this before we applied (or accepted the offer) to the kindergarten. We are having full responsibility to choose the correct kindergarten for our kids.

My kid likes writing and enjoy it much. My kid always looks forwards to doing the homework. That's why I enrolled my kid here.

It sounds I am a bit rude but it is not my intention to inflame anyone. We cannot deny parental responsibility by shifting it to the kindergarten or by pressing our wish to mould the kindergarten in another way.   

786

Hi BabyTing,

For your question, if I were you, either I would let her know this is the way to go (because this was what I chose for her), or I would choose the way she wants to go.

BabyTing

786,

Thanks for your advice.  Please don’t be so serious.  I totally understand the standard of STS before I enrolled it.  I am not blaming the school.  I just want to know how to make my girl to accept and do the homework in happy way.   

花仔媽咪

Honney/ BabyTing:
係呢個階段寫得唔正唔緊要,miss chan同我講又唔係書法比賽,最重要係佢肯寫,學寫,你地都好呀,我個仔佢成日固意好大力畫,搞到出晒界,佢仲好得戚咁笑,真比佢激死

JKLMN:綽僖/家謙,等我問下佢識唔識先

Honney

花仔媽咪,

尋日囡囡突然同我講:媽咪係咪我寫得靚,你就好開心架啦,咁我寫靚d!
我聽到好感動,想喊

tobtob

BabyTing,

Maybe don't force your daughter to write too much at this moment. It would be bad if she loses interest in writing and thinks writing or going to school is a burden. Our children are small and still have a very long way to go. I have actually talked briefly with Miss Chan on writing. I mentioned to her that I sometimes rub off my daughter's writing if she does't write well. Miss Chan told me not to erase her writing too often. At this stage what is important is to let the children know the right way to write a word , i.e.筆順 (e.g.十, 先橫後直). Of course we parents have the responsibility to help our children learn and improve. But I agree with Junior-Fan saying that 現階段學習態度更加緊要.

At the mean time maybe you can emphasize more on what she likes at school or what she can do well (e.g. singing, reading, drawing, playing with classmates) so she can have interest and gain confidence and not "magnify" her weakness. With interest and confidence, our children can improve sooner or later.

Honney:
你個女好生性, 我好羨慕你.

In fact, Miss Chan also asked my daughter to practice more on writing   Can other parents share their opinion and experiences?

Honney

tobtob,

估唔到佢咁細都咁識性,我其實都担心佢又唔係"大b",很担心佢跟唔上呢~

至於寫字,可能由細到大我囡囡都好鐘意畫公仔寫字架,基本上佢由a-z都識得寫,只係寫得唔係咁正咁靚, 所以寫字佢ok架,佢自己日日都會咁我攞紙晝公仔寫仔的, 我平會比張寫佢, 叫佢寫學左既字, 有得佢自己寫晒佢,我唔會鬧佢的, 佢寫完如寫靚個d我會勁讚佢,佢會好有信心咁繼續寫架啦,之前佢臨寫功課薄前我都要佢練習左再寫,但尋日個"2"字,無練習佢都可以自己直接寫落功課薄啦,我好開心呢~

Junior-Fan

786 寫道:
Junior-Fan,

事實上, 寫字正確, 填色不出界是一向STS的標準. 亦是如此, STS一向傾向招收大仔大女.

至於孩子能力及不及則是明白的. 但絕不能因孩子年紀少而降低學校的標準

前輩：
我說”佢(老師)有佢要求，我有我做法”， 前文己講明只限於寫字方面，根本吾等於我本人或意圖叫人”因孩子年紀少而降低學校的標準”。

STS過往愛收大仔，但事實這兩年真係有收細仔，我兒12月的。也經歷過”喊打喊殺教寫字”的階段，發覺咁吾係辦法，開始諗問題所在，留意佢寫字同我寫字的分別，發現他未能靈活運用手指。咁可以點呢？係咪叫佢每字寫多100次就得？做母親，當然想見孩子進步，但在寫字方面，吾係想就得，要跟他的身體機能配合，寫字方面，我會給予他較長時間才見進步。咁，係吾係叫人坐係度等佢手指發育好再算？吾係，而係做功課寫每個字都要花多點功夫去教，去引導佢吾好用錯力，整個過程係比較長，但吾等於我降低標準。自己經歷過，現在見K1家長又有此困擾，才與大家分享，只希望叫大家要有耐性。又見有些家長的孩子的手冊上被quote 三角形，所以在前文末提出”現階段反而把注意力集中在行為改善、學習態度更加緊要呀！”，是我認為在寫字與行為之間比較，行為改善及學習態度應居首。現在我清楚交代了，你還認為我在叫人：”因孩子年紀少而降低學校的標準”嗎？

另一句令你誤解，可能是我說：”有時STS 老師D要求都好鬼死板”。事實我仔當初轉去STS，老師通常只說：呢樣佢做吾到，個樣佢未得…，永冇下一句，我不禁開始懷礙亞仔係咪特別差。終於一次忍吾住問老師，係咪其他小朋友一開始就做到架？老師才說：吾係，其實小朋友通常都係咁，都要一段時間，吾使咁擔心。如果我吾問落去，係咪比佢”客”親。

“your kid likes writing and enjoy it much and always looks forwards to doing the homework”，何不教下其他媽咪什麽方法令小友朋likes writing and enjoy….，如果your kid天生就likes and enjoy，咁係你好彩，我都”鄧”你高興架，好過寫D野出黎令人懷礙自己選錯校！係咪？

BabyTing

Tobtob,

Thanks for your comments.  Yesterday was a hard day too.  She was angry with me when she was writing.  I didn’t erase her writing.  She was the one to erase it.  You are right.  Writing is her weakness.  Therefore, she hates doing it.  She writing attitude is not right.  She is talking continuously to me when she is writing.  Then she will stop writing.   When I stop her talking, she will be angry.   

