失去對子女教導的耐性了

judy

littlecat ，

一般人不是就讀傳統小學，就是活動式教學。你两間都上過，可否說說你的經驗，他們之分別在那里？何者更佳？任何方面都可以。

judy

if we can accept 70 marks, rank lowest 10%, we can have time for extra reading, etc.

哈，我做到。

judy

rank lowest 10%,

Sorry, 做不到，睇漏眼。

bebepopo

剛剛這幾天在看張嘉雯的書，書名是 "4Q 親子情式"，覺得很有啟發性，書中常常鼓勵家長不要給孩子太大壓力、要給孩子一個愉快的童年、須培養孩子有自信心、須訓練孩子的組織能力及解決問題的能力，看著一篇一篇的文章，也教我非常認同，得益良多。但當回到戰場上，看到家長別無選擇的日日夜夜與孩子作戰，弄至親子關係愈來愈差，就好像看到我與囡囡的將來，簡直是心裡發寒。在這樣的教育制度下，橫屍遍野，人人也是受害者，到底有誰 win 呢？

多謝 Mayc post 出來的那篇文章，一邊看一邊眼濕濕，"只愛孩子，不愛面子"，大家共勉之。

evelyn317

都相信學問不一定要寫出來, 要用分數來看,

= 求學不是求分數！我是絕對認同的。

考試/測驗/默書得70分，幾好o牙！盡o左力

redapple

70 marks 已經合格了!!!
Rank lowest 10%, 同人比就會唔開心!人性!
我提小朋友和自己,人哋叻做reference, 要和自己比賽,但求有進步和付出.已經努力就問心無愧,阿甲謮書叻,你可能彈琴畫晝好.或者人際關係做事醒,各人資質不同!

ling媽

我接受到70分，even上年囡囡小一有一科6X我都無嘜大反應，我反而係睇返佢份試卷同佢講一次點解會錯，錯

ykwong

只愛band one，不愛rank one!

calton123

我昨日都發了"皮四"
個女D功課做錯左,仲遊魂,咪鬧佢law
後來先知佢掛住做今日的"哈囉畏"party 的服飾。
即時覺得自己好內疚,馬上放低功課同做服飾。
  

MonicaY

My girl is now in Primary 3.  Her academic results were good in P.1 & P.2.  She even got the first rank in the 2nd term in P.2.  Now the pressure given to me is even higher.  I always ask myself : can I bear if she can't achieve the first 3 ranking in this term?  

I know I should be more rational & relaxed, but I always believe that no demand, no improvement.  My girl is not that self-motivated, so I have to set revision schedule and do revision for her at least 2 weeks before the exams.  It's like I am having the exam.  

As a working mum, after work, I have devoted all my time to her study & take care of my little son.  Sometimes, I want to give up, but I will tell myself it is the responsibility of mum.

Just a sharing.

Monica

ultramother

I am a working mum and my son is studying P2 in ESF, an internation school.  

I do not want to say 'wind-cool' words, but it is still painful to tutoring my son to study Chinese every evenings.  The situation is more or less the same as yours.  

It is no a matter of my expectation on his Chinese  but he does not like Chinese at all.  Unless you do not mind he knows no Chinese at all,  it is bothering me and driving me mad when we study Chinese after I come home at 8pm and finish dinner at 8:50pm.

ROSANNA

很內疚! 我發覺原來我一直以來是要面子多, 看完家長們的回應, 心裏很不好受.

一直以來, 也許囡囡成績不錯, 所以要求愈來愈高, 成日口口聲聲跟她說只要盡力便可, 但其實口是心非, 自己騙自己, 考得好成績, 就很想別人問下自己個囡成績點, 考得未如(自己)理想, 就提都不想提, 你們說我不是要面子嗎??? 我想我真的要改下自己的心態.

唉! 我好吾開心呀! "只愛孩子, 不愛面子"的一句說話, 令我自己覺得自己好醜惡啊! :evil:  

MayFair

鄧靄琳個節目真係好正, 我都係最近才在港台網站節目重溫中聽回大部份節目. 佢好明家長心聲, 意見亦很有用.

