家長教子無方 社會生病有因

doris880

一位外國兒童心理學教授說的話:

外國的父母讓兒童學音樂或樂器的原因是陶冶性情，讓他們可用音樂來表達情感。偶爾到朋友家中，各人都會坐在琴前演奏一曲，彼此欣賞一番，但從不會問你考到第幾級。

在香港，各家長見面，只會問：「你個小朋友考到第幾級？」或者對亞仔亞女講：「亞xxx已經考到第x級，你仲未考到，真無用。」


      

dingdong.hk

Dear All,  

i am also a mom.  After years of practising being a good mom, i realized that the word 'mom' is equivalent to 'specialist'.  

i expected to be a psychologist to revitalize kids from unhappiness, an educational psychologist to maximize their internal ability to learn, a doctor to make sensible decision when sick, a nutrientist to nuture them to become a giant, a philosopher to inspire them the meaning of life, a sociologist to explain how Li Ka Sing or elites mobilized to top guys in this structural society,........more and more.  
  

i told myself: don't push too hard, allowing mistakes, no one can be perfect.  After that, i am much more relax and more happy.   

But i'm still thinking what type of person i expected  the kids to be in the future.  i hoped i could explore the meaning of life with them together.   

Jokey2828

HI dingdong.hk,

I can agree no more.

dingdong.hk 寫道:

After years of practising being a good mom, i realized that the word 'mom' is equivalent to 'specialist'.  i expected to be a psychologist to revitalize kids from unhappiness, an educational psychologist to maximize their internal ability to learn, a doctor to make sensible decision when sick, a nutrientist to nuture them to become a giant, a philosopher to inspire them the meaning of life, a sociologist to explain how Li Ka Sing or elites mobilized to top guys in this structural society,........more and more.  

Jokey2828

Wunma,

你說得真好。很多時我們作為父母的，都有一個很好的出發點。但往往走呀走呀便會隨着洪流而改變，越走越遠。我很希望能夠保持一個清醒的頭腦，好讓女兒快樂一點地成長。

共勉之﹗

wunma 寫道:

我要子女學琴, 最大的目的, 是希望他們的人生路上, 有一樣真能陶冶性情的興趣, 和能享受音樂.

但漸漸地, 就會偏離了這個原意: 考小一啦, 希望趕得切考級成績落到profile; 上到小學,音樂科要考paper兼計落總成績, 要打好個底; 唔肯練琴好浪費時間金錢; no pain no gain ......

我相信我是屬於內心想做個有"良好意願"的家長, 但外來因素好容易會令自己變成"不輸陣"的家長.