Today, I will use another method.  I will tell her that she can be a real princess if she do the writing probably.  She wants to be a princess.  I just tell myself to release and wait.  Hopefully, she will be fine later.  

Honney,

Your daughter is very good.  You must be very happy.   Can you ask her to influence my girl a little bit?

786

Hi Junior-Fan,

誠然, 看到你們之前的評價, 我亦感覺你們是在要求降低學校的標準, 所以突然出來解釋. 當時, 我感到你地不斷地指責學校, 在我的立場, 卻感到當初選擇學校是家長的自由, 學校是無辜的.

但BabyTing已經解釋了言語間的誤會.

至於為何我的小朋友喜歡寫字, 我想, 這乃因為我自小就周未周日讓他參予不同的活動, 所以當每天放學回家, 份外感到寂寞, 因而非常愛做功課.

同時, 他很小時已經常常玩填色活動來打發他的時間, 所以, 他早慣於執筆. 現在, 只是多要求他寫字及填色正確而已, 比完全未執過筆的小朋友, 心理上是優勝了.

Longman

記得以前老師提議過玩 "用匙更 but 豆" 的遊戲，買一些黃豆及黑豆一同倒入一大碗內，然後叫小朋友用匙更 but 出碗內的豆將它分返開....

這個遊戲可訓練小朋友的手碗力，可助他們寫一些要轉彎的字，如2、8、9...

不如試下同小朋友玩下丫

花仔媽咪

Longman:
多戲你提供"用匙更 but 豆" 的遊戲，等我都同仔仔試下先

Junior-Fan:
你仔仔係12月b。我現在經歷緊”喊打喊殺教寫字”的階段，真係寫多100次就得？但我個仔做功課佢肯,再叫佢另外加寫字,佢就死都唔肯,咁點算?同埋我捉住佢隻手寫字,佢成日估意好大力咁畫,又打圈,我真的唔擦唔得,但佢又好得戚咁笑,咁點算??        

Honney:
你個唔係"大b",都咁叻,唉,我個都唔係大b,11月尾,很担心佢跟唔上呢~

tobtob:
miss chan佢真係好有心機教小朋友,有時我同我老公講,難為miss chan教我個仔,因我個仔日日新款,搞到miss同嬸嬸頭都大晒,我好興幸天主比機會我個仔係sts讀書,仲安排左miss chan做班主任, 你個女係大女定細女?

Longman

花仔媽咪：

我大囡同細囡分別都有被 miss chan 教過，她真的好細心，好懂得小朋友的心理的，放心！

tobtob

花仔媽咪

My daughter is 特大女 She was born in 2001. Actually she was admitted by other kindergartens a year earlier (2003). But after I discussed with my husband, we decided to send her to school when she is older. When she went to interview in 2003, she didn't even know how to talk and had difficulties to follow instructions. We thought that she might not be able to catch up with the syllabus. And STS said in 2003 they could only admit students born before Aug, so we thought maybe we would wait one more year.

Actually I myself was also a 大女 and was STS old girl. When I was small, I always asked my parents why didn't send me to school earlier. I was always older than my classmates. But now I know that maybe my parents also thought that I was not ready when I was two. Many children know a lot of things already when they are two years old but that seems not the case in me and my daughter.

kamen

Hi, 各位好嗎？
睇到大家"喊打喊殺"叫寫字就好回到個女Ｋ1一樣，情况一樣，，好記得前輩媽咪講過，寧願佢開開心心寫字好過要佢寫得好靚。sts的老師好有辦法教佢地，記著要放鬆Ｄ。     

花仔媽咪

Tobtob:
你個女係 特大女2001出生@@@,嘩我個仔02/11月差好遠@@@@@
我個仔旁的澤銘都係4歲幾,MISS CHAN話佢好鍚我個仔,MISS CHAN話好多班上大個的小朋友都好鍚我個仔

Longman
唔係講笑, miss chan 真係好好,佢打電話比我,多數都係晚上9點,而且佢好詳細,我個仔勁鍾意MISS CHAN

Honney

花仔媽咪,

你囝囝很幸運呀,咁多同學仔鍚~

我囡囡日日返黎都話比同學仔蝦呀

BabyTing

I am very happy.  My girl can write by herself and enjoy writing.  I told her that princess would do homework properly.   She is a princess; therefore, she is willing to do it now.   I hope that her attitude wouldn’t change.

花仔媽咪

Honney :
miss chan話因我個仔細,d同學仔比佢蝦多        ,幸好d同學仔明白個個都好保護我個仔