小兒成績又係頭幾名, 所以我又係成日好想佢keep 住. 當我第一次聽到 "只愛孩子,不要面子" 的時候真係好似醒一醒咁樣. 再看她寫的那本書, 得到的安慰更大. 今次測驗我比起以前已有進步.  

idyhk

MayFair 寫道:
我不是因為自己做了全職才對仔仔挑剔,
如果我要番工, 我真係現已入了青山.
我想最大問題係時間. 學校用了小朋友好多時間,
但成效好.......低!!! 那不是我的小朋友一個人的問題, 係全班都係上堂唔明. 開學無耐就成班家長約見校長, 投訴老師, 今個學年遇到兩個唔好的老師, 已佔去三科. 科科都要自己再教. 時間在那裡來呢? 天跌下來嗎? 我有能力教, 都要個仔有時間丫! 我對全日制很不滿. 學校得個樣, 明明話活動教學, 但咪又係傳統到不得了. 連課外活動都是放學後, 星期六. 上學時又係坐定定聽老師講嘢, 無小組討論, 乜都無. 半日制都話有多些時間做課外活動, 現在就連食飯時間都無, 因放學後重要我再教. :evil:  :evil:

我就寧願我個大小姐返全日，佢而家返緊上午校，學習進度同全日班一樣，老師根本唔夠時間教小朋友，好多時都叫小朋友自己返屋企預習，咁即係叫家長教啦，你諗吓，中文老師一堂可以教兩課書ｏ架，我個大小姐做功課好似食咗雲吞咁，無３．４個鍾都做唔晒，仲要攞時間同佢預習和溫書，如果第日要評估或者默書，最快都要十點先可以訓，但係佢第日又要６點半就要起身返學，其實我覺得佢都幾辛苦，唯一好處就係可以見多佢幾面，所以我就覺得各有各好囉！

cmama

A few questions:

Is your kid's academic performance representing your own achievement? Especially when you're a full-time mum (that's your career?). So, that's why so nervous?


When I was on my maternity leave (before delivery), I went to a small restuarant (near some traditional primary schools), I heard lots of parents discussing their kids' home assignment and test paper. And very serious attitude. Oh! god! It's really funny!!! Seems that it's their exam and home assignment!!


What's your academic performance when you were in primary school? 100%??? I guess no.

Why are we expecting too much from such a small kid, that's very cruel to them. They deserve a happy childhood...... Try to motivate instead of discourage them..... I know that's easy to say than do. But try to discuss with their daddy, seems that they are usually less nervous and more clam on handling kids' academic issues.

You're right! My kids are still in KG. I'll wait and see!! Ha ha!

MonicaY

I agree it's alway easy to say than to act.  Good acadamic results reflects many things, not just one's pride.  I always believe if the groundwork is not good, particular in P1 to P3, it is very hard for the kids to study in higher level.  Those kids in junior level are in the brighest stage to learn & absorb, if we just use leisure method, it will waste their time.

Also I respect educational professional's opinion, but I don't know may be I was a very student when I was in primary school, secondary & even in university, I want to set a good model to my kids to study hard, at least to try the very very best, not to find any excuses.

I will show them always is 一分耕耘一分收穫.  Not just rely on luck.

Monica

502

Dear ultramother,

Cannot agree with u more!

Even with international school, Chinese/English reading/ECA can all drive me mad, especially when my kid behave a so-so attitude!


由 ultramother 於 2004-10-29 18:20:09

I am a working mum and my son is studying P2 in ESF, an internation school.

I do not want to say 'wind-cool' words, but it is still painful to tutoring my son to study Chinese every evenings. The situation is more or less the same as yours.

It is no a matter of my expectation on his Chinese but he does not like Chinese at all. Unless you do not mind he knows no Chinese at all, it is bothering me and driving me mad when we study Chinese after I come home at 8pm and finish dinner at 8:50pm.

波子

SYMAMA 寫道:
[quote]
greatgirl 寫道:
Hello,

  :-|
Yes, May Fair.
Study in full day school is very very busy. Most of our schools are very "Cute"(都唔知係學校天真，定係我低低地？), they encourage students to read 課外書, attend sport activities and learn musical instruments; but do not reduce the homework/weekly dictation/test/exam. Besides kids have one more spoken language to learn - Mandarin.  :evil: 邊有咁多時間呀！

講得好,還有網上功課和網上閱讀,做家長還辛苦過學生,唉 [/quote]
symama,

Totally agreed !  重有做 project 呢   :exclaim: