MCS or DGJS- a parent's dilemma

WYmom

Spkrs,

Thanks for your very detail explanation.  No need to be furious, I just share my feelings, I know what you are saying, I just want to say normally what we as parents think to be the best for our kids may not be really the best matching them, and when they grow up and has the ability to fight for when they really want, it may be too late.  I has this experience myself, so I always remind myself not to repeat this on my kids.

If you don't agree, it doesn't matter.  Wish your daughter good luck. :  :

passer

Anyone have good news from DGJS?

chishun

So, does the dilemma still exist?   

sisuk

yes, do you get the result  from DGS, Sprks?  my daughter isn't accepted.  

juke5301

但dgjs 只係頭個批 (rank 全級1-40) 係會好超班(但老實，好多係用$浸返來的，大部份 並唔係天資過人) 至於其他都係平常小朋友來，唔會比其他學校叻d。

sorry but i have agree with this esp '好多係用$浸返來的', i had been told that the school actually doesn't really look after the children, but they have rich parents do that they can offer them a lot of backup support by a lot of fter hours tutoring, which is never good fro the childs' development, think about it, you can spend a lot of those extra time for sth more beneficial, such as building up a strong body.
the competition within DGJS/DGS students are simply disproportionate.

The mentality at DGS is about being the first, and being the only unique one. because of this mentality, students act in ways where observers will ifnd it absurd. and beasue of this, very small amounts will be able to labelled as elite... the others aren;t bad, but they are beaten down by their peers, which is a waste as well.
If  I had enough money, I would never let my children get into DGS...i would put them into international schools.

Msma

juke5301

ee，我舊同事係dg 女。佢話個時個先生叫佢學定去賣叉燒包同楂lift ( 6-70年代)再唔係去做工廠窩!

後來佢走左出國，讀得好叻，而家比佢所有舊同學都叻!

佢都有兩個女。佢無再比佢入母校讀。話怕佢地又係遲熟型。

juke5301

this is the way teachers are, because even themselves feel that DGS  ]girls are the best, they truly believe that all who cannot graduate at DGS will end up in a miserable place outside. It is really shallow to think that being a DGS girl will automatically mean that you are the cream of the crop

佢都有兩個女。佢無再比佢入母校讀。話怕佢地又係遲熟型。

To some extent, I feel that being in famous school almost equals to 遲熟 just beacuse of the school culture everyone was exposed in.

ChristyBBmama

juke5301

It seems such miserable school life. But, it cannot be denied that your English is good. I think dgjs may be a good school but it may be good for everyone. I think a good school should respect the uniqueness of individual (I mean the different talent and pace of development). I just hope my girl be happy in her school life. Thanks for your sharing. All parents should take a look and think about it.

coolobserver

I just cannot resist re-posting what I posted somewhere else.


"Users of this website tend to be of the "Kowloon Tong" herd and it is not surprising that people they know tend to be from Kowloon Tong schools.

Myths are very often self perpetuating. When I refer to the "Kowloon Tong herd" I mean those parents who go to those few private-run kindergartens (pkus CCKG) and who make "getting into DGJS" their lifelong mission (SC for K1, CCKG for K2-K3, etc). It is true that some girls from these KGs get into DGJS, and because their parents tend to be more aggressive than those from other KGs (and more prepared to talk on-line: hence the myth created in this forum), they are the ones who will (for example) start study groups in P1, gather other parents' tel no., compile (and compare) data on kids' performance, etc. In a way the good name of DGJS is slightly tarnished by parents like these - there are lots of mellow, down-to-earth parents from all over HK (and all kinds of KG).

As far as I know, there is not one particular school that can claim a particular stronghold in terms of DGJS admission (CCKG apart - and even for CCKG the rate is not, apparently, as staggering as a lot of people are led to believe). You also have to consider matters such as the number of applicants from a particular school. Saying that "x number of kids from a particular school got into DGJS" is rather meaningless, because if if that school is a "chain store" type school with hundreds of students, then "x" may be a comparatively small number.

My point is that I know from personal knowledge that there are a lot of good KGs around (and those know will know, and I do not want to advertise for any particular one) which produce lots of students who are well liked by lots of prestigious primary schools. Try to widen your horizon, parents, and not get stuck with the Kowloon Tong herd. "



Please have some dignity. Believe in the ability of your kids and stop asking "which school can give me a better chance of getting admitted to DGJS" (you will end up getting the same names, because users of this site are mainly parents from those few, or friends of parents from those few). We as adults know that in real life nothing is as simple as "you go to this school = admission to DGJS" (just like "what stock should I buy if I want to make money?"). Only the most simple minded person will think in this way and I feel absolutely disgusted that parents here (who are supposed to be sophisticated enough and have sufficient analytical power) still think in this simplistic way.

WYmom

So what's the results of Spkrs' girl?  

For me, I have decided not to send my kids into SC and CCKG in order to get in DGJS, though my friends have advised that this is the normal path.  I have given up SC's offer and choose another Int'l kinder which appears to fit my kid more.  I will still apply for DGJS, present ourselves as what we are, and, let it be.  I hope my kids will develop naturally their characters and interests, grow up happily with the right value judgement.  As long as we have confidence in ourselves, I believe that we can always be unique and outstanding no matter studying where.

j-ma-ma

Sprks, can we know the result of your girl, please?

Spkrs

Thank you all for your interest. We are still on vacation and will not be back in Hong Kong until Saturday week, so will know the result then.

Interesting threads that have been posted in the last couple of days.

Bluestar

Msma,

個先生叫佢學定去賣叉燒包同楂lift ( 6-70年代)再唔係去做工廠窩!
-  Was this teacher Mrs. So who taught history, nick-named "So-'pig'"?
Sounds just like her and she taught until the 80s.

chiulee

Spkrs,

How's the result of your daughter?

so.san

Spkrs,

Hi, what is the result, and what is your decision?

What will you plan for your second daughter?

We all want to know.

sisuk

I hope that Sprks weren't having an vacation in places attacked by the tsunamis (flood).  Why she didn't turn up for so long?

ChristyBBmama

Good luck to Sprks and family.

anxiousparent

And also 258suki, who was fretting over St. Paul's Co-ed -v- DGJS.