Can schools influence student characters? 拔尖vs補底：如何選校？

foolish.mom

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Even at IBDP level, CIS students are always highly involved in many activities (music, sports, community service, debate, leadership positions in school clubs).  So it never appears to me that they only study, study, study.
At senior MYP levels (year 10-11), most girls study very hard, work until very late every night, but are still involved in many activities, because they are not viewed as 'good students" if they only know how to study.  They don't want to be perceived as nerds.  Boys are still playing hard, completing minimum homework and essays, trying to maintain a satisfactory grade.  Every student tries to excel in at least one extra-curricular activity, otherwise their US personal statement will not be impressive.

At IBDP, everyone studies very hard, but still needs to involve in a substantial amount of community service, runs for captains of school clubs, tries founding a new club/association, winning in debates, do anything that add weight to the "activitiy resume".  All of them become superman and superwoman in these 2 years.  Pressure level is very high indeed, but mostly from peers themselves. They become scared when knowing other students get substantial improvement in grades.

Yes, there are quite some shifting of subjects from HL to SL during the 1st year of IBDP, in order to achieve good grades.  A 6 is not satisfactory, unless a student is particularly weak in that subject.  Many students chooes 4 HL at the beginning of DP, so they have room to shift 1 from HL to SL.  As some UK/HK university degrees require certain subjects at HL, the students know what they are doing and the consequences when deciding a shifting from HL to SL.

annie40

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这么多的BAN, BAN, BAN, 是大开眼界了! 近来十分烦躁吗?

因为转统学制的選择少, 家长才跳出来選择让孩子念国际学校, 怎么变成很多是生人勿近的禁区, 好似没甚么好东西剩下呢? 如果部分意见是你的朋友分享的惨痛经验, 也真等她们心up 啊!

Jane1983

幾耳目一新，睇吓d比較激的言論，有時都幾好。好過次次都係話"It's a very good school ...."

annie40

同一所學校，有人歡喜有人愁！有孩子入到了，父母開心過中六合彩，有人宜得快些走。有孩子狂補習還是成績麻麻地，有的孩子完全沒補習，別人硬是不相信。

這

正常的學校跟我們正常的兒女十分相似，就是有齊優缺點。睇清楚改改，還是可以接受的，不用BAN得咁快掛？

這位網友坦白得很可愛，或許是朋友的轉述，把事情誇大，看得我一頭霧水了。純粹交流，有怪莫怪啊！

sharons

還是那句, 沒有最好, 只有最適合, 但我還是想聽聽 HIHisurance 分享最好的五強及原委.....

honeybunny7

Interesting, so we're no longer on the topic of "Can schools influence student characters? 拔尖vs補底：如何選校？"

I would like to know from all your experiences, do you find your children's characters remain consistent throughout the years? i.e. What you observed of your children when they were 2-year-old was representative of how they turned out to be when they were 12?

jolalee

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Thanks for getting us back on track! We had an interesting & informative conversation although it was off topic. You posed a good question; I'd love to know too. 三歲是否真的定八十 (or at least 18)？學校的影響又佔多少？
On a personal note, is there anything I can do to help train a child's focus, concentration & resilience? Are there parents out there with boys who used to be super active before age 5 and how did they turn out academically? 你採取順應還是管理的方法去對待他的學習歴程？

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原帖由 jolalee 於 14-06-17 發表
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Thanks for getting us back on track! We had an interesting & informative co ...

Do you have a therapist on your child's 感統問題？

What does the therapist recommend?

shadeslayer

原帖由 jolalee 於 14-06-17 發表
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Thanks for getting us back on track! We had an interesting & informative co ...

I thought most boys are super active and they will grow out of it.

jolalee

picture 發表於 14-6-17 16:58
Do you have a therapist on your child's 感統問題？

What does the therapist recommend?

Yes we do. Just lots of exercise I described above and the child would calm down a lot more. Beside the SI issues (I'm not sure if it is related or not), my boy cannot focus as long as other kids his age and loses interest quickly. He is very impatient, just like his dad. For other kids who were impatient as preschoolers, do they have trouble focusing in school when they are older?