請比意見! (唔捨得比呀仔留學....)

Choisumwong

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When money is no problem, then second question is what evidence your kid shows you he is committed to his study and life abroad. This is the motivation which drives your son to keep studying and overcoming problems in boarding school.
You need to set prerequisites. If he is very eager to go abroad, he should show you his evidence e.g. academic  improvement, independence, his goal in life, mature behaviour etc .
I totally agree with your husband's point of view, but how do you ensure your outcome matches your expectation ?  My personal experience is that my daughter asked me to go abroad to study, I took one year of observation and set prerequisites for her. Finally she showed me she was determined and her academic level and mature behaviour rewarded her wish. Don't think that it is your responsibility of missing your son's chance, it is also your son's responsibility to show you that he deserves your family  to spend money and give him chance to study well !!

Taimum

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阿仔係year10呀!聽好多家長和agent講year10要排名高嘅學校難D！阿仔選揾200內嘅學校不是太難！假如您現在才決定搵學校，時間急左D！

noel2010

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由於我和呀仔覺得Heathrow airport 較安全，故沒有再轉多程機，萬一有大風雪or cancel flight, 他可去我朋友家住。由Heathrow 去school 要坐三四小時車程，又冇人同我share, 因其他人已over ages, 不用接送。school policy 亦不肯呀仔跟同學坐火車，只好照付。如果呀仔在term break 坐CX，加埋要2萬3，4呀。好彩他肯坐Emirates。
如果你有朋友做監護人及食住，回港多少次亦不大問題。因之前見D家長覺得住在host family, 只有打機。若出街，油錢，services fee 等樣樣同你計，加上每日食住約£40, 洗費差不多。這些是家長較麻煩的安排吧。

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Choisumwong 發表於 13-4-12 11:40
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When money is no problem, then second question is what evidence your kid shows y ...

你講得好啱, 佢現階段在我心目中根本就係一個"小朋友", 我唔覺得佢係為要讀好書、考上好大學而想去留學, 校內成績只屬一般, 班中只係中游份子, 我唔覺得係無人管束下佢會自覺地讀書做功課, 我感覺唔到佢有努力爭取去留學。
但我老公覺得"我"係一個令呀仔緩慢成長既最大原因........呀仔由細到大都已經習慣有我企係側邊督促佢做功課、溫書, 要人督促已經成為習慣, 會嗎? 我有錯嗎? 難道我要乜都唔理?  所以老公先覺得呀仔要離開我先可以嘗試學習獨立, 我老公覺得我保護得個仔太緊要, 佢投訴我連周星馳、IIB級電影都唔比呀仔睇, 太誇張, 個仔今年已經12歲, 佢覺得我當個仔BB咁照顧, 我咁樣好過份嗎?!   唔好意思, 講講下好似離咗題.......

小恐龍

Taimum 發表於 13-4-12 12:24
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阿仔係year10呀!聽好多家長和agent講year10要排名高嘅學校難D！阿仔選揾200內嘅學校不 ...

係2014年9月入Year 9, 應該唔算急。時間充裕啲、早啲考, Year 10其實係咪都唔難入?

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noel2010 發表於 13-4-12 14:02
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由於我和呀仔覺得Heathrow airport 較安全，故沒有再轉多程機，萬一有大風雪or cancel ...

因為未考到學校, 學校policy點我未知, agent同朋友都話年紀細機場接送可以搵監護人, 每次收費, 但我無估到要六千咁多!  監護人我都聽到有啲朋友講有啲好既會同你去教會、出去食下飯, 好多都唔會同你安排任何節目, 只會一日比三餐、比張床你瞓就算。監護人問題我都應該要同呀仔好好傾下。
你仔監護人可以嗎? 係親友定係公司?

Taimum

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2014好好多，做多D比較，我覺得year10應該唔會太難，因見好多家長都係year10.

noel2010

我校自已做番監護人，學費已包此費用及half term 食住。但我搵朋友做呀仔監護人，多個照應吧。

Choisumwong

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I totally understand your feeling and your husband' point of view. You love and care your son. It is correct. But you do not know how to 'leave hand' and ruin your son's independence and responsibility. You son can not grow up under your care and thinking. I would suggest to give your son more room to live. Studying abroad may be a good way.
You may take away your fear that you son may not know how to handle e.g. illness, accident, failure, bully.

Obiepapa

有舍先有得，給他一個搏的機會。

小恐龍

多謝各位留言, 大家網上平水相逢都願意花時間回覆我, 萬分感激!
我係知道自己經常鑽牛角尖, 但又唔覺得自己無道理(又鑽牛角尖?), 所以先苦惱.....
我仔學校旅行一星期, 老公、朋友都叫我自己去玩, 難得"放大假", 老公話帶我出差, 我完全唔想去, 那幾日我連做家務動力都無.......但個仔開心到連打個電話返屋企都只係講兩句, "我無事啦, 好開心, 我去玩啦, BYE BYE", 因為老師話佢哋要學獨立, 只可打一次報平安, 我等佢電話等到頸都長......
其實真係無人會好似我咁嗎? 我以前無咁黐個仔, 以前返工, 間中會放底個仔比媽媽、家姐同老公去街拍拖、睇戲, 但自從做咗FTM之後就係咁, 反而見得個仔多仲唔捨得離開個仔?!

Ding

你個仔都好想學獨立，佢唔想做裙腳仔，你應該開心讓佢去，唔通到佢廿幾嵗仲成日都搵呀媽解決難題？！一個人要經歷好多野先可以成長。放手由他去吧，我個仔今年9月去讀yr 7，間學校仲係唔向大城市添，佢同你個仔一樣係中游份子，唔主動溫書，不過係我叫佢去，因為香港教育制度實在偏離教育原意。而且我想佢獨立D，出去見多D！第一次我會同佢過去教佢轉機，佢返學後我就上 Scottland join 埋朋友玩2個禮拜，放大假 。無呀仔在身邊一樣好充實，學下野，做下義工，行下山，又可以出返黎做野搵

猪猪侠

There could be a mid-way solution.  Send your boy to a boarding school in Hong Kong.  Right now, I know Harrow International and St. Stephen (Stanley) offer boarding for secondary students.

But the fact remains that you need to learn how to let go.  I suppose your boy is a 細仔 (12 years old already studying Year 9 going on Year 10 this September 2013?).  If he is, he is probably getting quite a bit of picking on by the older students.  And if Mommy comes around too much trying to protect him, other students see it, and they pick on him even more.   

peter_pan

Lateral thinking - how about sending him to boarding schools in Asia? Instead of Harrow in Hong Kong, you may consider Harrow in Beijing or Thailand, or Dulwich in Shanghai, Marlborough in Malaysia, or Atlantic College in Singapore? At least plane tickets will be much cheaper & either he can come home more often, or you can go over to visit him the odd weekends! And he is still far enough away from home to be able to learn independence!

Obiepapa

原帖由 Tiger媽 於 13-04-09 發表
我同你嘅情况差不多，原本計畫讀完中五才出國，但呀仔突然提出今年九月到英國讀yr 10. 他說中六才過去要用 ...

如果小朋友想出去見識下，屋企有資源，細路又生性，由他去吧，海闊天空，但未必比在香港輕鬆的。要他們立志讀好書，不要浪費光陰。

小恐龍

Ding 發表於 13-4-15 13:24
你個仔都好想學獨立，佢唔想做裙腳仔，你應該開心讓佢去，唔通到佢廿幾嵗仲成日都搵呀媽解決難題？！一個人 ...

你都係FTM嗎? 一個小朋友? 你仔有冇唔想去?
我唔覺得我仔係想學獨立, 我講過不下數十次我要佢懂得照顧自己先比佢去讀, 佢到今時今日都係床底有衫褲、衣櫃一堆堆衫、房地下放滿玩具同書......P.E.kit唔叫唔執, 臭襪經常一雙去、一隻返......我無幫佢執, 由佢瞓係垃圾房, 佢完全唔似想學獨立, 我覺得佢似想去玩多啲, 佢好鍾意去旅行, 我同佢講去英國睇學校, 佢都問我可唔可以順便去玩...........

小恐龍

猪猪侠 發表於 13-4-15 13:36
There could be a mid-way solution.  Send your boy to a boarding school in Hong Kong.  Right now, I k ...

哈羅太貴啦!!!!!  以佢成績, 聖士提反唔會收佢啦......
佢今年12, 現在係未足12。我就係覺得佢現在係學校已經係成日比人蝦(可能我自己諗多咗...), 佢性格係多一事不如少一事, 唔係太過份佢唔介意, 試過踢足球比人踢瘀咗個肚, 佢口同我講那人係有心, 但我要投訴佢唔比, 佢話咁樣那個人會變本加厲針對佢, 佢鍾意踢足球, 如果咁樣佢會無得踢?!?!?!?  但佢又無唔鍾意返學, 所以我都由佢自己解決, 但我好擔心佢去到會比人蝦.....如果次次死忍, 好易會心理唔平衡, 諗埋一邊.....

小恐龍

peter_pan 發表於 13-4-15 19:06
Lateral thinking - how about sending him to boarding schools in Asia? Instead of Harrow in Hong Kong ...

既然要出國, 英國學校師資會好啲, 北京哈羅、上海德威, 學校名氣雖大, 但師資始終無英國好, 佢哋請既老師一般都係新人, 經驗淺, 唔係話無經驗老師一定唔好, 但老師流失率高, 對學生唔係咁好, 加上北京、上海空氣污染、治安問題....所以唔係首選, 除師資好, 生活環境英國都比較好, 所以暫時無諗過比佢去其他地方。

小恐龍

Obiepapa 發表於 13-4-15 23:19
如果小朋友想出去見識下，屋企有資源，細路又生性，由他去吧，海闊天空，但未必比在香港輕鬆的。要他們立志 ...

以佢現在讀書態度, 我就係怕佢"浪費光陰".......

Obiepapa

原帖由 小恐龍 於 13-04-16 發表
以佢現在讀書態度, 我就係怕佢"浪費光陰".......

甘就不如留返香港，出國都要幾百萬。